Anonymous wrote:

In all of the same aged couples I know (within 1-2 years of each other either way), 99% of the women look a million times better than their husbands. We are late 40s/early 50s age group. And, this is a UMC group without a single divorce in the group of about 20.

+1.

Hair loss alone explains a lot of the attractiveness gender gap. Balding is just so harsh on your looks. Also, greying facial hair.

Women almost always look a million times better than their husbands or boyfriends. Humans have placed a premium on female attractiveness for thousands of years. These posts miss the relevant point.

If any of the women in the group of 20 get divorced, are they going to date other women in the group? No, most likely they will date men. Therefore, the women are not competing against the men to see who is the best looking. They would compete against each other, as would the men.

There was another stupid post like this one on another thread where women bragged about how much better looking they were than the men their age.

Yes, many men in their late 40s/early 50s are fat/bald/etc. So what? If these men get divorced, they will have no trouble finding dates.

In all of the same aged couples I know (within 1-2 years of each other either way), 99% of the women look a million times better than their husbands. We are late 40s/early 50s age group. And, this is a UMC group without a single divorce in the group of about 20.

+1.

Hair loss alone explains a lot of the attractiveness gender gap. Balding is just so harsh on your looks. Also, greying facial hair.

Anonymous wrote:I recommend having both a 10 years older husband and a 10 years younger boyfriend

Anonymous wrote:Nah, older men aren’t a solution.

I dated a lot of older men when I was 19-24 because I thought they’d be more mature. Eventually I realized that a 35 year old man who wants to date a 20 year old is bad news. They’re too pervy, immature, and obnoxious for women their own age so they have to prey on more naive women. Generally men late 20s-30s who are mature and responsible also want mature and responsible partners, and aren’t really into the drama and immaturity that comes with dating a college student.

I know the dudes of DCUM like to brag about banging younger, hotter women (whether they actually do….I doubt it). But every man I’ve known who was marriage material was far more interested in someone who would be a good long term partner and who they had things in common with, rather than someone who was young and had little to offer besides sex.

Just anecdote, but my best friend married a man 14 years older who started grooming her when she was a teenager. Their marriage is an absolute disaster and the guy is a wreck, always drinking and cheating and can barely keep a job down. We’d see a lot more marriages like that if we encouraged younger women to marry older men.

Anonymous wrote:There are so many elements to an age gap in a marriage. Firstly the biological factors. We know women mature faster than men and have a shorter fertility window. Marrying a man your age or younger create many more opportunities for a lack of synchrony regarding life logistics. The younger man may want to wait longer to have children, he may not make enough money to support a family yet, etc. Then, there is the fact that he may be much more emotionally immature to be a proper confidant and partner to his wife.

Finally, women generally age faster so if you are the same age or older than your husband, you are on an accelerated aging timeline. He may be more likely to have a wandering eye as your looks fade.

I am surprised we do not consider age differences more carefully when dating. It seems preferable to have the woman be at least a few years younger than her husband.