Anonymous wrote:I would consider us to be wealthy (early 40s, about $10M net worth) and we're probably somewhere in the middle. I think you have to define "flaunt".

We present as UMC for sure - fit, nice clothes and accessories, nice skin/hair/teeth, hobbies like golf and tennis. We go on very nice vacations and often stay in really nice accommodations. But we're not ones to post social media photos of ourselves in first class or staying at the Four Seasons. So in that way, no I don't think we're flashy. Plus, we know people worth triple-digit-million dollars and fly private, so we're well aware of broader context.

But we do drive nice luxury cars and I have nice jewelry and bags. So I'm sure some people would see me getting out of my (white) luxury SUV, wearing a Moncler jacket, and wearing a Love bracelet and think I'm the height of flash.

Anonymous wrote:We are fairly wealthy, retired NW 20m. We try to maintain a low profile but people know. We feel guilty so many family and friends who are struggling to keep going. My husband says it’s “unsportsmanlike” to brag, gloat, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:It is interesting how so far everyone seems to feel it's a virtue to live quietly versus flashily. Seems that many people stated pridefully some version of "most people would have no idea how rich we are."

Why is that, I wonder? Because everybody WANTS to be rich, right? So when you get there, why do you then want to appear as though you're not?

Or maybe...you just want people to admire that you are rich, but also modest and loveable at the same time. Worthy of envy, but not hatred.

Not snarking, I'm just as guilty. Just interested in what people think about it.

Our family and friends circle is distinctly middle class/upper middle class. We do not want to flaunt anything, or make anyone uncomfortable. We very much value our friendships with people that knew us when we had a whole 10K in a CD.

I also think it's a function of how you're used to living. Since we started with nothing, we're used to living on very little. We aren't, but we also don't care about country clubs or buying whatever the latest fashion is, or fancy cars. When I think back to then versus now, the biggest difference is that I don't worry about balancing the checkbook, making sure that we have what we need in an account, because we *always* do, and then some. If we see something we like, we buy it. We definitely do things that make our lives easier, like outsourcing landscaping and house cleaning. If we take trips abroad, we travel business, not economy. We don't stay at the most expensive hotels, but we also don't stay at the Holiday Inn. We are fairly strict with DD because we don't want her taking our resources for granted, but we also don't make her wait until Christmas or birthday if she say needs a new computer. I feel like things have changed a bit, but not substantially.

You are mc- not weathy.

That's exactly my point. That is how we present. Our net worth is upwards of 35M, so wealthy by anyone's standards.

That is really great but there are people around dropping 15-25 million on home projects and buying 2nd and 3rd properties in high end places and looking to start new ones there. Buddy of mine recently cashed a post tax check for $78 million bucks on his way out of one of the partnerships he was involved in. Another has a private business that was reported to be worth tens of billions.

Folks with planes, 15 million dollar houses in Nantucket, 30 million dollar NYC town houses and ridiculously large and nice places here.

DC finally has a real set of entrepreneurs and all the numbers are crazy. Makes 35 million look different to me now.

We won't ever be billionaires, but when we exit the business we started, we will likely be in the 100s of millions range. I still don't expect any changes to our lifestyle. We're just not what you think of when you think of people with high net worth.

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Anonymous wrote:It is interesting how so far everyone seems to feel it's a virtue to live quietly versus flashily. Seems that many people stated pridefully some version of "most people would have no idea how rich we are."

Why is that, I wonder? Because everybody WANTS to be rich, right? So when you get there, why do you then want to appear as though you're not?

Or maybe...you just want people to admire that you are rich, but also modest and loveable at the same time. Worthy of envy, but not hatred.

Not snarking, I'm just as guilty. Just interested in what people think about it.

Our family and friends circle is distinctly middle class/upper middle class. We do not want to flaunt anything, or make anyone uncomfortable. We very much value our friendships with people that knew us when we had a whole 10K in a CD.

I also think it's a function of how you're used to living. Since we started with nothing, we're used to living on very little. We aren't, but we also don't care about country clubs or buying whatever the latest fashion is, or fancy cars. When I think back to then versus now, the biggest difference is that I don't worry about balancing the checkbook, making sure that we have what we need in an account, because we *always* do, and then some. If we see something we like, we buy it. We definitely do things that make our lives easier, like outsourcing landscaping and house cleaning. If we take trips abroad, we travel business, not economy. We don't stay at the most expensive hotels, but we also don't stay at the Holiday Inn. We are fairly strict with DD because we don't want her taking our resources for granted, but we also don't make her wait until Christmas or birthday if she say needs a new computer. I feel like things have changed a bit, but not substantially.

You are mc- not weathy.

That's exactly my point. That is how we present. Our net worth is upwards of 35M, so wealthy by anyone's standards.

That is really great but there are people around dropping 15-25 million on home projects and buying 2nd and 3rd properties in high end places and looking to start new ones there. Buddy of mine recently cashed a post tax check for $78 million bucks on his way out of one of the partnerships he was involved in. Another has a private business that was reported to be worth tens of billions.

Folks with planes, 15 million dollar houses in Nantucket, 30 million dollar NYC town houses and ridiculously large and nice places here.

DC finally has a real set of entrepreneurs and all the numbers are crazy. Makes 35 million look different to me now.

Anonymous wrote:Ya'll know to prevent breakins and robberies at your home you should not be posting while you are on vacations?

I let DH post one picture of us or me on vacation and usually it is pretty innocuous. We don't post any pictures of 5 star accommodations. Generally it will be an outdoor nature shot of me or both of us.

All of my donations are anonymous. These total up to 7 figures.

Anonymous wrote:Posting anything on social media is tacky, sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:It is interesting how so far everyone seems to feel it's a virtue to live quietly versus flashily. Seems that many people stated pridefully some version of "most people would have no idea how rich we are."

Why is that, I wonder? Because everybody WANTS to be rich, right? So when you get there, why do you then want to appear as though you're not?

Or maybe...you just want people to admire that you are rich, but also modest and loveable at the same time. Worthy of envy, but not hatred.

Not snarking, I'm just as guilty. Just interested in what people think about it.

Our family and friends circle is distinctly middle class/upper middle class. We do not want to flaunt anything, or make anyone uncomfortable. We very much value our friendships with people that knew us when we had a whole 10K in a CD.

I also think it's a function of how you're used to living. Since we started with nothing, we're used to living on very little. We aren't, but we also don't care about country clubs or buying whatever the latest fashion is, or fancy cars. When I think back to then versus now, the biggest difference is that I don't worry about balancing the checkbook, making sure that we have what we need in an account, because we *always* do, and then some. If we see something we like, we buy it. We definitely do things that make our lives easier, like outsourcing landscaping and house cleaning. If we take trips abroad, we travel business, not economy. We don't stay at the most expensive hotels, but we also don't stay at the Holiday Inn. We are fairly strict with DD because we don't want her taking our resources for granted, but we also don't make her wait until Christmas or birthday if she say needs a new computer. I feel like things have changed a bit, but not substantially.

You are mc- not weathy.

That's exactly my point. That is how we present. Our net worth is upwards of 35M, so wealthy by anyone's standards.

That is really great but there are people around dropping 15-25 million on home projects and buying 2nd and 3rd properties in high end places and looking to start new ones there. Buddy of mine recently cashed a post tax check for $78 million bucks on his way out of one of the partnerships he was involved in. Another has a private business that was reported to be worth tens of billions.

Folks with planes, 15 million dollar houses in Nantucket, 30 million dollar NYC town houses and ridiculously large and nice places here.

DC finally has a real set of entrepreneurs and all the numbers are crazy. Makes 35 million look different to me now.

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Anonymous wrote:It is interesting how so far everyone seems to feel it's a virtue to live quietly versus flashily. Seems that many people stated pridefully some version of "most people would have no idea how rich we are."

Why is that, I wonder? Because everybody WANTS to be rich, right? So when you get there, why do you then want to appear as though you're not?

Or maybe...you just want people to admire that you are rich, but also modest and loveable at the same time. Worthy of envy, but not hatred.

Not snarking, I'm just as guilty. Just interested in what people think about it.

Our family and friends circle is distinctly middle class/upper middle class. We do not want to flaunt anything, or make anyone uncomfortable. We very much value our friendships with people that knew us when we had a whole 10K in a CD.

I also think it's a function of how you're used to living. Since we started with nothing, we're used to living on very little. We aren't, but we also don't care about country clubs or buying whatever the latest fashion is, or fancy cars. When I think back to then versus now, the biggest difference is that I don't worry about balancing the checkbook, making sure that we have what we need in an account, because we *always* do, and then some. If we see something we like, we buy it. We definitely do things that make our lives easier, like outsourcing landscaping and house cleaning. If we take trips abroad, we travel business, not economy. We don't stay at the most expensive hotels, but we also don't stay at the Holiday Inn. We are fairly strict with DD because we don't want her taking our resources for granted, but we also don't make her wait until Christmas or birthday if she say needs a new computer. I feel like things have changed a bit, but not substantially.

You are mc- not weathy.

That's exactly my point. That is how we present. Our net worth is upwards of 35M, so wealthy by anyone's standards.