Anonymous
01/24/2023 10:36
Subject: Re:Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:OP why didn’t you look in Hyattsville/Riverdale/University Park area? You’d fit right in there.
I can't move to Prince George's County due to my divorce decree. DC and MoCo are within limits.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 10:35
Subject: Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound obnoxious and full of yourself. A very "not like the other girls" vibe. Gross.
At least we know why she's a single parent.
Yikes. The Vienna moms are living up to their “mean girls” reputation and then some.
OP here. This is what I'm referring to. I could totally imagine someone in my neighborhood saying this to me -- the intolerance for anyone who doesn't fit the "Vienna mold" is intense.
OP. You are a mean girl
Why? She has stated her opinion of the situation without name calling or even put downs.Meanwhile people in here are calling her loser. And yet you call her a mean girl?
It is almost like everyone expects all women to get along with each other even if they are uncomfortable. Do women always have to be “like the other girls?” Are they allowed to be introverts? If a woman doesn’t like to hang in mommy groups she needs to be painted as a “loser”
This is a weird thread and I guess my gen x self is too old to understand this divisive crap.
Op good luck and I hope you find a person or two!
Because she doesn’t like her neighbors, puts down the things other moms talk about as if it’s beneath her, doesn’t seem to want to get involved and get along with any group, and says she curses a lot and likes to rock the boat. I live in Vienna and have friends who live next door to people on the other side of the political aisle and they all get along. I don’t think they would though if they put down things a majority of other parents cared about in the town or cursed a lot or tried to rock the boat all the time. I know they both got pets this past year and enjoy talking about them and their kids. I like it that they are less involved in social justice and more involved in just being a good person, neighbor, and friend. This behavior calling out everyone also wouldn’t fly in Petworth. I have friends in Petworth and they have their own special interests.
But maybe she IS the person talking about dogs over the fence. That is a polite acquaintance or neighbor relationship in person but not a deep friendship. I’m assuming OP wants someone to be real with whom she can curse around and have a deeper bond with. You can be surface politely to anyone: civil talk about dogs and trees etc. those are not lasting bonds which is what I think OP is looking for.
Just because she is writing her true thoughts online doesn’t mean she isn’t surface poliete. She cant break through surface polite and that is the issue for her right now.
OP here. Yes, you get it. I can totally do surface level conversation -- could talk about my dog for hours! It's just that every conversation seems so surface level, and the ones that aren't usually center around kids' achievement/enrichment. It's exhausting. And these are just with the people who haven't automatically alienated me for being a single mom.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 10:33
Subject: Re:Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:She says she isn’t and likes to dismiss popular topics in the town and stir up trouble. She should just move. She doesn’t like her neighbors per her own andmission and they can feel her disdain. Plus as a single mom she just isn’t as popular among married couples who don’t want someone hitting on their spouse and want someone who can hang with their significant other. There are some single moms in Vienna but they aren’t a majority and tend to like the vibe and are involved in scouts and sports and band etc. I don’t know that they would want to hear someone harping about Vienna either. She should just move. Guess she got bad info on the town. To me it seems pretty obvious what the town would be like and for most it’s more down to earth than they expect.
I think this is what OP is talking about.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 10:32
Subject: Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:You sound obnoxious and full of yourself. A very "not like the other girls" vibe. Gross.
Yup, a pickme vibe for sure
Anonymous
01/24/2023 10:26
Subject: Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:So after going through 8 pages of this, I have decided that I will never, ever move to Vienna. These Vienna posters are AWFUL.
OP was complaining that Vienna families were unwelcoming. Y'all realize you prove every point that she made, right?
+1
It's not just Vienna though. It's most of Northern VA.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 10:19
Subject: Re:Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
OP why didn’t you look in Hyattsville/Riverdale/University Park area? You’d fit right in there.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 10:05
Subject: Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:I mean, yeah people like to keep their political opinions to themselves. I’m liberal but geez nobody wants to hear about woke social justice crap 24/7. It gets tiring after a while. People move to the suburbs for space and quiet.
+1 I'm very liberal but I get exhausted with people who want to talk about huge social justice issues all the time and can't just relax and enjoy watching their kids play soccer or whatever.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 10:04
Subject: Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
So after going through 8 pages of this, I have decided that I will never, ever move to Vienna. These Vienna posters are AWFUL.
OP was complaining that Vienna families were unwelcoming. Y'all realize you prove every point that she made, right?
OP was complaining that Vienna families were unwelcoming. Y'all realize you prove every point that she made, right?
Anonymous
01/24/2023 07:34
Subject: Re:Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
She says she isn’t and likes to dismiss popular topics in the town and stir up trouble. She should just move. She doesn’t like her neighbors per her own andmission and they can feel her disdain. Plus as a single mom she just isn’t as popular among married couples who don’t want someone hitting on their spouse and want someone who can hang with their significant other. There are some single moms in Vienna but they aren’t a majority and tend to like the vibe and are involved in scouts and sports and band etc. I don’t know that they would want to hear someone harping about Vienna either. She should just move. Guess she got bad info on the town. To me it seems pretty obvious what the town would be like and for most it’s more down to earth than they expect.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 07:05
Subject: Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound obnoxious and full of yourself. A very "not like the other girls" vibe. Gross.
At least we know why she's a single parent.
Yikes. The Vienna moms are living up to their “mean girls” reputation and then some.
OP here. This is what I'm referring to. I could totally imagine someone in my neighborhood saying this to me -- the intolerance for anyone who doesn't fit the "Vienna mold" is intense.
OP. You are a mean girl
Why? She has stated her opinion of the situation without name calling or even put downs.Meanwhile people in here are calling her loser. And yet you call her a mean girl?
It is almost like everyone expects all women to get along with each other even if they are uncomfortable. Do women always have to be “like the other girls?” Are they allowed to be introverts? If a woman doesn’t like to hang in mommy groups she needs to be painted as a “loser”
This is a weird thread and I guess my gen x self is too old to understand this divisive crap.
Op good luck and I hope you find a person or two!
Because she doesn’t like her neighbors, puts down the things other moms talk about as if it’s beneath her, doesn’t seem to want to get involved and get along with any group, and says she curses a lot and likes to rock the boat. I live in Vienna and have friends who live next door to people on the other side of the political aisle and they all get along. I don’t think they would though if they put down things a majority of other parents cared about in the town or cursed a lot or tried to rock the boat all the time. I know they both got pets this past year and enjoy talking about them and their kids. I like it that they are less involved in social justice and more involved in just being a good person, neighbor, and friend. This behavior calling out everyone also wouldn’t fly in Petworth. I have friends in Petworth and they have their own special interests.
But maybe she IS the person talking about dogs over the fence. That is a polite acquaintance or neighbor relationship in person but not a deep friendship. I’m assuming OP wants someone to be real with whom she can curse around and have a deeper bond with. You can be surface politely to anyone: civil talk about dogs and trees etc. those are not lasting bonds which is what I think OP is looking for.
Just because she is writing her true thoughts online doesn’t mean she isn’t surface poliete. She cant break through surface polite and that is the issue for her right now.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 06:50
Subject: Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound obnoxious and full of yourself. A very "not like the other girls" vibe. Gross.
At least we know why she's a single parent.
Yikes. The Vienna moms are living up to their “mean girls” reputation and then some.
OP here. This is what I'm referring to. I could totally imagine someone in my neighborhood saying this to me -- the intolerance for anyone who doesn't fit the "Vienna mold" is intense.
OP. You are a mean girl
Why? She has stated her opinion of the situation without name calling or even put downs.Meanwhile people in here are calling her loser. And yet you call her a mean girl?
It is almost like everyone expects all women to get along with each other even if they are uncomfortable. Do women always have to be “like the other girls?” Are they allowed to be introverts? If a woman doesn’t like to hang in mommy groups she needs to be painted as a “loser”
This is a weird thread and I guess my gen x self is too old to understand this divisive crap.
Op good luck and I hope you find a person or two!
Because she doesn’t like her neighbors, puts down the things other moms talk about as if it’s beneath her, doesn’t seem to want to get involved and get along with any group, and says she curses a lot and likes to rock the boat. I live in Vienna and have friends who live next door to people on the other side of the political aisle and they all get along. I don’t think they would though if they put down things a majority of other parents cared about in the town or cursed a lot or tried to rock the boat all the time. I know they both got pets this past year and enjoy talking about them and their kids. I like it that they are less involved in social justice and more involved in just being a good person, neighbor, and friend. This behavior calling out everyone also wouldn’t fly in Petworth. I have friends in Petworth and they have their own special interests.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 06:14
Subject: Re:Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:
Another single mom here. Everyone was so welcoming, and then found out I was a single mom. Definitely now feel shunned. I also am zoned to some Vienna schools but live south. DC plays in Vienna sports teams, and I am prepping DC for AAP, etc. But I definitely feel Vienna has a conservative vibe in terms of 2 parent families and where you live.
It definitely does but that’s pretty obvious just from looking at the town. Vienna has a lot of local pride and is a family friendly town. As a recent single mom here I actually have more opportunities than I can handle but I don’t mind all the stuff Vienna stands for. I like the vibe. Petworth and Vienna are very different. No idea why you moved here expecting it to be Petworth with a larger backyard.
NP. Vienna is socially conservative, but definitely not politically conservative. The people on here saying that are wrong (Comstock? Who? Connelly!) People are all about their kids here. I can see why a single parent would have a hard time finding their tribe, but as people have said, there are volunteer organizations to get involved with where you could make friends. There is also the art center, the community center activities, and if you like to bike, there's a big community here centered around the W&OD trail. Go have a drink at Bazin's or Pazzo Pomodoro--there are always people there to meet, or try Dunn Loring or Mosiac. It's a nice place to live if you give it a chance. Sounds to me like you haven't done that yet.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 06:09
Subject: Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound obnoxious and full of yourself. A very "not like the other girls" vibe. Gross.
At least we know why she's a single parent.
Yikes. The Vienna moms are living up to their “mean girls” reputation and then some.
OP here. This is what I'm referring to. I could totally imagine someone in my neighborhood saying this to me -- the intolerance for anyone who doesn't fit the "Vienna mold" is intense.
OP. You are a mean girl
Why? She has stated her opinion of the situation without name calling or even put downs.Meanwhile people in here are calling her loser. And yet you call her a mean girl?
It is almost like everyone expects all women to get along with each other even if they are uncomfortable. Do women always have to be “like the other girls?” Are they allowed to be introverts? If a woman doesn’t like to hang in mommy groups she needs to be painted as a “loser”
This is a weird thread and I guess my gen x self is too old to understand this divisive crap.
Op good luck and I hope you find a person or two!
Anonymous
01/24/2023 05:55
Subject: Re:Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:Another single mom here. Everyone was so welcoming, and then found out I was a single mom. Definitely now feel shunned. I also am zoned to some Vienna schools but live south. DC plays in Vienna sports teams, and I am prepping DC for AAP, etc. But I definitely feel Vienna has a conservative vibe in terms of 2 parent families and where you live.
It definitely does but that’s pretty obvious just from looking at the town. Vienna has a lot of local pride and is a family friendly town. As a recent single mom here I actually have more opportunities than I can handle but I don’t mind all the stuff Vienna stands for. I like the vibe. Petworth and Vienna are very different. No idea why you moved here expecting it to be Petworth with a larger backyard.
Anonymous
01/24/2023 05:48
Subject: Feel like a fish out of water in Vienna
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound obnoxious and full of yourself. A very "not like the other girls" vibe. Gross.
At least we know why she's a single parent.
Yikes. The Vienna moms are living up to their “mean girls” reputation and then some.
OP here. This is what I'm referring to. I could totally imagine someone in my neighborhood saying this to me -- the intolerance for anyone who doesn't fit the "Vienna mold" is intense.
OP. You are a mean girl