Anonymous wrote:If you want to know why kindergarten seems so rigorous now when it didn't before, here it is.

UMC white people redshirt their perfectly normal and average kids, which skews the norms and expectations.

So now you have old ass kids in kindergarten-and they are usually all white and affluent. Minorities and BIPOC don't do this, usually because they can't afford another year of preschool.

So, who gets the short end of the stick again? You guessed it. If everyone just sent their kids to school on time, school would be more developmentally appropriate.

As it is, there are 13 year olds in my 6th graders class. My child is 11. Let my kid tell it, the 13 year olds are the smartest. My 8 year old was telling me about a boy turning 10 in her class in March-shes in 3rd grade. They aren't smart they are just OLD.

Anonymous wrote:If you want to know why kindergarten seems so rigorous now when it didn't before, here it is.

UMC white people redshirt their perfectly normal and average kids, which skews the norms and expectations.

So now you have old ass kids in kindergarten-and they are usually all white and affluent. Minorities and BIPOC don't do this, usually because they can't afford another year of preschool.

So, who gets the short end of the stick again? You guessed it. If everyone just sent their kids to school on time, school would be more developmentally appropriate.

As it is, there are 13 year olds in my 6th graders class. My child is 11. Let my kid tell it, the 13 year olds are the smartest. My 8 year old was telling me about a boy turning 10 in her class in March-shes in 3rd grade. They aren't smart they are just OLD.

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to a public school - where class sizes are easily 27 kids?

Your kid might be doing just ok in a small nurturing quiet (aka prek), but the teacher is worried he will fall apart in a loud, large, and overwhelming Kinderg class - that is 2x as long of a day to boot.
He might be "ok", but it will tough and a struggle .
Hence the recommendation

Anonymous wrote:When she says he has a baby voice, is she saying he has a speech issue? Is his speech clear to other adults? Does he need a speech evaluation?

Based on your take there's no reason to wait on K, and maybe the school is just pro-redshirting, but teachers rarely come right out and suggest holding back--almost never, in my experience, even when you ask. Has the teacher ever flagged delays or suggested he needs some support outside of school?

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Anonymous wrote:It is a church affiliated preschool. They tend to lean towards holding summer unless the kid is obviously advanced or bigger.

She also said he wouldn’t be able to handle the extended day option which is a full day (an hour shorter than elementary school) and he’s doing well in it with the longer time. We just started in the spring.

So, simple solution. Switch him to a 9-3 preschool now so he gets used to it. He'll do great. He's right on target, not behind.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Don’t listen to DCUM anti-redshirters. Some of them are literally insane.

If you want to put your child in on time, by all means do it. You know your child best.

I think some of the surprise in this thread is that the OP has already redshirted her son. He’s almost 6 and still in prek. So if she holds him back another year, which it definitely sounds like he doesn’t need from an academic and social side, then he will be a solid 1 to 1.5 years older than students in his class, even the ones on the older side. It’s kinda infantilism? And sorry but definitely odd if he would be turning 19 before he finishes high school. I mean why?

Anonymous wrote:NP. If she holds him back so he is 6 turning 7 in kindergarten then he is still technically going to be a 7 year old in kindergarten. My DS is in kindergarten now and is 5. He turns 6 just before he goes to first grade. Her son would be 7 finishing K when most kids are 5 finishing K. I too would be wary of what comes later. Having a 19 year old still attending high school is prob going to be an issue

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Don’t listen to DCUM anti-redshirters. Some of them are literally insane.

If you want to put your child in on time, by all means do it. You know your child best.

I think some of the surprise in this thread is that the OP has already redshirted her son. He’s almost 6 and still in prek. So if she holds him back another year, which it definitely sounds like he doesn’t need from an academic and social side, then he will be a solid 1 to 1.5 years older than students in his class, even the ones on the older side. It’s kinda infantilism? And sorry but definitely odd if he would be turning 19 before he finishes high school. I mean why?

Sounds like her son is four and will turn five this May. So if she sends him to K on time, he will turn 6 in May of his K year. But she is considering redshirting, in which case he would be 5 for his prek year and 6 for his K year, turning 7 at the tail end.

He is already 5. So if she holds him back he will be 7 in kindergarten, which would mean he would be 19 as a senior in high school. He’d essentially be held back two years as she has already held him back from starting kindergarten at age 5 this year which he was several months before the school year started.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Don’t listen to DCUM anti-redshirters. Some of them are literally insane.

If you want to put your child in on time, by all means do it. You know your child best.

I think some of the surprise in this thread is that the OP has already redshirted her son. He’s almost 6 and still in prek. So if she holds him back another year, which it definitely sounds like he doesn’t need from an academic and social side, then he will be a solid 1 to 1.5 years older than students in his class, even the ones on the older side. It’s kinda infantilism? And sorry but definitely odd if he would be turning 19 before he finishes high school. I mean why?

Sounds like her son is four and will turn five this May. So if she sends him to K on time, he will turn 6 in May of his K year. But she is considering redshirting, in which case he would be 5 for his prek year and 6 for his K year, turning 7 at the tail end.