Anonymous
Post 11/20/2023 12:23     Subject: Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

Wow I started getting embarrassed of pacifier use when my daughter was around 2. My 5 year old is a full on thriving child in kindergarten I cannot imagine her using a pacifier.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2023 11:59     Subject: Re:Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

I'd worry about orthodontist issues if you don't nip this soon.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2023 11:05     Subject: Re:Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

five is very old for a pacifier
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2023 17:37     Subject: Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

We took away the pacifier as everyone told us to at age 2 and it led to hand sucking that we still haven't been able to stop at age 8. It's so embarrassing but no one has been able to give us any good advice other than 'positive reinforcement'. I think we are going to start with a therapist and maybe OT next year.
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2023 15:46     Subject: Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

Anonymous wrote:5 is older than I am personally comfortable with but I’m sure it’s not the end of the world.


We took away the pacifier by third birthday for all kids (kids were all potty trained by 2.5 and are close in age so between starting preschool, new siblings, potty training etc transitions we opted to let them keep it until 3). I would not go past 3 personally but it’s your choice as the parent.
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2023 11:22     Subject: Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

Anonymous wrote:I’d judge you. My youngest is 2 and she’s too old for it too. It’s just irresponsible to mess up your kids teeth like this. Your kid is also not learning to self soothe and is relying on a pacifier.


It’s not always about self soothing. when mine finally let it go she didn’t replace it with anything and slept the same way she always slept. She can sleep through anything with no issues.
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2023 02:49     Subject: Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

Anonymous wrote:Five is really old for a pacifier.


Agree
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2023 22:59     Subject: Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

Anonymous wrote:We made a big deal about taking away DD's pacifier at 3. She was a trooper and she got through it, but it wrecked her sleep for a couple of years. So badly that we begged her to take back the paci, but DH had done such a good job convincing her that big girls don't use pacifiers that she refused.

The irony is that DH is an orthodontist and DD is going to need ortho no matter what because she got my crooked teeth.

If I had it to do over again, I would have waited until she ditched it on her own or got to age 5 or 6 and could be bribed to give it up.


I have a 6 year old daughter and I cannot IMAGINE her (or any of her friends) with a pacifier. That would be so, so weird
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2023 22:48     Subject: Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

I think it’s lazy parenting.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2023 22:37     Subject: Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

What weaning tactics have you tried?

We weaned mine at a little past 2. Waited until I felt my kid was more verbal. Read the book Paci It On together. Literally that was it. My kid is pretty adaptable, though.

At 5 years old, I'd wonder if there's a larger sensory issue there.