Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...
Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!
What fun would that be?
There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.
This thread is also a way to reassure parents that applying to college doesn't have to be a source of nonstop conflict and anxiety. There are a ton of posts elsewhere about parents battling their kids over applications, and some of them probably enjoy complaining about it. Years ago, one parent posted about filling out her daughter's applications.
For a lot of us, there's another way, and it minimizes friction while maximizing natural consequences.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I welcome anyone who has let their kids fill out their own applications, have NOT hired a counsellor or coach, and are letting this be their kids journey, not theirs.
Please come on in and share your stories!
Here’s mine - DD refused to let us look at her essays and supplementals - not even just to proofread. Wasn’t about to fight with her on that. She’s got a good head on her shoulders and I’m sure she will end up exactly where she belongs!
I salute you! You are a breath of fresh air!
Our kid went to one of those Big 3 schools that everybody hates. While we did meet the college counselor, my kid was on his own to find what he wanted for college and was on his own to fill out applications.. It's his journey, not ours!
Except I'm footing the bill. So yeah, my journey too.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...
Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!
What fun would that be?
There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.
This thread is also a way to reassure parents that applying to college doesn't have to be a source of nonstop conflict and anxiety. There are a ton of posts elsewhere about parents battling their kids over applications, and some of them probably enjoy complaining about it. Years ago, one parent posted about filling out her daughter's applications.
For a lot of us, there's another way, and it minimizes friction while maximizing natural consequences.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:not very chill and ds ended up at a school he would have never found on his own. we used a counselor. I already have a ft job. no thanks
My child might wind up at one she did know about when all is said and done, but the rest of them? That was me. Researching has consumed my spare time for the past year and a half. Yes, I know I'm nuts. You should see my list on my phone. But, that said, my daughter is happy with the schools I helped her find. There was only ONE she added herself after going to a performing arts event last year.
+1 I LOVE to research so was happy to put that skill to work on understanding the college process. I think we were generally "chill" but also involved. Parental involvement doesn't have to = being stressful, intense about the process.
My kids both have ADHD so needed organization coaching through the process but we all get along well and they were fine with me being their EF coach through this. Others find it works better to have an outside counselor do that. Financially, the only reaches we could afford were in-state schools (UVA for one, W&M for another) and neither really wanted to go to either of those, so their lists were very safety/target heavy and they got in everywhere they applied. The process was mostly about understanding what they wanted out of college and ultimately which of their options would work best. It helped me get to know them better.
I'm sorry for parents who say they never read an essay as if that's a virtue. That was my favorite part of the process. I learned so much about my kids, especially my very reticent DS, through reading their essays.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...
Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!
What fun would that be?
There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.
This thread is also a way to reassure parents that applying to college doesn't have to be a source of nonstop conflict and anxiety. There are a ton of posts elsewhere about parents battling their kids over applications, and some of them probably enjoy complaining about it. Years ago, one parent posted about filling out her daughter's applications.
For a lot of us, there's another way, and it minimizes friction while maximizing natural consequences.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...
Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!
What fun would that be?
There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:not very chill and ds ended up at a school he would have never found on his own. we used a counselor. I already have a ft job. no thanks
My child might wind up at one she did know about when all is said and done, but the rest of them? That was me. Researching has consumed my spare time for the past year and a half. Yes, I know I'm nuts. You should see my list on my phone. But, that said, my daughter is happy with the schools I helped her find. There was only ONE she added herself after going to a performing arts event last year.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...
Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!
What fun would that be?
Anonymous wrote:not very chill and ds ended up at a school he would have never found on his own. we used a counselor. I already have a ft job. no thanks
Anonymous wrote:not very chill and ds ended up at a school he would have never found on his own. we used a counselor. I already have a ft job. no thanks
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We basically told our daughter that she was in charge and we would support as needed. It helps that she is a planner and is very well organized. We would answer questions as needed and provide input as requested. While at times she was frustrated with the application process, it was great to see her work through the issues and develop confidence and a level of independence one hopes to see at this age. Overall, she got into 6 out of the 7 she applied to.
How do you think you would have handled the process I’d she was not a planner nor well organized?