The issue is that he didn’t tell you he needs time alone or to decompress. Why?

Yeah you missed your chance even you asked him about it.

I’ve been in this situation, hired a PI who confirmed location (this was before tracking apps) and caught him “red handed” so to speak.
Knowing this for sure, I was able to
move on with my life.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

It’s a 2 second phone call…and maybe your spouse is exhausted and doesn’t want to go to the store, or has takeout in the car for dinner and doesn’t want it getting cold, etc. Just call them instead of tracking them like a creep.

Other PP here. Our spouses know we do this and are fine with it. They do it to us too. Its quick and practical if you have nothing to hide.

I’m the OPP and this exactly. That’s what the app is there for, and we have nothing to hide.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

Very much so! Give him some space.

Got it. He has no clue (nor do I have any clue when people check my location) but by all means, I’ll surely “give him some space” next time by bugging him with a call. Lmao make it make sense!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

It’s a 2 second phone call…and maybe your spouse is exhausted and doesn’t want to go to the store, or has takeout in the car for dinner and doesn’t want it getting cold, etc. Just call them instead of tracking them like a creep.

Other PP here. Our spouses know we do this and are fine with it. They do it to us too. Its quick and practical if you have nothing to hide.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

Very much so! Give him some space.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

It’s a 2 second phone call…and maybe your spouse is exhausted and doesn’t want to go to the store, or has takeout in the car for dinner and doesn’t want it getting cold, etc. Just call them instead of tracking them like a creep.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

Yep. I routinely use it to help time dinner on the days DH goes into the office. My kids also often have substitute bus drivers who screw up the route and delay their getting home. Or when my kids walk to get ice cream with their friends and I want to check if they made it safely. FWIW, I do think DH makes work take longer (both in his home office and at his physical office) to avoid having to help with dinner or drive a kid to an activity. But he just uses "something came up at work" or "I have to turn this document before I leave" or stuff like that. He is definitely a procrastinator and a time waster.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This is not a good habit! Geez!

Anonymous wrote:For such a wealthy, highly-educated group of people, I find it bizarre so many of you admit to legitimate perversion and parking lot sex. The stuff of deviants! So gross.

Or marrying men who engage in this behavior. Well done.

For such a wealthy, highly-educated group of people, I find it bizarre so many of you admit to legitimate perversion and parking lot sex. The stuff of deviants! So gross.

At first I thought the best like maybe he was picking up a Christmas present for you from Marketplace, but seeing he has done it multiple times... sorry he's paying for Bjs. Otherwise he wouldn't lie about being on his way, he'd just say he needed to run an errand, etc.

I have, in an empty lot, spent time relaxing alone and met my AP. So could be anything.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

This. I don’t get it either. There are literal apps people pay money for to do this. This thread is weird.

I guess I’m a shit wife because I’ve checked to see many a time how long I have/how far away DH is until he gets home for many a benign and sundry reason. One instance that comes to mind is the time I looked to see if he had already passed the grocery store on his way home from work, because I would have had him stop if he hadn’t, but didn’t want to bother his commute with a needless call. I guess I’m up his ass!

DH and I and the kids all track each other all the time. No one thinks anything of it. I know lots of friends like this. It takes two seconds to check if someone arrived safely or has left yet.

Let adults be adults
He shouldn't have mommy monitoring him
So bad. So bad for the relationship

Assume the best of him. Drop the leash. Drop the rope around his neck.