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So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

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I can buy that all teens aren't having sex, but I can't buy that your male teen is having these conversations with you. You seem very enmeshed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

No one decides to have sex because of condom availability, if that’s what you’re trying to say. They have sex because they want to, and if condoms are readily available, they have safer sex. That mom is doing nothing wrong by having them on offer.

actually, they do. you send the message to you kids that is ok for your them to have sex. presumably this is the message you want to send. but don't pretend boxes of condoms have no implications.

Teens who receive straightforward sex ed and have access to BC are less likely to be sexually active than teens who have abstinence focused sex ed and lack access to BC.

Straightforward sex ed is fine

and condoms are widely available at every single grocery store, drug store, gas station, etc.

But that doesn’t mean you buy your kid condoms—

which unlike hormonal BC are only used while having sex/being sexually active.

But no, sorry. Not going to make it easy for them. If they wanna have sex like an adult they can buy their own condoms like an adult and find somewhere other than their parent’s house—like an adult.

Otherwise they risk ruining their lives by becoming a teen parent—I will NOT be taking care of a grandchild birthed by my teenage child. And if I caught my kid going behind my back to have sex you can be sure all privileges (car, car insurance, cell phone, etc) will be lost as well. You wanna do adult things? Okay, well that doesn’t mean just the fun stuff, be prepared to pay for all the stuff I’m not legally required to pay for (i.e. you will be provided shelter and food).

This is not hard, and you can still have a wonderful parent-child relationship (I do with my parents who took the same approach with sexual activity and dating in high school).

It’s simply called: being willing to be a parent instead of trying to be your teenager’s bff.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my DS is dating and hasn't had sex. "Having a baby would derail all my plans, Mom."

Teens lie. Surprise, surprise.

He cares way more about attending his chosen college (which prohibits children) vs. having sex. Sorry yours don't have goals.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my DS is dating and hasn't had sex. "Having a baby would derail all my plans, Mom."

Teens lie. Surprise, surprise.

So you know PP's son better than she knows her own child? And this knowledge is entirely based on the fact that YOUR DAUGHTER is having sex.

It will apparently surprise you to learn that many of us were also teens once. So we remember what we were doing and what our friends were doing. As it happens, I didn't have sex and didn't lie about it. I had plenty of friends who had no sex, either. A lot of teens today (likely more) are not having sex and they are not lying about it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, my DS is dating and hasn't had sex. "Having a baby would derail all my plans, Mom."

Teens lie. Surprise, surprise.

So you know PP's son better than she knows her own child? And this knowledge is entirely based on the fact that YOUR DAUGHTER is having sex.

It will apparently surprise you to learn that many of us were also teens once. So we remember what we were doing and what our friends were doing. As it happens, I didn't have sex and didn't lie about it. I had plenty of friends who had no sex, either. A lot of teens today (likely more) are not having sex and they are not lying about it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, my DS is dating and hasn't had sex. "Having a baby would derail all my plans, Mom."

Teens lie. Surprise, surprise.

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

No one decides to have sex because of condom availability, if that’s what you’re trying to say. They have sex because they want to, and if condoms are readily available, they have safer sex. That mom is doing nothing wrong by having them on offer.

actually, they do. you send the message to you kids that is ok for your them to have sex. presumably this is the message you want to send. but don't pretend boxes of condoms have no implications.

Teens who receive straightforward sex ed and have access to BC are less likely to be sexually active than teens who have abstinence focused sex ed and lack access to BC.

Straightforward sex ed is fine

and condoms are widely available at every single grocery store, drug store, gas station, etc.

But that doesn’t mean you buy your kid condoms—

which unlike hormonal BC are only used while having sex/being sexually active.

But no, sorry. Not going to make it easy for them. If they wanna have sex like an adult they can buy their own condoms like an adult and find somewhere other than their parent’s house—like an adult.

Otherwise they risk ruining their lives by becoming a teen parent—I will NOT be taking care of a grandchild birthed by my teenage child. And if I caught my kid going behind my back to have sex you can be sure all privileges (car, car insurance, cell phone, etc) will be lost as well. You wanna do adult things? Okay, well that doesn’t mean just the fun stuff, be prepared to pay for all the stuff I’m not legally required to pay for (i.e. you will be provided shelter and food).

This is not hard, and you can still have a wonderful parent-child relationship (I do with my parents who took the same approach with sexual activity and dating in high school).

It’s simply called: being willing to be a parent instead of trying to be your teenager’s bff.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

No one decides to have sex because of condom availability, if that’s what you’re trying to say. They have sex because they want to, and if condoms are readily available, they have safer sex. That mom is doing nothing wrong by having them on offer.

actually, they do. you send the message to you kids that is ok for your them to have sex. presumably this is the message you want to send. but don't pretend boxes of condoms have no implications.

Teens who receive straightforward sex ed and have access to BC are less likely to be sexually active than teens who have abstinence focused sex ed and lack access to BC.

Straightforward sex ed is fine

and condoms are widely available at every single grocery store, drug store, gas station, etc.

But that doesn’t mean you buy your kid condoms—

which unlike hormonal BC are only used while having sex/being sexually active.

But no, sorry. Not going to make it easy for them. If they wanna have sex like an adult they can buy their own condoms like an adult and find somewhere other than their parent’s house—like an adult.

Otherwise they risk ruining their lives by becoming a teen parent—I will NOT be taking care of a grandchild birthed by my teenage child. And if I caught my kid going behind my back to have sex you can be sure all privileges (car, car insurance, cell phone, etc) will be lost as well. You wanna do adult things? Okay, well that doesn’t mean just the fun stuff, be prepared to pay for all the stuff I’m not legally required to pay for (i.e. you will be provided shelter and food).

This is not hard, and you can still have a wonderful parent-child relationship (I do with my parents who took the same approach with sexual activity and dating in high school).

It’s simply called: being willing to be a parent instead of trying to be your teenager’s bff.