To be fair, lots of women marry losers and bums, deep down knowing that sooner or later, they'll be single moms. Its no different than having one on your own.

Anonymous wrote:I remember well being at a dinner party with a single friend who had just gotten the good news that her IVF had worked and she was going to have her long-sought-after baby.

And one of the other people at the dinner party started going on and on about how selfish it is for people to have a child without a partner.

It was awful.

That child is 10 now and a great kid and lots of extended "family" within the friend group & neighborhood.

I could never and would never have made this same choice, but I don't consider it selfish when other people do.

And I am on the other end of the spectrum... I *always* knew that I would be an SMC (though I did not have that language, of course.) I agree with a PP in that I could not share my child legally with another person. My child: my choices, my name, my decisions.

I remember well being at a dinner party with a single friend who had just gotten the good news that her IVF had worked and she was going to have her long-sought-after baby.

And one of the other people at the dinner party started going on and on about how selfish it is for people to have a child without a partner.

It was awful.

That child is 10 now and a great kid and lots of extended "family" within the friend group & neighborhood.

I could never and would never have made this same choice, but I don't consider it selfish when other people do.

There are no guarantees in life. You could have a married couple who has a child and one of them dies. That happens probably every day? At least a single mom doing IVF has a plan to be a solo parent. Also, you should MYOB.