Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 23:00     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is the std


Different poster. Why does it matter?


HPV could be from >12 years ago


This. Or even 20. HPV is not an indicator of cheating. It can be dormant even for a decade or more


He could be entirely innocent.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 22:29     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.


Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.


Do you know how you got it? Please share more as this may save OPs marriage.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 22:15     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is the std


Different poster. Why does it matter?


HPV could be from >12 years ago


This. Or even 20. HPV is not an indicator of cheating. It can be dormant even for a decade or more
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 22:01     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:I would first consult with a divorce attorney and set everything up before dropping the bomb. Put yourself in the best position possible.


This !!!

Say nothing to him about this. Play nice. Record everything.

And do exactly what your attorney tells you to do.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:57     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.


Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:53     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have the time to read all the pages…will share that I tested positive for hpv during pregnancy. It was the first time ever testing positive and I’d been pretty regular in getting std checks over the years. I was initially upset until my doc shared that it was as common to pop up then. I never had any form of outbreak or symptoms. I have no idea if my partner brought it to our marriage or I did. We were both late 30s when we met.

If it’s something else minus maybe herpes which can also lay dormant I’d be concerned. I’d see my doc again and get a clearer picture. Personally I’d also speak to my partner about. Even if i suspected cheating. I’d tell them my symptoms and that I’d gotten tested. Ask them if they’d noticed anything with their body. I prefer to be upfront with these things.

Already covered and not the OPs diagnosis.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:53     Subject: Test results came back positive
Post what state you are in and we’ll give you a divorce attorney recommendation. Call that person and make a plan. You need someone to help guide you through this. Also get a therapist.

Sorry, OP.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:50     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is the std


Different poster. Why does it matter?


NP here,

There are STD's that can be dormant for long periods of time, and others where symptoms show up immediately. There are also STD's that can only be passed through sex, and others that can be transmitted other ways. So, knowing whether this STD means that he definitely had an affair, or that he might have had an affair, would make a difference in OP's response.


What other ways are SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED diseases transmitted, oh wise poster? Please, do share this knowledge you have that physicians don't have.

Is it your theorizing that OP runs her naked wet vagina along the inside of urinals/toilets every chance she gets? Or that she uses dirty towels at the gym to wipe her vagina dry?


If your partner uses a dirty/moldy towel and has sex with you the bacteria from the towel ends up in you and you get an STI.


Ridiculous way to try to shame and blame the victim.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:48     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:So what does dh say op?


Do not mention this to dh yet. You need more info and to have a plan before you utter a word.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:47     Subject: Test results came back positive
I don’t have the time to read all the pages…will share that I tested positive for hpv during pregnancy. It was the first time ever testing positive and I’d been pretty regular in getting std checks over the years. I was initially upset until my doc shared that it was as common to pop up then. I never had any form of outbreak or symptoms. I have no idea if my partner brought it to our marriage or I did. We were both late 30s when we met.

If it’s something else minus maybe herpes which can also lay dormant I’d be concerned. I’d see my doc again and get a clearer picture. Personally I’d also speak to my partner about. Even if i suspected cheating. I’d tell them my symptoms and that I’d gotten tested. Ask them if they’d noticed anything with their body. I prefer to be upfront with these things.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:47     Subject: Re:Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:The std test might show up on medical insurance records. He might already know that you know.


And what’s the point here?
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:45     Subject: Test results came back positive
What test?
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:45     Subject: Re:Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:Poster 18:14 above is very wise and kind.

I hope that her healthy advice and example brings you some comfort at this difficult time.


I agree. Hugs OP.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:45     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.


Is it possible to spread through public toilets or pools?

lol, when I was a teenager, my friend got pubic crabs from her boyfriend. He told her he got them at the beach. lol, she believed him until us girls educated her.


You can get crabs from a couch.


The beach? Crabs from the beach. Poor thing.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2024 21:41     Subject: Re:Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:Honestly raising a child in this area is so expensive and time consuming and the amount of men available that you'd want around you with a 5 year old are so small. Some woman was just killed meeting up with someone on OLD this week. I would just stay married and not sleep with him anymore. Raise your daughter and just have a platonic relationship. There doesn't seem to be a reason to divorce other than this idea that you could remarry and it's just not worth it with a kid that young. When they are driving age maybe.


Idiotic and such a limited answer. OP don’t listen to this nonsense. She’s supposed to put her life on mute and live dormant til her child is older. Just the worst suggestion.