I personally wouldn’t even consider it.

I’m sorry op, I agree with that update I wouldn’t do it. Your husband isn’t on board, you have grandparents and cousins in this area who are a big part of your kids lives, and middle school is a hard time to move. And while Chicago is an amazing city (I spent 5 years there as an adult) harsh gray winters from December-April while leaving family behind, it doesn’t sound worth it. Your extended family being here is probably very grounding for your kids and I think it would be a big change. Any chance for the remote option? You could fly out a couple times a month.

I've made spontaneous moves around the country many times. My kids turned out just fine. One day we're here, the next day we may be a thousand miles away, starting a new life.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s your priority? Your children’s well-being or money?

ridiculous framing. no evidence whatsoever that staying where they are will bring about "children's well-being".

NP. Conversely, where is your evidence that moving will be good for their well-being?

What about mom’s well being? Kids will be out of the house in 5 years, doesn’t OP deserve to pursue professional goals? And all the while, she found a wonderful community that has good schools that will provide her kids with many friend choices and opportunities.

I say go for it, OP! Life is short. Seek adventure and opportunity.

The moms well-being is not being asked to do something she doesn’t want to do. As well as, as a whole she is the only one who wants to go.

Ok, well now that I see her DH doesn’t want to move either then that changes it. Are they open to a remote work situation, OP?

Anonymous wrote:I would 100% do this.

Good, leave your children and husband. They are better off without a selfish witch.

I would 100% do this.

Anonymous wrote:We moved last year. DS was going into 6th grade. He was actually excited about the move and hasn’t looked back. He’s made some great friends and we have a much better better quality of life where we are now. We moved for DHs job. Much more relaxed and friendly area.

I would do it again in a heartbeat.

Your anecdotal story is nothing like the OP’s. She is the only one who wants to move in her family and she has children who are in high school and near high school. Totally different and irrelevant to your situation.

We moved last year. DS was going into 6th grade. He was actually excited about the move and hasn’t looked back. He’s made some great friends and we have a much better better quality of life where we are now. We moved for DHs job. Much more relaxed and friendly area.

I would do it again in a heartbeat.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s your priority? Your children’s well-being or money?

ridiculous framing. no evidence whatsoever that staying where they are will bring about "children's well-being".

NP. Conversely, where is your evidence that moving will be good for their well-being?

i don't have any evidence. we simply don't know what would benefit the kids, hence, it's irrelevant.

Of course you don’t have any evidence which is ridiculous that you asked someone else for evidence. As you stated it’s irrelevant which makes your whole chat on here irrelevant.