Anonymous wrote:I am enamored with Jon Hamm. He is 51-- people calling him an " old man" are ridiculous and someone called him " bloated" which is also ridiculous. I cannot imagine how nasty/unfriendly some of these DCUM posters are.

Anonymous wrote:I think he's a talented actor and a handsome man whose good looks are fading from too much partying. I also think there are enough red flags from the hazing incident and recurrent alcohol issues that I would not think of him as ideal husband or father material.

Anonymous wrote:I think he's a talented actor and a handsome man whose good looks are fading from too much partying. I also think there are enough red flags from the hazing incident and recurrent alcohol issues that I would not think of him as ideal husband or father material.

Anonymous wrote:It was his ex, Jennifer Westfeldt, who didn't want kids. He did: https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/jon-hamm-jennifer-westfeldt-why-they-split-201599/

Westfeldt likes her life as a working actor and director, she's passionate about her artistic projects, and she has no particular desire to have children. I think people sometimes get this wrong because she made a movie with Adam Scott (Friends with Kids) where she played a woman who wants kids enough that she has a baby with her best friend. But it was fiction, and a role. She doesn't want kids.

So Hamm saying he wants kids with his younger girlfriend now is in keeping with what he said his priorities were when he and Westfeldt split. You'll notice Westfeldt is still happily childless even though she could have adopted or done IVF with a sperm donor since their split. She didn't. She doesn't want kids.

I do hope Hamm deals with his drinking problem and any other issues before he has children with anyone. I have a soft spot for him because I think his drinking issues are largely driven by the way he went from virtual unknown actor nearing middle age to super hot leading man, while starring on an AMC television show. It's an unusual path and his work and income has never quite matched up with his public perception as a Clooney-esque figure. I think he's struggle to adjust to fame and there is a part of him who wishes he still had Westfeldt's semi-obscurity -- she gets to just make little movies and do theater or television projects while living a largely normal life (albeit a great one). Hamm left that behind and is now too recognizable and high profile to have that. Plus their breakup meant he also lost the most stabilizing influence in his life. I'm glad he's found someone new and seems to be happy with her.

Hamm/Westfeldt have long been one of my favorite actor couples and I wish them both nothing but the best.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men like that never really want to be with their equal.

I mean, he was with Jennifer westfeldt for 18 years. If anything, she was more successful than he was for the first ten years of their relationship until he landed mad men.

Sure, but he didn't propose to her. She once said in an interview he lacked the marriage chip.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Engaged. Hopefully he's maintaining his sobriety before bringing children into it.

Rumor was that she enabled his partying. He's looking pretty healthy these days though, so fingers crossed. But, yeah, I feel bad for his ex.

I truly do not understand why people feel bad for Jennifer Westfeldt. I think their breakup was her idea. They were together a long time. JW did not want kids and was focused on writing and directing (and still is). I do not get a sense that she pined away for a family with Hamm and will be devastated to discover he's starting a family with someone else.

I think people like to impose a specific paradigm on this relationship that doesn't apply. If JW had wanted to have kids with someone, I think she would have. Maybe even with Hamm. She didn't. They grew apart, the still seem to care about each other.

Stop trying to turn a happy and successful woman who seems to have always done exactly what she wanted into a victim just because her life doesn't look they way you want YOUR life to look. She's not you.

I agree with this. I really like Jennifer westfeldt and Jon hamm. If she wanted to have kids and wasn’t getting that with him, she could have left. I definitely would have left any partner I was with who didn’t want marriage and kids. Possible she was perfectly happy or undecided. Possible they bother were .

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men like that never really want to be with their equal.

I mean, he was with Jennifer westfeldt for 18 years. If anything, she was more successful than he was for the first ten years of their relationship until he landed mad men.

Anonymous wrote:Men like that never really want to be with their equal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Engaged. Hopefully he's maintaining his sobriety before bringing children into it.

Rumor was that she enabled his partying. He's looking pretty healthy these days though, so fingers crossed. But, yeah, I feel bad for his ex.

I truly do not understand why people feel bad for Jennifer Westfeldt. I think their breakup was her idea. They were together a long time. JW did not want kids and was focused on writing and directing (and still is). I do not get a sense that she pined away for a family with Hamm and will be devastated to discover he's starting a family with someone else.

I think people like to impose a specific paradigm on this relationship that doesn't apply. If JW had wanted to have kids with someone, I think she would have. Maybe even with Hamm. She didn't. They grew apart, the still seem to care about each other.

Stop trying to turn a happy and successful woman who seems to have always done exactly what she wanted into a victim just because her life doesn't look they way you want YOUR life to look. She's not you.