Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Did you "celebrate" tho? Those of you who assume the worst intentions are exhausting. I have ADHD and I can't imagine being married to somebody who expected perfection all the time. I don't expect it of my non-ADHD DH and he doesn't expect it from me. OP could have used this as an opportunity to tease her DH, or bribe him for something fun if she brings the paper. Her DH isn't doing it because he is a jerk, he legitimately forgets and I'm sure feels bad about himself every time he does because she nags him. Relax, people. Go with grace and love.

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Maybe YOU celebrated. Your DW, however, may be contemplating why she's wasted most of her adult life being controlled and treated like an errant child by her supposed equal partner in life.

My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

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Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Most women do not want to play mommy to a husband.

I’m happy for you that you enjoy it! And I’m happy for your husband that he met you! This is not a common kink.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but also married for decades, like that PP. The supposedly humorous contempt in your post above, and in the OP's post and follow-ups, is pathetic. Adults choose battles and don't bean-count every interaction-- but clearly both you and OP are the bean-counting type, who keep tabs on every tiny day-to-day interaction with your spouses. I guess that's your kink. How exhausting and petty.

Adults manage their own TP needs.

Adults don't come on anonymous forums to gloat about how great they think they are for passive-aggressively "teaching" another adult a supposed lesson.

Passive aggressive? There was nothing indirect about saying no to her DH. I think that you mean natural consequences.

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Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Most women do not want to play mommy to a husband.

I’m happy for you that you enjoy it! And I’m happy for your husband that he met you! This is not a common kink.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but also married for decades, like that PP. The supposedly humorous contempt in your post above, and in the OP's post and follow-ups, is pathetic. Adults choose battles and don't bean-count every interaction-- but clearly both you and OP are the bean-counting type, who keep tabs on every tiny day-to-day interaction with your spouses. I guess that's your kink. How exhausting and petty.

Look, if an adult can’t manage their toileting, they need to go back into diapers. I don’t want to think about, hear about, see, or smell the evidence of my husband’s bowel movements. Luckily he is an adult and I never do. OP’s husband, OTOH, is like a toddler. “I made poo poo in the bowl!” He wants Mommy to come running and give him a cookie, in the form of toilet paper.

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Anonymous wrote:I get where you're coming from and why you did it, but not allowing someone the dignity to clean themselves and making them get up and walk around vulnerable and soiled is just...idk. It feels wrong and almost cruel.

I'd be fed up if I were you too though, just not sure what I'd do about it.

Oh please. It’s hardly the Trail of Tears.

I’m just saying I would feel like my spouse intentionally humiliated me to punish me and I would not like it. I would understand their frustration with me, but it would make me question their respect and love for me.

Because it's very loving and respectful to treat someone as your toilet paper gofer. Way to keep the romance alive!

OP here - thank you!
The point is we had had the same conversation a zillion times. I warned him that I was going to stop getting his tp after the millionth time getting it. He was warned and yet he still pulled the same crap. Where’s the love and respect in that?

I see what you did there

Anonymous wrote:Put a huge costco pallet of TP down there right outside the door.

It’s funny you say that. I get all our TP from Costco and just last week got a box of 96 rolls. Haven’t unpacked it yet. I’m loving this idea…

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Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Most women do not want to play mommy to a husband.

I’m happy for you that you enjoy it! And I’m happy for your husband that he met you! This is not a common kink.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but also married for decades, like that PP. The supposedly humorous contempt in your post above, and in the OP's post and follow-ups, is pathetic. Adults choose battles and don't bean-count every interaction-- but clearly both you and OP are the bean-counting type, who keep tabs on every tiny day-to-day interaction with your spouses. I guess that's your kink. How exhausting and petty.

OP here. How did we get from this one TP incident to me (or any other PP’s) keeping tabs on EVERY TINY DAY TO DAY INTERACTION?

Because while there's an obvious planning hang-up about this issue, it's easily resolved (keep a multipack of TP in that bathroom). Instead, you've framed it as a personal travail and your response as a step for women's empowerment. Perhaps you're under the impression you have no quirks that your DH likely puts up with silently (and therefore, much more kindly).

Put a huge costco pallet of TP down there right outside the door.

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Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Most women do not want to play mommy to a husband.

I’m happy for you that you enjoy it! And I’m happy for your husband that he met you! This is not a common kink.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but also married for decades, like that PP. The supposedly humorous contempt in your post above, and in the OP's post and follow-ups, is pathetic. Adults choose battles and don't bean-count every interaction-- but clearly both you and OP are the bean-counting type, who keep tabs on every tiny day-to-day interaction with your spouses. I guess that's your kink. How exhausting and petty.

OP here. How did we get from this one TP incident to me (or any other PP’s) keeping tabs on EVERY TINY DAY TO DAY INTERACTION?

Scary capitals! You know you do it in your head, OP. Eventually he'll decide HE needs to teach YOU a lesson about something you do that's irksome. Oh, sorry, I forgot, you're perfect and definitely never irksome!

Happy to let you know when that happens! And I’ll be the first to admit I’m far from perfect.

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Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Most women do not want to play mommy to a husband.

I’m happy for you that you enjoy it! And I’m happy for your husband that he met you! This is not a common kink.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but also married for decades, like that PP. The supposedly humorous contempt in your post above, and in the OP's post and follow-ups, is pathetic. Adults choose battles and don't bean-count every interaction-- but clearly both you and OP are the bean-counting type, who keep tabs on every tiny day-to-day interaction with your spouses. I guess that's your kink. How exhausting and petty.

Adults manage their own TP needs.

Adults don't come on anonymous forums to gloat about how great they think they are for passive-aggressively "teaching" another adult a supposed lesson.

Sure they do! I am an adult and I am OP. But it was not a gloat - I was looking for support from like minded people. And I found plenty. Thanks DCUM! Always here in my time of need.

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Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Most women do not want to play mommy to a husband.

I’m happy for you that you enjoy it! And I’m happy for your husband that he met you! This is not a common kink.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but also married for decades, like that PP. The supposedly humorous contempt in your post above, and in the OP's post and follow-ups, is pathetic. Adults choose battles and don't bean-count every interaction-- but clearly both you and OP are the bean-counting type, who keep tabs on every tiny day-to-day interaction with your spouses. I guess that's your kink. How exhausting and petty.

OP here. How did we get from this one TP incident to me (or any other PP’s) keeping tabs on EVERY TINY DAY TO DAY INTERACTION?

Scary capitals! You know you do it in your head, OP. Eventually he'll decide HE needs to teach YOU a lesson about something you do that's irksome. Oh, sorry, I forgot, you're perfect and definitely never irksome!

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Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Most women do not want to play mommy to a husband.

I’m happy for you that you enjoy it! And I’m happy for your husband that he met you! This is not a common kink.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but also married for decades, like that PP. The supposedly humorous contempt in your post above, and in the OP's post and follow-ups, is pathetic. Adults choose battles and don't bean-count every interaction-- but clearly both you and OP are the bean-counting type, who keep tabs on every tiny day-to-day interaction with your spouses. I guess that's your kink. How exhausting and petty.

Adults manage their own TP needs.

Adults don't come on anonymous forums to gloat about how great they think they are for passive-aggressively "teaching" another adult a supposed lesson.

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Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Most women do not want to play mommy to a husband.

I’m happy for you that you enjoy it! And I’m happy for your husband that he met you! This is not a common kink.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but also married for decades, like that PP. The supposedly humorous contempt in your post above, and in the OP's post and follow-ups, is pathetic. Adults choose battles and don't bean-count every interaction-- but clearly both you and OP are the bean-counting type, who keep tabs on every tiny day-to-day interaction with your spouses. I guess that's your kink. How exhausting and petty.

OP here. How did we get from this one TP incident to me (or any other PP’s) keeping tabs on EVERY TINY DAY TO DAY INTERACTION?

But we're bored and want to know what happens next!

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Anonymous wrote:Op lots of husband's are forgetful some are even downright stupid. Pick your battles. Most sane wives would have just bought a huge pack of crazy tp and left it done there for him. This is stupid nonsense you sound very immature and I'm 100% positive you're headed for a divorce.

--married 31 years and I don't sweat the small stuff

Most women do not want to play mommy to a husband.

I’m happy for you that you enjoy it! And I’m happy for your husband that he met you! This is not a common kink.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but also married for decades, like that PP. The supposedly humorous contempt in your post above, and in the OP's post and follow-ups, is pathetic. Adults choose battles and don't bean-count every interaction-- but clearly both you and OP are the bean-counting type, who keep tabs on every tiny day-to-day interaction with your spouses. I guess that's your kink. How exhausting and petty.

OP here. How did we get from this one TP incident to me (or any other PP’s) keeping tabs on EVERY TINY DAY TO DAY INTERACTION?