Anonymous wrote:Tackiness, like rudeness, is a behavior unrelated to economic or education level.

Class is not related to money or education. See: Donald Trump.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s definitely tacky to call anything “tacky.” You shouldn’t be in the business of policing other people’s behavior. As far as deciding what you should or should not do or communicating that to your children, pick different language and try to be specific about why it’s bad. If you can’t, that may be a sign your assessment isn’t valid.

I disagree. We should be in the business of policing other people's behavior. Maybe if we did, society would be better off.

I'm with you, PP. Why can't the pendulum ever just rest in the middle. If a person behaves badly, they deserve to be judged. They deserve to be shamed and feel shamed.

Inclusivity, body positivity, equity, diversity, all good. But in the service of pursuing these things, we cannot just say that *anything* goes, no judgement of anything ever, no shaming of anything ever. Why are people so bad at common sense.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen “tacky” being thrown around a lot more often on this board. Sometimes to describe rude behavior, but also just to describe preferences/tastes associated with people who didn’t grow up in certain exclusive communities from certain preferred regions of the US.

Isn’t this just classist nastiness that we should do away with? Aren’t we as a society over praising people for being born in the right place and judging people too dumb to be born in a rich eastern seaboard town?

On some abstract level yes dismissing certain behavior as tacky is a conveyor of class identity .

In reality, there really is behavior that needs to be called out and standards for good behavior have dropped to all time lows.

So I have mixed feelings about this word
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Maybe other more specific adjectives would be better sometimes
For example,
Unkind
Unnecessary
Flashy
Boastful
Inconsiderate
Thoughtless

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Anonymous wrote:Tackiness, like rudeness, is a behavior unrelated to economic or education level.

Actually, “tackiness,” unlike “rudeness,” specifically does have class connotations. That’s exactly the point.

Sure thing. I will make sure to use the more inclusive and woke “obnoxious” or “tasteless” in the future, with the occasional “garbage.”

Anonymous wrote:Tackiness, like rudeness, is a behavior unrelated to economic or education level.

Actually, “tackiness,” unlike “rudeness,” specifically does have class connotations. That’s exactly the point.

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Anonymous wrote:Is classy a classist slur? What about classic?

How about educated? Or well-educated?

What about well-mannered? Well-behaved?

Well-spoken?

Your post really needs to be deleted.

Oppression of any type is nothing to joke about.

I think you are kidding.

Just in case you aren’t, I’d like to point out that complimenting a person or using a positive adjective most certainly cannot be construed as oppression or discrimination.

Words have meaning.

Mhm… see “clean-cut” and “articulate” when referring to a black man.

Tackiness, like rudeness, is a behavior unrelated to economic or education level.

Classism is rampant.

There are far too many classist words our society let’s go, but we shouldn’t.

Anonymous wrote:To me, no. There are LOTS of wealthy people who do tacky things - monogram things, drive needlessly big/expensive cars for an image, wear things with prominent logos, get fillers and other weird bodily changes, etc.

Respectfully, this is a classic case of middle class seething. Driving a big new SUV is not tacky. It is utility. You have kids, probably also a dog, car pool the kids' friends and teammates, take road trips to a vacation home and travel sports events, and because you can AFFORD IT. Plus the tax advantages of driving a big new vehicle with a certain curb weight, which you'd know if you were actually in their tax bracket. Your crummy RAV4 or Accord is not enough space for a large family, a dog, and your kids' friends.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen “tacky” being thrown around a lot more often on this board. Sometimes to describe rude behavior, but also just to describe preferences/tastes associated with people who didn’t grow up in certain exclusive communities from certain preferred regions of the US.

Isn’t this just classist nastiness that we should do away with? Aren’t we as a society over praising people for being born in the right place and judging people too dumb to be born in a rich eastern seaboard town?

You know who throws tacky around the most? Seething middle class wannabes in mediocre homes driving Subarus and RAV4s, jealous of wealthier "tacky" peers who build custom "McMansions," drive new Teslas and Audis, and take better vacations than they do. It's so obvious.

Anonymous wrote:It’s racist against POC

good try at turning this into a discussion about race ....fail.....

Anonymous wrote:Wait. What's wrong with the word "tacky"?

nothing. People just need to always be offended about something. Everyone can be tacky.

expensive designer things with huge logos are tacky. How is that classist?

what a tacky forum

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen “tacky” being thrown around a lot more often on this board. Sometimes to describe rude behavior, but also just to describe preferences/tastes associated with people who didn’t grow up in certain exclusive communities from certain preferred regions of the US.

Isn’t this just classist nastiness that we should do away with? Aren’t we as a society over praising people for being born in the right place and judging people too dumb to be born in a rich eastern seaboard town?

What's funny is that truly old-money people are not as judgemental as poseurs. Which is of the giveaways that Gwyneth Paltrow is not a WASP. Anyway, tacky is an impolite, self-righteous thing to say/.

Anonymous wrote:To me, no. There are LOTS of wealthy people who do tacky things - monogram things, drive needlessly big/expensive cars for an image, wear things with prominent logos, get fillers and other weird bodily changes, etc.

Disagree about monograms, generally. They’re traditional on linens for wedding presents, and pretty necessary when you have multiple boys/men in the house all wearing pretty much the same button-downs! Agree though that there’s a little bit of ick factor for me when it comes to mono’d napkins, because it doubles down on the idea that you’re reusing them many multiple times before washing them.