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Anonymous wrote:You forgot the one adult sibling who doesn’t watch their own kids and how another adult is suddenly in charge of several other children who are never well behaved.

I was this victim on two beach vacations. Folks me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. So there was never a third time. I never vacation with my sister ever again.

I think you and I have the same sister!

I feel like almost everyone who’s not an only has the Lazy Checked Out I’m-On-Vacation Parent Sibling. I’m from a big family, so I have two. Lucky me!

I have one of these, too. She always has to "run out to CVS" for the toothpaste she "forgot" and stays gone for hours while her DH hides in their bedroom "working" on his laptop.

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Anonymous wrote:We have a lake home and for the 3 main summer holidays, invite our 4 adult children (with two spouses). It’s a 2:2. I would kill for one more bathroom. Ppl can sleep anywhere.
Also, ppl leave their crap everywhere! It’s just something we live with for a few days every year. I love it and hate it at the same time.
My daughters plan and make the meals. I buy the groceries. Husband cleans up. The boys do other chores. My DIL brings many many groceries and snacks but doesnt clean or cook.

Why would your DIL lift a finger? She’s in hell. The fact that she comes to hell at all is a miracle. You should be grateful for the chance to see your son. She’s gracious to go there at all.

And of course people leave their crap “everywhere,” moron, there’s no space. No room. No storage. Too many people for a crammed shytshack, of course there is no room for their stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister insisted her young daughter get her own room instead of sharing with her or her other daughter leaving my teenage son (the only boy in a house of 7 females) on the main couch. Those with teenage boys understand the need for privacy in the morning and she could not understand this.

What do teenage boys need to do in the morning requiring privacy that could not be done in the bathroom?

Get out of bed? I'm guessing you don't have a teenage boy.

It’s called carry a sweatshirt in front of you and go to the bathroom.

And why should he have to do that instead of the other mother sharing with her daughter?

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Anonymous wrote:They need to add “elderly relative who insists on cooking meals for everyone but has questionable food safety practices”. That always makes thing fun.

+1. And who gets annoyed when people try to order takeout or go out to dinner because she already cooked.

And elderly relatives who eat nothing and have no appetites but insist on cooking. Serving size for 4 for a family of 10, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you who say you learned the lesson and don't vacation with family anymore, did you stop vacationing with all of the family?

I love traveling with some of my siblings, but one is really hard to travel with. I posted a couple years ago about whether it was OK for the rest of us to go on a trip without her, and DCUM gave a pretty universal "no" but it seems really unfair that my choices are to basically parent her kids the whole trip, or to just accept I can't go with the others.

We only do resorts now. No house shares. My parents pushed back initially "but we'll never see each other!!!" but after I finally got them to try it my way they realized how much nicer it was to not be awakened by grandkids at zero dark thirty and for everybody to have their own space to retreat to.

That seems a lot more expensive. In our family the biggest issue is the failure to watch the kids, which it doesn't seem like that would help.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister insisted her young daughter get her own room instead of sharing with her or her other daughter leaving my teenage son (the only boy in a house of 7 females) on the main couch. Those with teenage boys understand the need for privacy in the morning and she could not understand this.

What do teenage boys need to do in the morning requiring privacy that could not be done in the bathroom?

Get out of bed? I'm guessing you don't have a teenage boy.

It’s called carry a sweatshirt in front of you and go to the bathroom.

And why should he have to do that instead of the other mother sharing with her daughter?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister insisted her young daughter get her own room instead of sharing with her or her other daughter leaving my teenage son (the only boy in a house of 7 females) on the main couch. Those with teenage boys understand the need for privacy in the morning and she could not understand this.

What do teenage boys need to do in the morning requiring privacy that could not be done in the bathroom?

Get out of bed? I'm guessing you don't have a teenage boy.

It’s called carry a sweatshirt in front of you and go to the bathroom.

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Anonymous wrote:They need to add “elderly relative who insists on cooking meals for everyone but has questionable food safety practices”. That always makes thing fun.

We have this relative (marinates raw meat loosely covered in the fridge, balancing precariously on top of produce) and she also vastly underestimates how much food to make so at least it gives us an excuse to head out for pizza!

I'm not entirely sure what's wrong with this one, other than that "precariously balanced" is a little annoying because you have to be careful. Do you think that there is something that is going to jump out of the marinade and onto the produce? Do you want your meat hermetically sealed?

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Anonymous wrote:We have a lake home and for the 3 main summer holidays, invite our 4 adult children (with two spouses). It’s a 2:2. I would kill for one more bathroom. Ppl can sleep anywhere.
Also, ppl leave their crap everywhere! It’s just something we live with for a few days every year. I love it and hate it at the same time.
My daughters plan and make the meals. I buy the groceries. Husband cleans up. The boys do other chores. My DIL brings many many groceries and snacks but doesnt clean or cook.

Why would your DIL lift a finger? She’s in hell. The fact that she comes to hell at all is a miracle. You should be grateful for the chance to see your son. She’s gracious to go there at all.

And of course people leave their crap “everywhere,” moron, there’s no space. No room. No storage. Too many people for a crammed shytshack, of course there is no room for their stuff.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister insisted her young daughter get her own room instead of sharing with her or her other daughter leaving my teenage son (the only boy in a house of 7 females) on the main couch. Those with teenage boys understand the need for privacy in the morning and she could not understand this.

What do teenage boys need to do in the morning requiring privacy that could not be done in the bathroom?

Get out of bed? I'm guessing you don't have a teenage boy.

Anonymous wrote:We have a lake home and for the 3 main summer holidays, invite our 4 adult children (with two spouses). It’s a 2:2. I would kill for one more bathroom. Ppl can sleep anywhere.
Also, ppl leave their crap everywhere! It’s just something we live with for a few days every year. I love it and hate it at the same time.
My daughters plan and make the meals. I buy the groceries. Husband cleans up. The boys do other chores. My DIL brings many many groceries and snacks but doesnt clean or cook.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They need to add “elderly relative who insists on cooking meals for everyone but has questionable food safety practices”. That always makes thing fun.

+1. And who gets annoyed when people try to order takeout or go out to dinner because she already cooked.

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you who say you learned the lesson and don't vacation with family anymore, did you stop vacationing with all of the family?

I love traveling with some of my siblings, but one is really hard to travel with. I posted a couple years ago about whether it was OK for the rest of us to go on a trip without her, and DCUM gave a pretty universal "no" but it seems really unfair that my choices are to basically parent her kids the whole trip, or to just accept I can't go with the others.

We only do resorts now. No house shares. My parents pushed back initially "but we'll never see each other!!!" but after I finally got them to try it my way they realized how much nicer it was to not be awakened by grandkids at zero dark thirty and for everybody to have their own space to retreat to.