Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

Divorce rates among college educated couples are low, your college sounds like an anomaly.

Yes? and??
Divorce rates don’t indicate anything.

Does low divorce rate mean successful and happy marriages? Absolutely not.

I really wish college educated people can stop spouting that statistic.

A marriage that does not end in divorce is by definition successful. Nobody gets married with the end goal of divorce. Life is hard and happiness is fleeting, it’s not some static state that remains forever. A permanently “happy marriage” is a fiction of the imagination created, usually, by people who get divorces.

Anonymous wrote:I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

Oh look, a bitter Betty making things up as a coping mechanism.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I got engaged the year after college, and married at age 24/26.

I just turned 40 and our marriage is solid. We graduated from an Ivy, and, yes I have some family money so I suppose that was never a concern I had. But more than that, women who graduate from Ivies are less likely to have ever married by age 45, and I have several friends who struggled to date in their late 20s because the guy who went to UVA didn’t want to date someone who went to Princeton (and feel “less” smart when he could date someone else and be the smart one in the relationship).

The women who locked in a relationship in college or early graduate school married well, and all seem very happy (like myself).

And to be clear in college I considered myself an independent feminist and was not at all looking for a husband - I just happened to fall in love and built a solid relationship.

You made that statement without providing any data to back that up. Is that what they taught at Ivy league schools?

Any guy who is afraid of marrying a woman who is smarter than he is shouldn't get married in the first place. I work in software sales with a degree in Business Information Technology from Virginia Tech and I am married to an oral surgeon. She is a surgeon with a degree from Stanford but I make much more money than she does. Where you attended school is irrelevant.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

Divorce rates among college educated couples are low, your college sounds like an anomaly.

Yes? and??
Divorce rates don’t indicate anything.

Does low divorce rate mean successful and happy marriages? Absolutely not.

I really wish college educated people can stop spouting that statistic.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone can get married. Literally. It’s very easy. Getting married is not a life achievement, maybe for some women on this board it is.

Getting married isn't an accomplishment but getting married to a compatible, loving and successful partner, sharing children, building a life together, staying happily married through thick and thin and growing old together? That sure is a life achievement because it adds so much value to your life and lives of your loved ones.

A marriage that never ends is not a successful marriage.

Plenty of women are trapped in marriages because they fear being alone, are financially dependent and/or have low self esteem.

A lot of women put up with cheating because they deathly afraid of being alone.

It seems nice but I can’t imagine being married to the people I was dating in my early and mid-20s.

DH and I got engaged the year after college, and married at age 24/26.

I just turned 40 and our marriage is solid. We graduated from an Ivy, and, yes I have some family money so I suppose that was never a concern I had. But more than that, women who graduate from Ivies are less likely to have ever married by age 45, and I have several friends who struggled to date in their late 20s because the guy who went to UVA didn’t want to date someone who went to Princeton (and feel “less” smart when he could date someone else and be the smart one in the relationship).

The women who locked in a relationship in college or early graduate school married well, and all seem very happy (like myself).

And to be clear in college I considered myself an independent feminist and was not at all looking for a husband - I just happened to fall in love and built a solid relationship.

Anonymous wrote:I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

Highest divorce rates are among people in their third marriages, even that is 73%, it's surprising >75% of your colleagues got divorce. Which college is it?

Anonymous wrote:I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

Divorce rates among college educated couples are low, your college sounds like an anomaly.

Anonymous wrote:My cousin was at law school at Yale while his wife was in medical school there. They got married before graduating had a kid right after because they knew they were heading into biglaw and residency.

...and those are ideal times to have a child, year 1 of residency when your husband is working 90 hour weeks at biglaw, lol

I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

To each its own, life isn't a one size fits all hat. Everyone has their own preferences and circumstances. Do what makes you happy and with someone who makes you happy and you them.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone can get married. Literally. It’s very easy. Getting married is not a life achievement, maybe for some women on this board it is.

Getting married isn't an accomplishment but getting married to a compatible, loving and successful partner, sharing children, building a life together, staying happily married through thick and thin and growing old together? That sure is a life achievement because it adds so much value to your life and lives of your loved ones.

Anyone can get married. Literally. It’s very easy. Getting married is not a life achievement, maybe for some women on this board it is.

Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone want to marry right after college?  After college graduation is the best time of one's life.  You get a good paying job, travel around the world, and sleep with as many women as possible.  Marriage is "man made prison" and you're doing time.  Wait until you're least thirty.

People who believe this shouldn't get married. Good grief. Maybe that's a benefit of marrying young, you weed out men who think marriage is a necessary evil to be put off as long as possible.