Anonymous wrote:I charge $200/hr for parenting advice. Here it is in this case:

The phone belongs to you, parent. You make the rules and impose the consequences. If a high school teacher has already called you THREE times about the same issue, it's a HUGE deal. Take the phone away. Period. You decide on the phone rules because it's your property.



-a teacher (who would make sooooooo much money if I actually got paid for parenting advice since nearly every problem I have with a student boils down to lack of parenting)

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Anonymous wrote:If the obvious solution is to take away the phone, why doesn’t the teacher just say that? “Because of this, your son is no longer allowed to have a phone in school.”
Or
“I recommend that you don’t allow your son to bring his phone to school.”
Maybe it should be obvious to the parents, but maybe it isn’t for whatever reason?
What’s the point of being coy?

Teachers are usually advised not to comment on parenting. That’s a great way for us to get complaints filed with administrators. Many of us also aren’t allowed to place limits either, like saying the child can’t bring the phone.

This really is on the parent and the child to figure out.

I’m really just trying to figure this out. It seems crazy that you can see an obvious solution to a problem at school, but you aren’t allowed to tell the parents what it is.

And this isn’t parenting. This is classroom management.

No. It’s parenting. I didn’t buy the phone for my students. I am not allowed to take their phone either. Who bought it and can take it? Their parent.

But the teacher could suggest to the parent not to have the kid bring the phone to school anymore.

Why do you need the teacher to do that? The teacher, depending on level, can have up to 150 students. Even if they have half that number, do you really expect them to parent 75 students? Plus, phones are just one of MANY things a teacher needs to manage during a class period.

The fact you need a teacher to take time out of their ridiculously busy day to tell you what you probably already know is, well, annoying.

I expect that if a professional is calling me with a problem, and they know the solution to the problem, then they will tell me the solution.

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Anonymous wrote:If the obvious solution is to take away the phone, why doesn’t the teacher just say that? “Because of this, your son is no longer allowed to have a phone in school.”
Or
“I recommend that you don’t allow your son to bring his phone to school.”
Maybe it should be obvious to the parents, but maybe it isn’t for whatever reason?
What’s the point of being coy?

Teachers are usually advised not to comment on parenting. That’s a great way for us to get complaints filed with administrators. Many of us also aren’t allowed to place limits either, like saying the child can’t bring the phone.

This really is on the parent and the child to figure out.

I’m really just trying to figure this out. It seems crazy that you can see an obvious solution to a problem at school, but you aren’t allowed to tell the parents what it is.

And this isn’t parenting. This is classroom management.

No. It’s parenting. I didn’t buy the phone for my students. I am not allowed to take their phone either. Who bought it and can take it? Their parent.

But the teacher could suggest to the parent not to have the kid bring the phone to school anymore.

Why do you need the teacher to do that? The teacher, depending on level, can have up to 150 students. Even if they have half that number, do you really expect them to parent 75 students? Plus, phones are just one of MANY things a teacher needs to manage during a class period.

The fact you need a teacher to take time out of their ridiculously busy day to tell you what you probably already know is, well, annoying.

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible your kid has ADHD that never got diagnosed?

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Anonymous wrote:If the obvious solution is to take away the phone, why doesn’t the teacher just say that? “Because of this, your son is no longer allowed to have a phone in school.”
Or
“I recommend that you don’t allow your son to bring his phone to school.”
Maybe it should be obvious to the parents, but maybe it isn’t for whatever reason?
What’s the point of being coy?

Teachers are usually advised not to comment on parenting. That’s a great way for us to get complaints filed with administrators. Many of us also aren’t allowed to place limits either, like saying the child can’t bring the phone.

This really is on the parent and the child to figure out.

I’m really just trying to figure this out. It seems crazy that you can see an obvious solution to a problem at school, but you aren’t allowed to tell the parents what it is.

And this isn’t parenting. This is classroom management.

No. It’s parenting. I didn’t buy the phone for my students. I am not allowed to take their phone either. Who bought it and can take it? Their parent.

But the teacher could suggest to the parent not to have the kid bring the phone to school anymore.

Why do you need the teacher to do that? The teacher, depending on level, can have up to 150 students. Even if they have half that number, do you really expect them to parent 75 students? Plus, phones are just one of MANY things a teacher needs to manage during a class period.

The fact you need a teacher to take time out of their ridiculously busy day to tell you what you probably already know is, well, annoying.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the obvious solution is to take away the phone, why doesn’t the teacher just say that? “Because of this, your son is no longer allowed to have a phone in school.”
Or
“I recommend that you don’t allow your son to bring his phone to school.”
Maybe it should be obvious to the parents, but maybe it isn’t for whatever reason?
What’s the point of being coy?

Teachers are usually advised not to comment on parenting. That’s a great way for us to get complaints filed with administrators. Many of us also aren’t allowed to place limits either, like saying the child can’t bring the phone.

This really is on the parent and the child to figure out.

I’m really just trying to figure this out. It seems crazy that you can see an obvious solution to a problem at school, but you aren’t allowed to tell the parents what it is.

And this isn’t parenting. This is classroom management.

No. It’s parenting. I didn’t buy the phone for my students. I am not allowed to take their phone either. Who bought it and can take it? Their parent.

But the teacher could suggest to the parent not to have the kid bring the phone to school anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:It might not be his fault, School were closed for two years, and they want kids to act like nothing happened. It might have something to do with the school closer, and he might still think he is the same grade it was when they decided to closed down for two years. The kids are acting out because they don't know how to act or if they are going to be shut down again.

Schools were closed for one year, but you’re right that there could be something’s else going on such as ADHD.

two years, almost 3.

2019-2020 March 13th school closed
2020-2021 Online school 4 days a week
2021-2022 Kids are back in school, but have to wear masks.

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Anonymous wrote:If the obvious solution is to take away the phone, why doesn’t the teacher just say that? “Because of this, your son is no longer allowed to have a phone in school.”
Or
“I recommend that you don’t allow your son to bring his phone to school.”
Maybe it should be obvious to the parents, but maybe it isn’t for whatever reason?
What’s the point of being coy?

If a parent can't figure this out on their own, that their child shouldn't bring a phone to school if they've been struggling with appropriate use if it, there is a serious problem. The fact that some parents rely on the school to parent the child is appalling.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the obvious solution is to take away the phone, why doesn’t the teacher just say that? “Because of this, your son is no longer allowed to have a phone in school.”
Or
“I recommend that you don’t allow your son to bring his phone to school.”
Maybe it should be obvious to the parents, but maybe it isn’t for whatever reason?
What’s the point of being coy?

Teachers are usually advised not to comment on parenting. That’s a great way for us to get complaints filed with administrators. Many of us also aren’t allowed to place limits either, like saying the child can’t bring the phone.

This really is on the parent and the child to figure out.

I’m really just trying to figure this out. It seems crazy that you can see an obvious solution to a problem at school, but you aren’t allowed to tell the parents what it is.

And this isn’t parenting. This is classroom management.

No. It’s parenting. I didn’t buy the phone for my students. I am not allowed to take their phone either. Who bought it and can take it? Their parent.

Anonymous wrote:If the obvious solution is to take away the phone, why doesn’t the teacher just say that? “Because of this, your son is no longer allowed to have a phone in school.”
Or
“I recommend that you don’t allow your son to bring his phone to school.”
Maybe it should be obvious to the parents, but maybe it isn’t for whatever reason?
What’s the point of being coy?

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Anonymous wrote:I am baffled by the parents who think the teacher should come up with an idea to redirect their child. This is lazy-a$$ parenting. In an earlier post, I recommended you spend a few days in school with your child. If they act like a 3 year old, treat them that way.

Pp here asking for solutions. Are you an educator who has honestly seen this work?
It’s been my experience that the school will not allow me to do this.
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Pretty sure the teacher would look the other way in this case and support OP if OP actually wanted to be a parent and spend some time observing her kid’s behavior. I’m sure the teacher has a hundred other things she’d rather do than call OP about her obnoxious kid 3 times.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the obvious solution is to take away the phone, why doesn’t the teacher just say that? “Because of this, your son is no longer allowed to have a phone in school.”
Or
“I recommend that you don’t allow your son to bring his phone to school.”
Maybe it should be obvious to the parents, but maybe it isn’t for whatever reason?
What’s the point of being coy?

Teachers are usually advised not to comment on parenting. That’s a great way for us to get complaints filed with administrators. Many of us also aren’t allowed to place limits either, like saying the child can’t bring the phone.

This really is on the parent and the child to figure out.

I’m really just trying to figure this out. It seems crazy that you can see an obvious solution to a problem at school, but you aren’t allowed to tell the parents what it is.

And this isn’t parenting. This is classroom management.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the obvious solution is to take away the phone, why doesn’t the teacher just say that? “Because of this, your son is no longer allowed to have a phone in school.”
Or
“I recommend that you don’t allow your son to bring his phone to school.”
Maybe it should be obvious to the parents, but maybe it isn’t for whatever reason?
What’s the point of being coy?

Teachers are usually advised not to comment on parenting. That’s a great way for us to get complaints filed with administrators. Many of us also aren’t allowed to place limits either, like saying the child can’t bring the phone.

This really is on the parent and the child to figure out.

I’m really just trying to figure this out. It seems crazy that you can see an obvious solution to a problem at school, but you aren’t allowed to tell the parents what it is.

And this isn’t parenting. This is classroom management.

This has been covered on the thread already. At many schools:

We can’t confiscate phones. If they get lost or stolen, we are held accountable. Therefore, the administration doesn’t want that liability for us or for them.

We can’t regulate usage. The most I can do is continuously say, “put it away.” If the student doesn’t put it away, all I can do is ask again. So I’m going to stop asking because I have other students in the room who deserve my time and attention.

It’s time for students and parents to be held responsible. My own children know they face major consequences if I find out they are using their phones in school. I check. I found out my high schooler was, so I took it. Hasn’t happened twice. I don’t expect my kids’ teachers to babysit their phones. That’s not their job, and frankly, they are too busy doing ten thousand other things so they shouldn’t have to worry about my kid’s phone.