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Anonymous wrote:Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)! Any advise for me?

Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry. I think you should talk to her about the consequences and risks involved to her health and her body, and also the irreparable potential damage to her reputation.

The sexism is oozing in this thread. The fact that you are all woman is disgusting.

Teen girls don’t get reputations from having sex with the same guy at 17. Just like the guy doesn’t.

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Anonymous wrote:Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)! Any advise for me?

Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry. I think you should talk to her about the consequences and risks involved to her health and her body, and also the irreparable potential damage to her reputation.

Anonymous wrote:Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)! Any advise for me?

Anonymous wrote:I would be so disgusted with my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)! Any advise for me?

Have not read replies but hopefully the need to get your daughter seen by good gynecologist to check for STDs and get IUD inserted has been mentioned.

I would also advise DD to always use condoms to protect against STDs on top of getting an IUD.

Hormonal IUDs are the number one recommendation of birth control by American pediatric association as teens often forget to take daily oral tablets.

Once health and safety needs are addressed, I would try to talk to DD about the dangers of casual sex for devaluing yourself.

What kind of sexist BS is this? Does anyone talk to teen boys about devaluing themselves? It’s 2023 and if teen girls choose to have sex with a guy and doesn’t want a serious commitment, that is OK. Can we stop shaming girls and touting guys for enjoying sex?

I mean she is off to college in 6 months. Did you all only have sex in committed relationships then? Give me a break.

NP here. None of PP’s advice is sexist. And of course I would give my sons the same advice. In fact, if the couple gets pregnant, the son has NO say in whether the child is born or not, and is financially responsible and tied to the girl for life if she gets pregnant and chooses to have the baby.

And I didn’t have sex until my mid 20s, despite having a boyfriend (now DH) when younger. There are tons of good reasons to only have sex in a committed relationship, regardless of age— risk of STDs, pregnancy risk, emotional/psychological, etc. Not everyone has embraced the “free love” mantra.

I would literally cry if I only had sex with one person.

But I love the holier than thou woman here making it seem like that is normal. It so is not.

Exactly. Quit the crap already. Sex is normal and should be enjoyed within the safe parameters

How are you defining “safe”? Is hookup culture safe? Birth control fails, condoms break, and being non-exclusive means you are exposed to any diseases of any of your partner’s other partners. People keep trying to decouple casual sex from any potential consequences, but that’s impossible.

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Anonymous wrote:Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)! Any advise for me?

Have not read replies but hopefully the need to get your daughter seen by good gynecologist to check for STDs and get IUD inserted has been mentioned.

I would also advise DD to always use condoms to protect against STDs on top of getting an IUD.

Hormonal IUDs are the number one recommendation of birth control by American pediatric association as teens often forget to take daily oral tablets.

Once health and safety needs are addressed, I would try to talk to DD about the dangers of casual sex for devaluing yourself.

What kind of sexist BS is this? Does anyone talk to teen boys about devaluing themselves? It’s 2023 and if teen girls choose to have sex with a guy and doesn’t want a serious commitment, that is OK. Can we stop shaming girls and touting guys for enjoying sex?

I mean she is off to college in 6 months. Did you all only have sex in committed relationships then? Give me a break.

NP here. None of PP’s advice is sexist. And of course I would give my sons the same advice. In fact, if the couple gets pregnant, the son has NO say in whether the child is born or not, and is financially responsible and tied to the girl for life if she gets pregnant and chooses to have the baby.

And I didn’t have sex until my mid 20s, despite having a boyfriend (now DH) when younger. There are tons of good reasons to only have sex in a committed relationship, regardless of age— risk of STDs, pregnancy risk, emotional/psychological, etc. Not everyone has embraced the “free love” mantra.

I would literally cry if I only had sex with one person.

But I love the holier than thou woman here making it seem like that is normal. It so is not.

Exactly. Quit the crap already. Sex is normal and should be enjoyed within the safe parameters

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Anonymous wrote:Is it true that “most” 17 year olds are having sex? So interesting - I had a few boyfriends in HS but just really wasn’t ready until college (freshman year). No judgment - I would be fine with my kids being sexually active at 17 but I guess I didn’t realize that the *majority* of HS junior and seniors are sexually active.

They aren’t. The most recent CDC study shows only 30% of teens 13-17 had sex: https://nccd.cdc.gov/Youthonline/App/Results.aspx?TT=A&OUT=0&SID=HS&QID=QQ&LID=XX&YID=2021&LID2=&YID2=&COL=S&ROW1=N&ROW2=N&HT=QQ&LCT=LL&FS=S1&FR=R1&FG=G1&FA=A1&FI=I1&FP=P1&FSL=S1&FRL=R1&FGL=G1&FAL=A1&FIL=I1&FPL=P1&PV=&TST=False&C1=&C2=&QP=G&DP=1&VA=CI&CS=Y&SYID=&EYID=&SC=DEFAULT&SO=ASC

As a parent I’m much more concerned about the use of contraception than the intercourse stats here.

(FWIW, I didn’t have sex until I was 20)

Yep. 70% are not having it so OP’s daughter is in a clear minority.

70% of teens 13-17 aren’t having sex. But if you looked at just 17 year olds, I guarantee the sexually active percentage is much higher than 30%. MUCH HIGHER Big difference between an 8th grader and a 12th grader.

Disagree. I know so many 17 year olds who are not having sex. It's frankly odd. Kids aren't even socializing much with the opposite sex these days, let alone having sex. Almost no one is dating in the traditional sense. It's all social media.

And we wonder why teen mental health issues and suicide are at an all time high?

I rather my kid be social, have friendships, develop relationships, and have safe sex than sit at home staring at social media and porn on the screen for hours on end.

We also didn’t have nudes, videos, mutual FaceTime masturbation groups, sex chat rooms, etc…. All of which are unhealthy and disturbing.

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Anonymous wrote:Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)! Any advise for me?

Have not read replies but hopefully the need to get your daughter seen by good gynecologist to check for STDs and get IUD inserted has been mentioned.

I would also advise DD to always use condoms to protect against STDs on top of getting an IUD.

Hormonal IUDs are the number one recommendation of birth control by American pediatric association as teens often forget to take daily oral tablets.

Once health and safety needs are addressed, I would try to talk to DD about the dangers of casual sex for devaluing yourself.

What kind of sexist BS is this? Does anyone talk to teen boys about devaluing themselves? It’s 2023 and if teen girls choose to have sex with a guy and doesn’t want a serious commitment, that is OK. Can we stop shaming girls and touting guys for enjoying sex?

I mean she is off to college in 6 months. Did you all only have sex in committed relationships then? Give me a break.

NP here. None of PP’s advice is sexist. And of course I would give my sons the same advice. In fact, if the couple gets pregnant, the son has NO say in whether the child is born or not, and is financially responsible and tied to the girl for life if she gets pregnant and chooses to have the baby.

And I didn’t have sex until my mid 20s, despite having a boyfriend (now DH) when younger. There are tons of good reasons to only have sex in a committed relationship, regardless of age— risk of STDs, pregnancy risk, emotional/psychological, etc. Not everyone has embraced the “free love” mantra.

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Anonymous wrote:Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)! Any advise for me?

Have not read replies but hopefully the need to get your daughter seen by good gynecologist to check for STDs and get IUD inserted has been mentioned.

I would also advise DD to always use condoms to protect against STDs on top of getting an IUD.

Hormonal IUDs are the number one recommendation of birth control by American pediatric association as teens often forget to take daily oral tablets.

Once health and safety needs are addressed, I would try to talk to DD about the dangers of casual sex for devaluing yourself.

What kind of sexist BS is this? Does anyone talk to teen boys about devaluing themselves? It’s 2023 and if teen girls choose to have sex with a guy and doesn’t want a serious commitment, that is OK. Can we stop shaming girls and touting guys for enjoying sex?

I mean she is off to college in 6 months. Did you all only have sex in committed relationships then? Give me a break.

NP here. None of PP’s advice is sexist. And of course I would give my sons the same advice. In fact, if the couple gets pregnant, the son has NO say in whether the child is born or not, and is financially responsible and tied to the girl for life if she gets pregnant and chooses to have the baby.

And I didn’t have sex until my mid 20s, despite having a boyfriend (now DH) when younger. There are tons of good reasons to only have sex in a committed relationship, regardless of age— risk of STDs, pregnancy risk, emotional/psychological, etc. Not everyone has embraced the “free love” mantra.

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Anonymous wrote:Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)! Any advise for me?

Have not read replies but hopefully the need to get your daughter seen by good gynecologist to check for STDs and get IUD inserted has been mentioned.

I would also advise DD to always use condoms to protect against STDs on top of getting an IUD.

Hormonal IUDs are the number one recommendation of birth control by American pediatric association as teens often forget to take daily oral tablets.

Once health and safety needs are addressed, I would try to talk to DD about the dangers of casual sex for devaluing yourself.

What kind of sexist BS is this? Does anyone talk to teen boys about devaluing themselves? It’s 2023 and if teen girls choose to have sex with a guy and doesn’t want a serious commitment, that is OK. Can we stop shaming girls and touting guys for enjoying sex?

I mean she is off to college in 6 months. Did you all only have sex in committed relationships then? Give me a break.

NP here. None of PP’s advice is sexist. And of course I would give my sons the same advice. In fact, if the couple gets pregnant, the son has NO say in whether the child is born or not, and is financially responsible and tied to the girl for life if she gets pregnant and chooses to have the baby.

And I didn’t have sex until my mid 20s, despite having a boyfriend (now DH) when younger. There are tons of good reasons to only have sex in a committed relationship, regardless of age— risk of STDs, pregnancy risk, emotional/psychological, etc. Not everyone has embraced the “free love” mantra.

I would literally cry if I only had sex with one person.

But I love the holier than thou woman here making it seem like that is normal. It so is not.

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Anonymous wrote:Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)! Any advise for me?

Have not read replies but hopefully the need to get your daughter seen by good gynecologist to check for STDs and get IUD inserted has been mentioned.

I would also advise DD to always use condoms to protect against STDs on top of getting an IUD.

Hormonal IUDs are the number one recommendation of birth control by American pediatric association as teens often forget to take daily oral tablets.

Once health and safety needs are addressed, I would try to talk to DD about the dangers of casual sex for devaluing yourself.

What kind of sexist BS is this? Does anyone talk to teen boys about devaluing themselves? It’s 2023 and if teen girls choose to have sex with a guy and doesn’t want a serious commitment, that is OK. Can we stop shaming girls and touting guys for enjoying sex?

I mean she is off to college in 6 months. Did you all only have sex in committed relationships then? Give me a break.

NP here. None of PP’s advice is sexist. And of course I would give my sons the same advice. In fact, if the couple gets pregnant, the son has NO say in whether the child is born or not, and is financially responsible and tied to the girl for life if she gets pregnant and chooses to have the baby.

And I didn’t have sex until my mid 20s, despite having a boyfriend (now DH) when younger. There are tons of good reasons to only have sex in a committed relationship, regardless of age— risk of STDs, pregnancy risk, emotional/psychological, etc. Not everyone has embraced the “free love” mantra.

Anonymous wrote:Birth control now. Make sure she has access to condoms. But other than that… she’s going to do it whether you approve or not. Just make sure she’s safe

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Anonymous wrote:Found out that DD is having sex with a boy but they are not in a relationship since neither wants to get serious due to going away to college next year. I’m having a really hard time letting her hang out with this kid because I know they have having sex. I know they are being careful but it goes against my morals and I’m honestly just disgusted by the thought of this. How can I get over it and am I to simply allow them to hang out (Obviously not in my house)! Any advise for me?

Have not read replies but hopefully the need to get your daughter seen by good gynecologist to check for STDs and get IUD inserted has been mentioned.

I would also advise DD to always use condoms to protect against STDs on top of getting an IUD.

Hormonal IUDs are the number one recommendation of birth control by American pediatric association as teens often forget to take daily oral tablets.

Once health and safety needs are addressed, I would try to talk to DD about the dangers of casual sex for devaluing yourself.

What kind of sexist BS is this? Does anyone talk to teen boys about devaluing themselves? It’s 2023 and if teen girls choose to have sex with a guy and doesn’t want a serious commitment, that is OK. Can we stop shaming girls and touting guys for enjoying sex?

I mean she is off to college in 6 months. Did you all only have sex in committed relationships then? Give me a break.