Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So not cool kid gets up the courage to ask to hang out with cool kid who was a friend but who has apparently moved on. Cool kid totally disses her. Painful for not cool kid - probably devastating.
It won’t be a surprise for the moms to talk about it and to take sides. It’s a pretty awful and painful thing to happen to a kid. No one wants their kid to have experienced what not cool kid experienced.
Not saying they can’t move on. But when a friend takes the risk and asks to hang out, it’s really cruel to say no. I’m pretty shocked at OP’s daughter’s insensitivity and OP’s inability to recognize how cruel her daughter was.
A teenagers running home to mama (and leaving school early) over the lack of a play date is pathetic.
Anonymous wrote:So not cool kid gets up the courage to ask to hang out with cool kid who was a friend but who has apparently moved on. Cool kid totally disses her. Painful for not cool kid - probably devastating.
It won’t be a surprise for the moms to talk about it and to take sides. It’s a pretty awful and painful thing to happen to a kid. No one wants their kid to have experienced what not cool kid experienced.
Not saying they can’t move on. But when a friend takes the risk and asks to hang out, it’s really cruel to say no. I’m pretty shocked at OP’s daughter’s insensitivity and OP’s inability to recognize how cruel her daughter was.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s clear that OP is raising a mean girl and is perfectly okay with excluding behaviors. OP just isn’t okay with the behavior being directed at her. Ah, sweet irony. Here’s thing that OP should recognize - this drama wouldn’t have any juice among her friend group if they didn’t think her DD was a mean girl. If her DD (and mother) were perfectly sweet, people would be defending her or trying not to get involved.
I read the OP (+ the follow ups) and I don’t get the mean girl read at all. It’s not clear at all. I bet you were low on the social totem pole as a teen and that’s coloring your read.
This is always the classic response from people who don’t teach their kids kindness. I was on varsity soccer and student class president, but gasp, I never made another girl cry and leave school early. I was nice to everyone. I guess that is why I got voted in. I was also in a sorority and a Rho Chi. No social problems whatsoever and I’m proud to say my daughter isn’t a mean girl.
The PP you are responding to is not going to get it because she is clearly mean herself. "I bet you were low on the social totem pole as a teen." I mean, who says that besides a mean girl?
Being popular doesn't make you mean. OP's kid excluded another girl in a group text in a way that made her leave school early crying. This is a big freaking hint OP's kid was unkind. Either it was unintentionally mean and OP's daughter needs to learn better social graces, or it was intentionally mean and OP is in denial.
I’m the PP you quoted. I was not super cool in HS. I did know enough to not leave school early or go crying to mommy over a social slight. My mother also knew better enough to blow up the 2000’s version of her friend group group chat over social slights.
Anonymous wrote:Your kid is a mean girl, OP.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s clear that OP is raising a mean girl and is perfectly okay with excluding behaviors. OP just isn’t okay with the behavior being directed at her. Ah, sweet irony. Here’s thing that OP should recognize - this drama wouldn’t have any juice among her friend group if they didn’t think her DD was a mean girl. If her DD (and mother) were perfectly sweet, people would be defending her or trying not to get involved.
I read the OP (+ the follow ups) and I don’t get the mean girl read at all. It’s not clear at all. I bet you were low on the social totem pole as a teen and that’s coloring your read.
This is always the classic response from people who don’t teach their kids kindness. I was on varsity soccer and student class president, but gasp, I never made another girl cry and leave school early. I was nice to everyone. I guess that is why I got voted in. I was also in a sorority and a Rho Chi. No social problems whatsoever and I’m proud to say my daughter isn’t a mean girl.
The PP you are responding to is not going to get it because she is clearly mean herself. "I bet you were low on the social totem pole as a teen." I mean, who says that besides a mean girl?
Being popular doesn't make you mean. OP's kid excluded another girl in a group text in a way that made her leave school early crying. This is a big freaking hint OP's kid was unkind. Either it was unintentionally mean and OP's daughter needs to learn better social graces, or it was intentionally mean and OP is in denial.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Social exclusion is absolutely considered bullying.
So everyone needs to include everyone else in everything? Or else it’s bullying?
C’mon now.
Anonymous wrote:So OP’s cool daughter excludes artsy girl and that’s ok, but OP is bent because artsy girl’s mom want to…exclude OP? Do I have that right?