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Anonymous wrote:I never understand in these situations why a woman kills the other woman rather than the cheating man.

Oh they often kill the innocent wife or husband so they can be together…and sometimes for the insurance $.

The Jessica Birk thing is all about the OW murdering the wife.

Anonymous wrote:I never understand in these situations why a woman kills the other woman rather than the cheating man.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did the police let her go after questioning her?

Definitely some white privilege at play.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude bought her the gun. It was almost like he played her to do his dirty work for him... Did Mo friendzone him for better-looking guys?

Nah, that’s just #CoupleGoals in Texas

The rest of Texas, maybe...but Austin? Blue as the sea Democratic Austin?

Austin is the Capitol of the anti-vaxxed. Blue means something different there.

Anonymous wrote:Why did the police let her go after questioning her?

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Anonymous wrote:Dude bought her the gun. It was almost like he played her to do his dirty work for him... Did Mo friendzone him for better-looking guys?

Nah, that’s just #CoupleGoals in Texas

The rest of Texas, maybe...but Austin? Blue as the sea Democratic Austin?

Or a bike-riding Republican environmental scientist? Does such a thing exist?

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Anonymous wrote:Dude bought her the gun. It was almost like he played her to do his dirty work for him... Did Mo friendzone him for better-looking guys?

Nah, that’s just #CoupleGoals in Texas

The rest of Texas, maybe...but Austin? Blue as the sea Democratic Austin?

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Anonymous wrote:Not wanting to ride with a slow girlfriend just sounds like a bs excuse to keep her away so he can creep on his fan girls. The guy is clearly a scumbag late bloomer Lothario.

He’s a champion pro cyclist, which means he has to practice at a level in which 99.5% of us couldn’t “keep up.” I totally get not wanting to ride with your S/O who can’t match his speed. Of course, the problem with this is that between a day job and many hours of training per day, he’s probably spending very little time with the girlfriend.

He was just a guy who shouldn’t have been in a relationship with someone who wasn’t as equally independent as him.

I agree they shouldn't have been in a relationship but I would not describe him as "independent". Friends and acquaintances said this was a pattern with him -- choosing needy, mentally unstable women, stringing them along, and then betraying them in ways small and large, resulting in fireworks. He was obviously addicted to the drama or the co-dependency or something. This isn't a defense of the girlfriend but this guy is not just some innocent bystander in this.

Some people get off on seeking out people who are obsessive, dependent, slavishly devoted to them. A mentally healthy person will not enjoy that kind of attention or relationship. Would you want a partner who was intensely attached to you to the point of neediness, who would fly off the handle if they sense you were pulling away? I definitely would not, and I question the mental stability of people who enjoy that kind of drama. It's really sad that the victim got caught up in this game he was playing. He may not have murdered anyone, but he's not innocent either.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude bought her the gun. It was almost like he played her to do his dirty work for him... Did Mo friendzone him for better-looking guys?

Nah, that’s just #CoupleGoals in Texas

The rest of Texas, maybe...but Austin? Blue as the sea Democratic Austin?

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Anonymous wrote:Obviously this is terrible and please don't misconstrue anything I'm about to write as a defense of what this woman did. She murdered someone, it's terrible, I feel awful for the victim and her family. No one deserves that.

I used to see stuff like this and view it with detachment, like "oh that person must just be a bad person, I can't relate, why are people so terrible." But I went through something in the last few years (not a cheating partner, thankfully, something totally different) and experienced what I can only describe as social humiliation. It was crushing and really messed me up. I feel like I'd been deprived of my humanity, unfairly. I got very paranoid for a time and felt like everyone I knew was laughing at me and pitying me behind my back. I wound up quitting my job for a time, doing intensive therapy, and making several other big changes, and eventually got through it. It was the hardest thing I've ever done.

But now I understand how this stuff happens. I didn't kill anyone when this happened to me and I really don't think I would (I'm a pacifist and abhor guns), but now I get how it happens. When you feel humiliated in this way, it feels like there is nothing left to lose. If you are convinced that everyone hates you anyway, especially if it feels like they hate you for things that are not your fault and out of your control, it's like, well what's left? It's like your connection to society is severed. It's terrifying.

I think PPs are right that her anger stemmed from feeling like she was losing her plan for her future, and feeling this woman stole it from her. But I think the thing that made her willing to kill this woman, instead of just yelling at her spreading nasty rumors or something, was the sense of humiliation. It was being lied to and then finding out, feeling like everyone was in on a joke that she was the butt of. Or at least that's what I think. When I was going through this, I had violent thoughts I can't believe I had. Thoughts that scared me.

I've since vowed that if anyone I know ever goes through there, to show up and let them know they are loved and valued, that I'm not laughing at them. To remind them they are still human and they are still connected to someone. I wish this woman had had something like that.

Gently, you should seek therapy.

“I wound up quitting my job for a time, doing intensive therapy, and making several other big changes, and eventually got through it. It was the hardest thing I've ever done.”

Gently, you should seek baseline reading comprehension skills.

I read that. It sounds though, that you need perhaps more consistent therapy to manage violent tendencies generally, given your history.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude bought her the gun. It was almost like he played her to do his dirty work for him... Did Mo friendzone him for better-looking guys?

Nah, that’s just #CoupleGoals in Texas