What a bizarre thread. My husband stopped cycling when we had children. There is hope, LOL

You might try rowing. DH and I started rowing about 10 or so years ago and our rowing club has become a big part of our athletic and social life. Then you would have your own thing to keep you busy.

These bicycle people are horrible !

Good example here: Husband went out and rode during those 40 MPH winds. Tree fell and nearly hit them. He thought it was funny. It's not

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Anonymous wrote:People who have not been exposed to cyclist culture don’t get it. It’s very consuming and cyclists spend a lot of time not just cycling but researching equipment and planning rides. They tend to be a-holes both off and especially on the road. I’m not sure why.

PP who dated one for 7 years here. I didn’t find many a-holes among them. They are obsessive, though! Weighing bike parts, always upgrading something, researching rides, traveling to rides… My ex met a cycling chick after I broke up with him and I think (hope) they are very happy.

That's the best scenario for both of you.

Anonymous wrote:People who have not been exposed to cyclist culture don’t get it. It’s very consuming and cyclists spend a lot of time not just cycling but researching equipment and planning rides. They tend to be a-holes both off and especially on the road. I’m not sure why.

Very true. My spouse will often leave at 5:30 AM to cycle to work, work, cycle after work and then come home about 7-8 PM. He will do this 5 days a week, maybe coming straight back on Friday. Then he takes one weekend day. Even though the kids are grown, the amount of time he takes is incredible and all the other household stuff falls on me, bills, taxes, cleaning, repairs, etc. This area is expensive so I try to do as much as I can myself, but I was injured last year trying to do one of those chores and now I hurt. I made it very clear when the dog passes (he has cancer so maybe 2 months they said?), I will be taking time to grow my business, visit family, etc.

I would not call him a deliberate a**hole; I would call him so obsessed about cycling that he doesn't care about much else.

Anonymous wrote:People who have not been exposed to cyclist culture don’t get it. It’s very consuming and cyclists spend a lot of time not just cycling but researching equipment and planning rides. They tend to be a-holes both off and especially on the road. I’m not sure why.

PP who dated one for 7 years here. I didn’t find many a-holes among them. They are obsessive, though! Weighing bike parts, always upgrading something, researching rides, traveling to rides… My ex met a cycling chick after I broke up with him and I think (hope) they are very happy.

People who have not been exposed to cyclist culture don’t get it. It’s very consuming and cyclists spend a lot of time not just cycling but researching equipment and planning rides. They tend to be a-holes both off and especially on the road. I’m not sure why.

Cycling is for gays. You sure he's straight?

Cyclists have the best butts. Unfortunately the one I dated for 7 years in my 20s didn’t have much between the ears, but I kept hoping…

Now with a dad bod DH who used to cycle, is brilliant, funny, loving, a spectacular dad, etc. Good compromise for sure!

A great butt goes a long way, but is not as… foundational… 🤣 … as one may get think.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating this guy for close to two years. Recently, rediscovered cycling and now goes out on rides four days a week, including about 2 hours each Saturday and Sunday. He’s up an out by 6 am and usually done by 10. It’s become a big part of his social life. He was new to the area when we met and didn’t know too many people. I am jealous a bit that he found a physical outlet he really likes, and wish I could also could find such a passion. I don’t know where I’m going with this. Is four hours on a weekend too much?

The fact that he is getting out by 6 am and back by 10 means he is not affecting your day or shared time.

Be glad he is being healthy, or choose to join him.

Golfers do it and no one asks if ok

Where is OP? She should now be 3 years into the relationship.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone bikes / golfs / runs / exercises this much has some kind of mental malfunction. They are not a good fit with a normal, mentally healthy person.

No one needs to exercise this much to stay slim, strong, and healthy. It's pure psychological obsession.

Ugh! These types are the worst. Huge red flags, all of them.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone bikes / golfs / runs / exercises this much has some kind of mental malfunction. They are not a good fit with a normal, mentally healthy person.

No one needs to exercise this much to stay slim, strong, and healthy. It's pure psychological obsession.

Reviving this thread to agree. It's obsessive compulsive behavior. If you tune in to your bike rider, you'll see the obsessive weather tracking, time tracking etc.