Anonymous
Post 02/22/2022 09:58     Subject: Interfaith & Interracial Marriages
Anonymous wrote:Asian-American woman here. I’d say most of my AA friends are attracted to white guys because of their looks and how they treat women. AA guys tend to take them for granted.


White woman married to an Asian guy here and IMO there’s definitely some truth to this. Neither my DH nor anyone in his family ever had any expectations that I’d act like a proper Korean wife/DIL. Of course I love my in laws and treat them respectfully, but I don’t even come close to meeting the bare minimum bar of what they’d expect from a Korean woman who should “know better”. So much “bad” behavior from me gets hand-waved away because I’m white. Making a good faith attempt to learn the Korean language and cook a few Korean dishes is already exceeding baseline expectations in their eyes. That’s just bare minimum table stakes for a Korean woman! I totally understand why American women of Korean descent would rather not place all those burdensome expectations on themselves, when they can so easily escape it by marrying someone from a different background.

Anonymous
Post 02/22/2022 09:47     Subject: Interfaith & Interracial Marriages
One thing a couple may may want to talk about are aging parents. Do they come to live with you? Do they live on the same block? And How much time do you spend with them over your preference?

If not discussed, issues and dissatisfaction arise —later in life. American culture has more boundaries & different expectations around parents. The situation when the kids are young (babysitters are great!) is completely different later.

If you ask around or read, you’ll find examples of what works. Something to consider.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2022 18:28     Subject: Interfaith & Interracial Marriages
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Anonymous wrote:Nothing triggers white women more than attractive Asian women.

It’s funny.



That’s what people used to say about white men that see white women with black men.


I dunno…maybe? Not really.

The type of white women that have black partners aren’t really on the radar of dc/nyc type white men.

Those white dudes don’t care Jenners and kardashians and their Ilk like black dudes.

However the opposite isn’t true. The type of white guys that Asian girls get are in demand from similarly milieu of white girls

And what exactly is the “type” of white women who have black partners?

Anonymous
Post 02/21/2022 17:25     Subject: Interfaith & Interracial Marriages
Anonymous wrote:Everyone knows about the problems and hurdles faced by interfaith and interracial marriages but are there any benefits as well?


Its a marriage of two people who love, attract and value each other. Isn't that the whole point of every marriage?
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2022 17:08     Subject: Interfaith & Interracial Marriages
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Anonymous wrote:Yep. My Asian wife looks 10 years younger than white women her age.


---signed, just another sleazy white dude with an Asian fetish.


Nothing wrong with liking Asian women. I’m white and currently with a white woman but have dated Asian women in the past and it really is true how amazing their skin tends to be. Very clear and smooth and they age well. Same goes for Asian men.


Cool story, bro. There is indeed a misogynistic white guy fetish for Asian women where they are looking to control women and view Asian women as submissive - and you seem to fit that, so ick.

Your trope is tired and loaded with racism. It’s also a tad misogynistic to assume Asian women have no agency when it comes to choosing a mate. It is perhaps you who are projecting your prejudices on Asian women. It’s offensive. Lemme guess, you have an Asian friend so that gives you license to make foolish statements? Please do better and refrain from talking about something you know nothing about.


Nope - I'm Asian - this is well-covered in Asian/feminist culture - so gotta call oink oink on your sexist BS.