Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 15:54     Subject: WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
As per DCUM usual, victim blaming at its finest.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 15:47     Subject: WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
I'm astounded at how rude this forum has gotten.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 15:45     Subject: Re:WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
For those who think this is no big deal, are you okay with strange men filming your 5 year daughter as she plays in the park? It's a public place.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 15:43     Subject: WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
Gross. Not a crime.

Men are pigs
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 15:36     Subject: WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
Men are terrible. Raise your girls to tell them to F off. I was traveling the world alone at 25 for work. Glad I grew up learning martial arts and generally how to stick up for myself. Good that they told an employee. If that happened to me I would tell the guys to F off, tell the employees and then ask for someone to walk me to my car.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 15:35     Subject: Re:WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your 25 year old daughter couldn’t figure out what to do without your help? Yikes.


It is really disturbing that a 25 year old’s first instinct when faced with a troubling situation was to text her mother. What has happened to this generation?

Also, it’s creepy and gross but not a crime to film in public. Calling the police was not the right advice.


OMG, you helicopter labeling people are the worst.

Many adults remain close to their parents for life. It is something special and comforting, and if she texted her mom when she was concerned or scared...it is probably better than texting another 20 something.

How smug you are. Probably a man who does not know what we women put up with every day of our lives.


Nope, I am a woman who was self-sufficient and independent at 25.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 15:34     Subject: Re:WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your 25 year old daughter couldn’t figure out what to do without your help? Yikes.


It is really disturbing that a 25 year old’s first instinct when faced with a troubling situation was to text her mother. What has happened to this generation?

Also, it’s creepy and gross but not a crime to film in public. Calling the police was not the right advice.


OMG, you helicopter labeling people are the worst.

Many adults remain close to their parents for life. It is something special and comforting, and if she texted her mom when she was concerned or scared...it is probably better than texting another 20 something.

How smug you are. Probably a man who does not know what we women put up with every day of our lives.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 14:59     Subject: WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
I had a 60ish year old man trying to take photos of me on a carousel with my toddler daughter. I blocked our faces/bodies each time we went past him, he looked angry then disappeared.

It feels pretty gross especially when they do it so obviously, it's a shock. But these men wouldn't care and had your daughter gotten up and interacted with them in any way, they would've been thrilled I'm sure. These people are screwed up weirdos. Sick.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 14:49     Subject: WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
A 25 yo should have been able to figure this out by herself. A 25 yo should not have her mother tracking her phone. This is a sick level of dependency.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 14:47     Subject: Re:WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Human traffickers or Sex offenders.

Make sure that your DD is never alone, parks safely, carries a pepper spray, has her location sharing on.



Hahaha. Human traffickers don’t look for victims in suburban Starbucks. They look for economically vulnerable and isolated young women, not 20 somethings who are so spoiled and coddled that they call Mommy when someone looks at them wrong.


OP here. She knows Mommy takes no f-ing prisoners. LOL. She alerts me so I know what’s what and can work from my end while they work things from their end. Police loved that she called me.


Oh? If you’re so tough why is your daughter such a cream puff?


Tough as nails Mommy sure dropped the ball raising her spineless deer in the headlights daughter who can't navigate a Starbucks outing with friends in the presence of a weirdo or two.


Why are there always gross comments towards victims of harassment.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 14:39     Subject: Re:WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Human traffickers or Sex offenders.

Make sure that your DD is never alone, parks safely, carries a pepper spray, has her location sharing on.



Hahaha. Human traffickers don’t look for victims in suburban Starbucks. They look for economically vulnerable and isolated young women, not 20 somethings who are so spoiled and coddled that they call Mommy when someone looks at them wrong.


OP here. She knows Mommy takes no f-ing prisoners. LOL. She alerts me so I know what’s what and can work from my end while they work things from their end. Police loved that she called me.


Oh? If you’re so tough why is your daughter such a cream puff?


Tough as nails Mommy sure dropped the ball raising her spineless deer in the headlights daughter who can't navigate a Starbucks outing with friends in the presence of a weirdo or two.


That's every Starbucks in the area. There's always some weirdos in there.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 14:32     Subject: Re:WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Human traffickers or Sex offenders.

Make sure that your DD is never alone, parks safely, carries a pepper spray, has her location sharing on.



Hahaha. Human traffickers don’t look for victims in suburban Starbucks. They look for economically vulnerable and isolated young women, not 20 somethings who are so spoiled and coddled that they call Mommy when someone looks at them wrong.


OP here. She knows Mommy takes no f-ing prisoners. LOL. She alerts me so I know what’s what and can work from my end while they work things from their end. Police loved that she called me.


Oh? If you’re so tough why is your daughter such a cream puff?


Tough as nails Mommy sure dropped the ball raising her spineless deer in the headlights daughter who can't navigate a Starbucks outing with friends in the presence of a weirdo or two.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 14:19     Subject: Re:WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your 25 year old daughter couldn’t figure out what to do without your help? Yikes.


It is really disturbing that a 25 year old’s first instinct when faced with a troubling situation was to text her mother. What has happened to this generation?

Also, it’s creepy and gross but not a crime to film in public. Calling the police was not the right advice.


Incorrect. These guys were likely involved in sex trafficking.


Really? Not a chance anyone is abducting white women from a Starbucks in Reston.


You are correct. They photograph them, get their license plate number, get someone to look that up, get an address then abduct them while they are getting into their car. The photographs are to shop them around to prospective customers.


Stop watching Lifetime.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 14:16     Subject: Re:WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your 25 year old daughter couldn’t figure out what to do without your help? Yikes.


It is really disturbing that a 25 year old’s first instinct when faced with a troubling situation was to text her mother. What has happened to this generation?

Also, it’s creepy and gross but not a crime to film in public. Calling the police was not the right advice.


Meh, not OP but I don't think it's disturbing. I'm 46, but in my 20s I had many strange men make me nervous in public. Women are conditioned to not rankle men or make them uncomfortable so I would tolerate it - try to not rock the boat - then after the encounter I'd always regret it. I used to feel horrible about it until social media in the last 10 years introduced me to a ton of feminists who would call out and label this behavior as totally normal survival skills.

I'd love to think a 25 year old woman would go over and call these guys out - but in the moment it's normal to freeze.


Maybe you are conditioned but women are not conditioned


You must be a hermit with no access to any media. Most women are absolutely conditioned to not make men uncomfortable. This is why perverts and predators get away with so much. A common reaction in these abusive situations (especially if the man is an acquaintance) is freezing or excusing/confusion.

People getting on this young woman for not knowing what to do all propose different reactions so there is clearly not some most appropriate action to take.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2022 14:16     Subject: Re:WARNING - DD filmed by two older men in Plaza America Reston Starbucks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Human traffickers or Sex offenders.

Make sure that your DD is never alone, parks safely, carries a pepper spray, has her location sharing on.



Hahaha. Human traffickers don’t look for victims in suburban Starbucks. They look for economically vulnerable and isolated young women, not 20 somethings who are so spoiled and coddled that they call Mommy when someone looks at them wrong.


OP here. She knows Mommy takes no f-ing prisoners. LOL. She alerts me so I know what’s what and can work from my end while they work things from their end. Police loved that she called me.


Oh? If you’re so tough why is your daughter such a cream puff?