Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People used to get married at 16, just saying.
In this day and age, I'd say it's fine if your older child is responsible and knows how to respond in an emergency.
This is such a LAME argument. People used to do a lot of things that we don't consider right in today's world.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Assume the parent works overnight. What are your honest thoughts on a (mature, responsible) 16yo and a (mature, responsible) 12yo (both girls) watching themselves 3-4 days a week. The alternative is the parent loses their job, which is niche (think air traffic controller) and salary not easily found elsewhere without experience. Other parent not in picture.
A 12 year old can stay by themself, what's the issue?
I used to babysit 3 kids, ages infant - age 4, when I was 12!
The entitlement here is showing greatly. Yes, this is fine
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3-4 days a week is fine. I agree with others that there should be some compensation for your older child. It can be done in a trial basis and if it isn’t working you pivot.
op said EVERY night
Anonymous wrote:3-4 days a week is fine. I agree with others that there should be some compensation for your older child. It can be done in a trial basis and if it isn’t working you pivot.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Assume the parent works overnight. What are your honest thoughts on a (mature, responsible) 16yo and a (mature, responsible) 12yo (both girls) watching themselves 3-4 days a week. The alternative is the parent loses their job, which is niche (think air traffic controller) and salary not easily found elsewhere without experience. Other parent not in picture.
No. It is not ok. A 16 yr old is still a child a she should not be put in a permanent situation where she is responsible for a younger sibling. You are putting the responsibility of HHI on a teenager and this is unconscionable.
This is parentification and unless it’s very short term and finite, not acceptable.
Not ideal but likely single parent losing all or a significant portion of their income would leave everyone in a worse situation.
Tough.
So it would be better for them all to end up homeless?
No. You find another job.
Thanks to ninny mommies like you, this is the least capable generation in American history.
Yes, a 16 year old can care for a sibling overnight.
Not on a permanent basis which is what OP is proposing.
Yes, they can. I lived by myself at 16. This is ridiculous.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Assume the parent works overnight. What are your honest thoughts on a (mature, responsible) 16yo and a (mature, responsible) 12yo (both girls) watching themselves 3-4 days a week. The alternative is the parent loses their job, which is niche (think air traffic controller) and salary not easily found elsewhere without experience. Other parent not in picture.
A 12 year old can stay by themself, what's the issue?
I used to babysit 3 kids, ages infant - age 4, when I was 12!
The entitlement here is showing greatly. Yes, this is fine
Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine. Just try to take care of dinner prep to make it easy for them to have healthy ish meals, tell them how much you appreciate their flexibility, and don't treat them like your therapist or vent to them about your adult problems. Basically, make sure you are still shouldering the mental burden of being the parent, and they just need to do their homework and not burn down the house while you're gone.
Anonymous wrote:Assume the parent works overnight. What are your honest thoughts on a (mature, responsible) 16yo and a (mature, responsible) 12yo (both girls) watching themselves 3-4 days a week. The alternative is the parent loses their job, which is niche (think air traffic controller) and salary not easily found elsewhere without experience. Other parent not in picture.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If it were me, and I were one of those kids, I would much rather deal with this then losing all income and ending up in dire financial straits.
The HHI financial responsibility should not be foisted on a 16 year old.
Anonymous wrote:I just looked up requirements to get an ATC and doesn't qualify unless she had her 16 yr old when she was 16!
"Why do you have to be under 30 to be an air traffic controller?
One, you can't apply for training once you turn 31 years old before the closing date of the application period. There are limited exceptions, but the FAA through research has determined that the older a person is, the harder it is for them to complete the training.Jun 30, 2023."