Anonymous
Post 04/05/2023 12:45     Subject: Re:Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
This entire thread reminds me of the French feminist who said thirty years ago she thought American feminists had ruined the relationship between the sexes.

Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 19:42     Subject: Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:I once dated a woman who said she wanted me to order for her when we went out. At the time I thought that this definitely is not the woman for me - it was one more tidbit that she would require more maintenance that I could manage. That was probably true but years later, I think it may have been that she had extreme social anxiety.


Would social anxiety prevent someone from ordering from a menu? They managed to make it to the restaurant with a date just fine.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 19:41     Subject: Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:I find this somehow charming...yet I know it's odd!



No, it's rude and smacks of Downton Abby vibes, unless it's an Indian or Ethiopian restaurant and they know the dishes well. Nothing about this is charming.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 19:29     Subject: Re:Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.


Wrong.



+1 I think it is polite for either gender to hold a door open for someone.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 19:27     Subject: Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:As long as they ask me what I want first it’s fine.
this. It’s nice.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 19:25     Subject: Re:Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I love it!
But for that he'd need to be a real foodie, like me.


The fact that you used the word foodie negates you statement.


It really doesn't, because they still decide what I'd eat and I enjoy that.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 18:08     Subject: Re:Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:I find this very sexy! Take charge! Of course, I will convey my order first -- but I like to be ordered "for". And sometimes ordered around


Me too!
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 14:33     Subject: Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
When I read the title I thought of Sean Connery as James Bond ordering for his “date”.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 12:41     Subject: Re:Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:I love it!
But for that he'd need to be a real foodie, like me.


The fact that you used the word foodie negates you statement.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 12:40     Subject: Re:Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.


Opening a door is not a gendered role. It's common courtesy. I appreciate anyone who opens a door for me. I also do my share of opening doors for others.


What I really hate, as a woman, is when I get to the door first, hold it for a man behind me, and then he reaches around and grabs the door and gestures me through. No, dude, I'm holding the door for you and that's okay! Just say thank you and go TF through the door.


You sound delightful.


Well, if you'd prefer, I can slam the door in your face.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 12:39     Subject: Re:Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.


Opening a door is not a gendered role. It's common courtesy. I appreciate anyone who opens a door for me. I also do my share of opening doors for others.


What I really hate, as a woman, is when I get to the door first, hold it for a man behind me, and then he reaches around and grabs the door and gestures me through. No, dude, I'm holding the door for you and that's okay! Just say thank you and go TF through the door.


You sound delightful.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 09:28     Subject: Re:Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.


Opening a door is not a gendered role. It's common courtesy. I appreciate anyone who opens a door for me. I also do my share of opening doors for others.


What I really hate, as a woman, is when I get to the door first, hold it for a man behind me, and then he reaches around and grabs the door and gestures me through. No, dude, I'm holding the door for you and that's okay! Just say thank you and go TF through the door.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 09:23     Subject: Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
I once dated a woman who said she wanted me to order for her when we went out. At the time I thought that this definitely is not the woman for me - it was one more tidbit that she would require more maintenance that I could manage. That was probably true but years later, I think it may have been that she had extreme social anxiety.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2023 08:01     Subject: Re:Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.


Correct. If you want to help do something useful that’s actually annoying and hard to do. Like regrout my shower competently.


<3
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2023 23:22     Subject: Re:Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?
Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.


Opening a door is not a gendered role. It's common courtesy. I appreciate anyone who opens a door for me. I also do my share of opening doors for others.