Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 23:26     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Anonymous wrote:Inspired by a quote by Nicole Kosman’s character from the Expats. What do you truly think about women who just want to stay home, tend to the family and are happiest doing this if they can afford to?


I think most women, very secure in their finances and marriage, would love to not work. Work is . . . work. It sucks. I'd love to not work and everything be paid for me. I totally understand moms who don't work. Except the few who pretend not working is same as working. No, it's not. Either you are employed, or unemployed.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 23:19     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'll be honest since you requested it OP.

I have a low opinion of parents who do not even want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers. I think prioritizing material things and one's own career and self-fulfillment is selfish and indicates a lack of understanding of how important it is for young children to spend most of their time with someone who loves them completely and unconditionally.

A little off of your topic but completely relevant.


Your opinion clearly presumes that the parent has a choice not to work. What about the mother who works not because she prioritizes material things but because she needs to earn money to put food on the table and a roof over the kid's head? Is she selfish?

Must be difficult for you to understand the world outside of your bubble.


I'm not talking about parents who have no choice financially. I'm talking about parents who don't want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers.

We did that as a family with very little extra money, prioritizing my children over everything else.


It really just robbed your kids of many experiences.


And so did your choice, just different experiences, I guess we value those experiences differently.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:55     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Anonymous wrote:I think it’s great and their kids will probably benefit from it.


+1. I don’t “think” anything. I have a full life and don’t spend my days pondering the choices of other moms. I DGAF.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:45     Subject: Re:Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
I only think of them when I see the many, many complaints on social media (being a SAHM is the hardest job, wahh wahhh look at meeeeee) or someone makes a snotty remark to me. Like all I said was, I'm sorry I'm not available to meet for coffee at 10 am Tuesday because I will be working and suddenly heather is over here blathering about how you can NeVEr MaKE uP THe TIme. Yeah you sound so secure!
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:44     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'll be honest since you requested it OP.

I have a low opinion of parents who do not even want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers. I think prioritizing material things and one's own career and self-fulfillment is selfish and indicates a lack of understanding of how important it is for young children to spend most of their time with someone who loves them completely and unconditionally.

A little off of your topic but completely relevant.


It is off topic but since you brought it up.

I think people who are the only caretaker for their children when they are infants and toddlers are doing their children a great disservice and if their H works more than 40 hours a week to do so also deny their children a full relationship with their own father.


What?


What don’t u understand?
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:41     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'll be honest since you requested it OP.

I have a low opinion of parents who do not even want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers. I think prioritizing material things and one's own career and self-fulfillment is selfish and indicates a lack of understanding of how important it is for young children to spend most of their time with someone who loves them completely and unconditionally.

A little off of your topic but completely relevant.


Your opinion clearly presumes that the parent has a choice not to work. What about the mother who works not because she prioritizes material things but because she needs to earn money to put food on the table and a roof over the kid's head? Is she selfish?

Must be difficult for you to understand the world outside of your bubble.


I'm not talking about parents who have no choice financially. I'm talking about parents who don't want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers.

We did that as a family with very little extra money, prioritizing my children over everything else.


It really just robbed your kids of many experiences.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:41     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Glad they have that option.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:39     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'll be honest since you requested it OP.

I have a low opinion of parents who do not even want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers. I think prioritizing material things and one's own career and self-fulfillment is selfish and indicates a lack of understanding of how important it is for young children to spend most of their time with someone who loves them completely and unconditionally.

A little off of your topic but completely relevant.


Your opinion clearly presumes that the parent has a choice not to work. What about the mother who works not because she prioritizes material things but because she needs to earn money to put food on the table and a roof over the kid's head? Is she selfish?

Must be difficult for you to understand the world outside of your bubble.


I'm not talking about parents who have no choice financially. I'm talking about parents who don't want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers.

We did that as a family with very little extra money, prioritizing my children over everything else.


I agree, at least in part. Staying home full time isn’t for everyone but it’s weird when wealthy couples with choices choose to spend minimal time with their children. (Particularly childcare situations that are more than full time.)
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:37     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Anonymous wrote:Inspired by a quote by Nicole Kosman’s character from the Expats. What do you truly think about women who just want to stay home, tend to the family and are happiest doing this if they can afford to?


Indo not give them a single thought because I believe in their right to choose what is best for them. I do, however, have thoughts about women who love to start wars between SAH and WOHM because their own lives are pathetic.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:35     Subject: Re:Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Anonymous wrote:I'll be honest. I think LESS of women who choose to simply be wives and mothers. You can imagine what I think about the patriarchy but I would get kicked off if I typed it here.


Why?

Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:34     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'll be honest since you requested it OP.

I have a low opinion of parents who do not even want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers. I think prioritizing material things and one's own career and self-fulfillment is selfish and indicates a lack of understanding of how important it is for young children to spend most of their time with someone who loves them completely and unconditionally.

A little off of your topic but completely relevant.


Your opinion clearly presumes that the parent has a choice not to work. What about the mother who works not because she prioritizes material things but because she needs to earn money to put food on the table and a roof over the kid's head? Is she selfish?

Must be difficult for you to understand the world outside of your bubble.


I'm not talking about parents who have no choice financially. I'm talking about parents who don't want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers.

We did that as a family with very little extra money, prioritizing my children over everything else.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:33     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
Do the people judging women have a problem with men who stay home?
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:32     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
I think it’s great. If they’re happy, that’s all that counts. I love being a wife and mother. My family means everything to me. They are my world. But I also went back to work and that makes me happy also.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:32     Subject: Re:Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
I'll be honest. I think LESS of women who choose to simply be wives and mothers. You can imagine what I think about the patriarchy but I would get kicked off if I typed it here.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2024 22:31     Subject: Be honest- what do you think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers?
It's the being 'content' part I would love to have. I'm really close to getting there finally.
I didn't enjoy being at home long term, but career is also not my thing.