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Anonymous wrote:Agree drunks always want you to drink with them. It's the worst.

You're probably not going to shut it down and I would openly discuss it with your children and why it's problematic. They are noticing.

Not all drunks. Some alcoholics, like my parents, just drink excessively without seeming to notice or care what others do. They never even offer me or anyone else a drink when they’re making themselves a cocktail or “grabbing a beer” or pouring a huge glass of wine. They’re too self involved or maybe they just want to try to keep their drinking under my radar (which obviously isn’t possible with the amounts they drink).

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Anonymous wrote:“So many alcoholics on this thread. Yowza. I for one am glad that the trends for alcohol consumption are decreasing with younger generations.”

How is all of the pot use better?

No calories and doesn’t damage your liver, for one. Doesn’t spike your blood sugar. Doesn’t contribute to diabetes. Shall I go on?

But it fries your brain and can bring on mental illness. Pick your poison I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:“So many alcoholics on this thread. Yowza. I for one am glad that the trends for alcohol consumption are decreasing with younger generations.”

How is all of the pot use better?

No calories and doesn’t damage your liver, for one. Doesn’t spike your blood sugar. Doesn’t contribute to diabetes. Shall I go on?

Anonymous wrote:I dunno, I might think about talking to the kids, especially as they reach their teen years. Or saying something back with your kids ears in mind.

"It's so sad that Grandma always wants more people to be drinking with her. I think she knows she's hurting her health, and she feels self conscious about it. It's okay though, we can just say no and enjoy our time together."

That's the kind of lesson I'd want my kid to have fresh for high school. You're a walking example of not caving to peer pressure.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?

I have one: lighten up. Join them. They’re right.

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Anonymous wrote:Just say "mmm a lemonade sounds perfect to me right now" and do that. The kids also agree that lemonade is preferable. It gets everyone comfortable with a fact of life that some people are drinking but you can have something else. Kids get that.

Lemonade is a suger bomb and horrible for health and teeth. Better to have a beer 🍺

Here’s what: some of us know how to enjoy all things in life in *moderation.* That includes lemonade, beer, cupcakes and potato chips. If you “need” a 5 p.m. cocktail or alcohol with lunch, whatever, dude. I’m going to have my occasional lemonade and enjoy it.

You sound fat.

You sound like a drunk.

DP, runner and cyclist, normal BMI, so don’t bother being predictable

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?

I have one: lighten up. Join them. They’re right.

Why are you so insecure that you want to pressure others? How would you like it if people forced food on you when you dont want to eat that piece of cake?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are not going to find the right words to get functional alcoholics to stop acting like functional alcoholics. Instead, explain to your kids what is happening. Explain about addition and peer pressure and how, even though you love them, the grandparents are making bad choices by trying to pressure other people to drink, and they are doing it because their bodies and brains are addicted to it. It's up to you whether you do this in front of the grandparents or not.

From a young age and their cousins knew that their grandfather didn't "count" as a grown up watching them in their pool because he "drank too much and got too sleepy to pay attention". It bothered him that we said that, but it bothered us that he would continually invite the kids to jump in before any other adults were around and he was half sloshed.

This. Tell them your IL are addicted to alcohol. Most Americans don't "need" to drink at lunch. Most Americans don't "need" to drink every evening.

It’s not just Americans…it’s people. No people need to drink that much. No people should drink that much. It’s incredibly unhealthy.

No. Americans need to stop overeating so much. Americans are more obese than ever. This is going to bring down the life expectancy. But hey now than can at least take a shot.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?

I have one: lighten up. Join them. They’re right.

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Anonymous wrote:“So many alcoholics on this thread. Yowza. I for one am glad that the trends for alcohol consumption are decreasing with younger generations.”

How is all of the pot use better?

No calories and doesn’t damage your liver, for one. Doesn’t spike your blood sugar. Doesn’t contribute to diabetes. Shall I go on?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are not going to find the right words to get functional alcoholics to stop acting like functional alcoholics. Instead, explain to your kids what is happening. Explain about addition and peer pressure and how, even though you love them, the grandparents are making bad choices by trying to pressure other people to drink, and they are doing it because their bodies and brains are addicted to it. It's up to you whether you do this in front of the grandparents or not.

From a young age and their cousins knew that their grandfather didn't "count" as a grown up watching them in their pool because he "drank too much and got too sleepy to pay attention". It bothered him that we said that, but it bothered us that he would continually invite the kids to jump in before any other adults were around and he was half sloshed.

This. Tell them your IL are addicted to alcohol. Most Americans don't "need" to drink at lunch. Most Americans don't "need" to drink every evening.

It’s not just Americans…it’s people. No people need to drink that much. No people should drink that much. It’s incredibly unhealthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Just say "mmm a lemonade sounds perfect to me right now" and do that. The kids also agree that lemonade is preferable. It gets everyone comfortable with a fact of life that some people are drinking but you can have something else. Kids get that.

Lemonade is a suger bomb and horrible for health and teeth. Better to have a beer 🍺

Here’s what: some of us know how to enjoy all things in life in *moderation.* That includes lemonade, beer, cupcakes and potato chips. If you “need” a 5 p.m. cocktail or alcohol with lunch, whatever, dude. I’m going to have my occasional lemonade and enjoy it.

You sound fat.

You sound like a drunk.

DP, runner and cyclist, normal BMI, so don’t bother being predictable

I see. You are just skinny fat with no muscle tone.

Sweetie, you lost. Just take the L and stop embarrassing yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Just say "mmm a lemonade sounds perfect to me right now" and do that. The kids also agree that lemonade is preferable. It gets everyone comfortable with a fact of life that some people are drinking but you can have something else. Kids get that.

Lemonade is a suger bomb and horrible for health and teeth. Better to have a beer 🍺

Here’s what: some of us know how to enjoy all things in life in *moderation.* That includes lemonade, beer, cupcakes and potato chips. If you “need” a 5 p.m. cocktail or alcohol with lunch, whatever, dude. I’m going to have my occasional lemonade and enjoy it.

You sound fat.

You sound like a drunk.

DP, runner and cyclist, normal BMI, so don’t bother being predictable

I see. You are just skinny fat with no muscle tone.