Anonymous wrote:Older women dating younger guys gives more people the ick than the other way around

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I went to grad school for a 2nd masters degree when I was 40. In my first semester I met a 22 year old undergrad in his senior year. He was my friend and lover for 2.5 years. He wanted to continue but i knew we would not last longer than another year or two. It's been 10 years and it is hard dating 50 year olds when the freshness of a 22 year old is so memorable.

PP, I hope your second master's degree was in abnormal psychology, so you can help your (mommy-fixated) former flame unscrew himself.

Friend and lover? Yuck. Freshness so memorable? Double yuck. Please tell us you are no longer troll the GMU student center looking for fun.

These posts are so funny. Almost all guys I know, like me, had an older “gf” at some point in our 20s. Never anything serious, just an easy fun and consistent lay. And for most of us young inexperienced guys we benefited not just from the easy sex but practical learning experiences. Some of these lasted a few years but most were short term situationships.

The proportion of young guys who marry and settle down with older women is minuscule compared to older man younger women which is pretty common.

Y’all cougars think you are so HOT getting the 20yr pool boy but basically you are just an easy and fun situationship.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man and I find older women with younger men incredibly creepy.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 36F married to a 36M, two children. All of our friends and associates (mainly lawyers and other professionals) are in similar age appropriate relationships.
Recently I’ve observed a man we know from university, who has aged poorly due to stress of running his own law firm, posting his new younger (mid 20s ish) girlfriend all over social media. She looks like his little sister or niece and it gives me the ick. He is always posting photos of her in revealing clothing hanging all over him like she’s some trophy.
Older women dating younger men don’t seem to give me the same feeling. I’m wondering why that is? Is it because biologically there is much less likely to be children resulting from that type of match, while older men can impregnate younger women with their inferior sperm and have kids well past the age they should become fathers?
Is it because I feel bad for these attractive young women who should really be able to find a decent looking successful man their own age, and instead are settling for an older version?
Or am I having some sort of deep seated insecurities because this woman is younger and prettier than me? To be fair, I am not bad looking and still in decent shape after two kids. I’ve also never had any romantic interest in this man posting on social media.
Fascinating! I suppose I will see more of this type of situation as we get older.

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I went to grad school for a 2nd masters degree when I was 40. In my first semester I met a 22 year old undergrad in his senior year. He was my friend and lover for 2.5 years. He wanted to continue but i knew we would not last longer than another year or two. It's been 10 years and it is hard dating 50 year olds when the freshness of a 22 year old is so memorable.

PP, I hope your second master's degree was in abnormal psychology, so you can help your (mommy-fixated) former flame unscrew himself.

Friend and lover? Yuck. Freshness so memorable? Double yuck. Please tell us you are no longer troll the GMU student center looking for fun.

I went to grad school for a 2nd masters degree when I was 40. In my first semester I met a 22 year old undergrad in his senior year. He was my friend and lover for 2.5 years. He wanted to continue but i knew we would not last longer than another year or two. It's been 10 years and it is hard dating 50 year olds when the freshness of a 22 year old is so memorable.

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Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

I hope you realize that they are adults, right?

FWIW, my father was a 49-year-old CEO when he married my mother, who was 24 years old at the time, and they had a wonderful life. My father passed away at the age of 82, and my mother has not dated anyone since.

Is she satisfied that he's gone, or remorseful that his death ruined her golden years before she even knew?

It does best consideration that since women seem to get sick of their men (and all men) after they have kids, marrying an older man partially solves that problem.

Anonymous wrote:It's you. It's a reminder that you're not as young as you used to be and you're only getting older. But, it really isn't any of your business who other people date. These flings probably won't last anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

I hope you realize that they are adults, right?

FWIW, my father was a 49-year-old CEO when he married my mother, who was 24 years old at the time, and they had a wonderful life. My father passed away at the age of 82, and my mother has not dated anyone since.

Is she satisfied that he's gone, or remorseful that his death ruined her golden years before she even knew?

It does best consideration that since women seem to get sick of their men (and all men) after they have kids, marrying an older man partially solves that problem.

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Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

That's on you. The younger, hotter person almost always has the power imbalance (celebrity relationships don't count in this equation).

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Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

I hope you realize that they are adults, right?

FWIW, my father was a 49-year-old CEO when he married my mother, who was 24 years old at the time, and they had a wonderful life. My father passed away at the age of 82, and my mother has not dated anyone since.

Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.