Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

When DH and I started dating , I did not know how to cook. He was 39 at the time. He knew this about me, and he didn't care. He knew how to cook, and actually cooked for me while we were dating. Still does.

The bolded would make me run. The problem is not you not knowing how to cook, but that he's looking for a cook for his kids (and himself).

Eh, I read it as a grandma cooking for her grandkids now that their mom isn’t around. Kinda sweet, assuming she’s local.

Why can't he cook? Why does he need his mommy to cook for him? Don't you think that he will expect his GF/wife to cook for him? Big huge red flag.

The PP specifically said that the grandma makes the food for the kids. And lots of men and women can’t cook, it’s not a character flaw.

No. They don’t WANT to cook. Anyone without severe cognitive disabilities can follow a recipe word for word from a cookbook out of the library or an easy meals YouTube video.

That said, OP, if you’re not going to run from a guy in his 40s whose Mommy is still making his family’s meals (which, personally, I would, but I’m not you), at least be very, very clear with him that you don’t like to cook and won’t be taking over mom’s role of household chef if you ever live together or marry.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

When DH and I started dating , I did not know how to cook. He was 39 at the time. He knew this about me, and he didn't care. He knew how to cook, and actually cooked for me while we were dating. Still does.

The bolded would make me run. The problem is not you not knowing how to cook, but that he's looking for a cook for his kids (and himself).

Eh, I read it as a grandma cooking for her grandkids now that their mom isn’t around. Kinda sweet, assuming she’s local.

Why can't he cook? Why does he need his mommy to cook for him? Don't you think that he will expect his GF/wife to cook for him? Big huge red flag.

The PP specifically said that the grandma makes the food for the kids. And lots of men and women can’t cook, it’s not a character flaw.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a good situation for someone who doesn’t want to cook. His mom will probably continue delivering those meals until the kids are out of the house! Sign me up. Fresh Lebanese food, yum.

Yes the mom can send some extra portion for you if you guys get married and then you don't gotta cook.

And I'm sure that wouldn't come with strings attached

The Mom gets to continue feeling needed — and bonus! superior to her DIL who will never live up to her standards anyway.

She gets to never cook. Win win.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a good situation for someone who doesn’t want to cook. His mom will probably continue delivering those meals until the kids are out of the house! Sign me up. Fresh Lebanese food, yum.

Yes the mom can send some extra portion for you if you guys get married and then you don't gotta cook.

And I'm sure that wouldn't come with strings attached

Anonymous wrote:I mean, asking if you like to cook is kind of like asking if you like to read or what hobbies you are interested or what's your favorite color.

You sound a little insecure that you don't like to cook, OP. Just make it clear to your dates that you don't like to cook. I'm guessing most will be fine with that.

How do you feed yourself? Take out all the time?

Anonymous wrote:No its just dating. If you are not a wife, you do not need to cook.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a good situation for someone who doesn’t want to cook. His mom will probably continue delivering those meals until the kids are out of the house! Sign me up. Fresh Lebanese food, yum.

Yes the mom can send some extra portion for you if you guys get married and then you don't gotta cook.

Anonymous wrote:Men like women who can cook -- bottom line. You don't have to be five-star chef quality, but you should be solid. Tell a man you hate to cook and he sees a lot of take out in his future. Most men will move on. You're too high maintenance, too expensive, too spoiled. You are a walking red flag.

This isn't about "hating" cooking, it's about hating to appear submissive to a man, and catering to him in any way. At least be honest about it.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a good situation for someone who doesn’t want to cook. His mom will probably continue delivering those meals until the kids are out of the house! Sign me up. Fresh Lebanese food, yum.