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Anonymous wrote:All women want to marry a man making at least 6 figures but ideally 7+. Problem is that isn’t most men. But most women in their 20s will at least try- until reality sets in

This doesn’t describe “all” women. I’ve never even fantasized about a man who makes $$$. I want a man who is kind, honest, respectful, and an equal partner. I found that in a man who makes less than 6 figures. Money wouldn’t bring us any more happiness than we already have.

Yeah, how many women do you know, PP? Five?

You do realize the majority of people make five figures? Only here on DCUM is that idea somehow unfathomable. Off this site, millions of people live happy lives without worrying about 6 or 7 figure salaries. I make 5 figures as a teacher and I don’t regret my choices at all. I find fulfillment in many things, most of which don’t require money.

Good for you, dear.

Sorry if this bursts your bubble, but five figures is chump-change.

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Anonymous wrote:All women want to marry a man making at least 6 figures but ideally 7+. Problem is that isn’t most men. But most women in their 20s will at least try- until reality sets in

This doesn’t describe “all” women. I’ve never even fantasized about a man who makes $$$. I want a man who is kind, honest, respectful, and an equal partner. I found that in a man who makes less than 6 figures. Money wouldn’t bring us any more happiness than we already have.

Yeah, how many women do you know, PP? Five?

You do realize the majority of people make five figures? Only here on DCUM is that idea somehow unfathomable. Off this site, millions of people live happy lives without worrying about 6 or 7 figure salaries. I make 5 figures as a teacher and I don’t regret my choices at all. I find fulfillment in many things, most of which don’t require money.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of people in my parents area are like this. They have a stay at home spouse or she also makes $50k (or less). They live in cheap housing, maybe a double wide, use public school and Maine’s state health care. They supplement with income from plowing drive ways or summer tourist related jobs or hunting their own meat. They don’t worry about dental care.

Love the idea that anyone making less than six figures has to live in a trailer, hunt, and doesn't visit the dentist. This thread is so out of touch it's amazing.

Seriously. The vast majority of us, even in DC, do not make 6 figures. Maybe we live in an apartment/condo/townhouse and can't afford private schools, overseas vacations, or much in the way of college/retirement savings, but we get by just fine. And we have great teeth. Not everyone is a shallow social striver. Some of us just marry the people we love.

Anonymous wrote:Median income in the US is only 50k or so. What types of women tend to settle for these men? Obviously not the DCUM crowd.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of people in my parents area are like this. They have a stay at home spouse or she also makes $50k (or less). They live in cheap housing, maybe a double wide, use public school and Maine’s state health care. They supplement with income from plowing drive ways or summer tourist related jobs or hunting their own meat. They don’t worry about dental care.

Love the idea that anyone making less than six figures has to live in a trailer, hunt, and doesn't visit the dentist. This thread is so out of touch it's amazing.

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Anonymous wrote:All women want to marry a man making at least 6 figures but ideally 7+. Problem is that isn’t most men. But most women in their 20s will at least try- until reality sets in

This doesn’t describe “all” women. I’ve never even fantasized about a man who makes $$$. I want a man who is kind, honest, respectful, and an equal partner. I found that in a man who makes less than 6 figures. Money wouldn’t bring us any more happiness than we already have.

Yeah, how many women do you know, PP? Five?

You do realize the majority of people make five figures? Only here on DCUM is that idea somehow unfathomable. Off this site, millions of people live happy lives without worrying about 6 or 7 figure salaries. I make 5 figures as a teacher and I don’t regret my choices at all. I find fulfillment in many things, most of which don’t require money.

I was addressing the poster who said all women want somebody who makes 6 or 7 figures.

Ok, and if given a choice between a nice handsome making 5 figures and a nice handsome man making 6+ 10/10 women would pick the one making more. Money makes life easier and gives children better opportunities and advantages. Women know this.

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Anonymous wrote:All women want to marry a man making at least 6 figures but ideally 7+. Problem is that isn’t most men. But most women in their 20s will at least try- until reality sets in

This doesn’t describe “all” women. I’ve never even fantasized about a man who makes $$$. I want a man who is kind, honest, respectful, and an equal partner. I found that in a man who makes less than 6 figures. Money wouldn’t bring us any more happiness than we already have.

Yeah, how many women do you know, PP? Five?

You do realize the majority of people make five figures? Only here on DCUM is that idea somehow unfathomable. Off this site, millions of people live happy lives without worrying about 6 or 7 figure salaries. I make 5 figures as a teacher and I don’t regret my choices at all. I find fulfillment in many things, most of which don’t require money.

I was addressing the poster who said all women want somebody who makes 6 or 7 figures.

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Anonymous wrote:Having grown up in poverty it’s really hard for me to understand women complaining about their husbands making less than six figures. To me marriage was always about love, partnership, and parenting than a guarantee of a certain standard of living.

Now women who complain about their partners not participating in parenting or their share of household chores…that I get and it would infuriate me.

They didn't grow up in poverty though, so why would they want to lower their standards? Do you want to lower your standards from the wealth you grew up in?

Ordinarily I don’t care about people having different desires in life. And I don’t really judge Someone for wanting a high/earning spouse. But the living standards that these women have are superficial and are just making them bitter and unable to see what life is offering them. I’m not talking about having health insurance-type standards, I’m taking about kids being able to do sleep away camp type standards. So when somebody passes over potentially really strong life partners because they want extra bonuses in life that won’t actually make them happy, I don’t get it.

I married a nice poor guy thinking I didn't care about sleep away camp. Thought he understood that I was willing to compromise on some things but not on others like going to college for the kids. Turns out he expected me to work throughout the marriage even 3 months after having a baby while he never got a promotion, fought anything like sleep away camp when we had the money, and then left me to have multiple affairs and developed a sex addiction. His family also thought we could support his family with trips back to the homeland. So no sleep away camp for my kids but please contribute to grandma's house maintenance and her trips overseas. They were awful people who had no respect for other's money. Now he's not paying for college or anything for the kids beyond age 18. Do not marry too far away from your station is what I learned. There is no guarantee that these "nice guys" will stay nice when they get more money to play with.

I married a nice guy too, probably could be called middle class. He did not turn out to be the ass yours did. Your husband pulled a bait and switch in you, and I don’t think that had a ton to do with how much money he earned. He probably would have made your life miserable no matter what.

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Anonymous wrote:All women want to marry a man making at least 6 figures but ideally 7+. Problem is that isn’t most men. But most women in their 20s will at least try- until reality sets in

This doesn’t describe “all” women. I’ve never even fantasized about a man who makes $$$. I want a man who is kind, honest, respectful, and an equal partner. I found that in a man who makes less than 6 figures. Money wouldn’t bring us any more happiness than we already have.

Yeah, how many women do you know, PP? Five?

You do realize the majority of people make five figures? Only here on DCUM is that idea somehow unfathomable. Off this site, millions of people live happy lives without worrying about 6 or 7 figure salaries. I make 5 figures as a teacher and I don’t regret my choices at all. I find fulfillment in many things, most of which don’t require money.

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Anonymous wrote:All women want to marry a man making at least 6 figures but ideally 7+. Problem is that isn’t most men. But most women in their 20s will at least try- until reality sets in

This doesn’t describe “all” women. I’ve never even fantasized about a man who makes $$$. I want a man who is kind, honest, respectful, and an equal partner. I found that in a man who makes less than 6 figures. Money wouldn’t bring us any more happiness than we already have.

Yeah, how many women do you know, PP? Five?

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Anonymous wrote:Having grown up in poverty it’s really hard for me to understand women complaining about their husbands making less than six figures. To me marriage was always about love, partnership, and parenting than a guarantee of a certain standard of living.

Now women who complain about their partners not participating in parenting or their share of household chores…that I get and it would infuriate me.

They didn't grow up in poverty though, so why would they want to lower their standards? Do you want to lower your standards from the wealth you grew up in?

Ordinarily I don’t care about people having different desires in life. And I don’t really judge Someone for wanting a high/earning spouse. But the living standards that these women have are superficial and are just making them bitter and unable to see what life is offering them. I’m not talking about having health insurance-type standards, I’m taking about kids being able to do sleep away camp type standards. So when somebody passes over potentially really strong life partners because they want extra bonuses in life that won’t actually make them happy, I don’t get it.

I married a nice poor guy thinking I didn't care about sleep away camp. Thought he understood that I was willing to compromise on some things but not on others like going to college for the kids. Turns out he expected me to work throughout the marriage even 3 months after having a baby while he never got a promotion, fought anything like sleep away camp when we had the money, and then left me to have multiple affairs and developed a sex addiction. His family also thought we could support his family with trips back to the homeland. So no sleep away camp for my kids but please contribute to grandma's house maintenance and her trips overseas. They were awful people who had no respect for other's money. Now he's not paying for college or anything for the kids beyond age 18. Do not marry too far away from your station is what I learned. There is no guarantee that these "nice guys" will stay nice when they get more money to play with.

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Anonymous wrote:Having grown up in poverty it’s really hard for me to understand women complaining about their husbands making less than six figures. To me marriage was always about love, partnership, and parenting than a guarantee of a certain standard of living.

Now women who complain about their partners not participating in parenting or their share of household chores…that I get and it would infuriate me.

They didn't grow up in poverty though, so why would they want to lower their standards? Do you want to lower your standards from the wealth you grew up in?

Ordinarily I don’t care about people having different desires in life. And I don’t really judge Someone for wanting a high/earning spouse. But the living standards that these women have are superficial and are just making them bitter and unable to see what life is offering them. I’m not talking about having health insurance-type standards, I’m taking about kids being able to do sleep away camp type standards. So when somebody passes over potentially really strong life partners because they want extra bonuses in life that won’t actually make them happy, I don’t get it.

It's not about my happiness at all. I didn't entertain future low earners as a life partner because I knew that a high-earning partner would be able to provide more food/housing/opportunities/security for my future children. I married my husband when he was dirt poor, but he cared about financial security and had a high-earning career trajectory.