Anonymous wrote:if she was beneath the age of consent at the time, it is an offense. Report it. If she was of legal age, it is just despicable behavior on his part but not an offense.

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Anonymous wrote:So she snuck around, slept with her boyfriend and hid it from her parents, and told her aunt when he broke up with her to go to college.

The aunt's role is to offer her a shoulder to cry on. Her role is to learn from the experience.

Do the parents even know about any of this?

What part of 14 do you fail to understand ? Did you have good judgment at 14? I sure did not.

She was almost a child. I am sure the parents of full of shame as they would not have known.

The boy picked her up and drove her to his house regularly without her parents permission. He was of legal age and she was not.

If the parents want to press charges they have a strong case. They need to consult with experts as to what would be in the best interests of the victim.

She's not a victim. She made some bad decisions and now she's dealing with the consequences.

Her parents should know that she's struggling and cutting, if they don't already know, and get her some counseling. Therapy may or may not help but it's the appropriate step for the parents to take next.

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Anonymous wrote:So she snuck around, slept with her boyfriend and hid it from her parents, and told her aunt when he broke up with her to go to college.

The aunt's role is to offer her a shoulder to cry on. Her role is to learn from the experience.

Do the parents even know about any of this?

What part of 14 do you fail to understand ? Did you have good judgment at 14? I sure did not.

She was almost a child. I am sure the parents of full of shame as they would not have known.

The boy picked her up and drove her to his house regularly without her parents permission. He was of legal age and she was not.

If the parents want to press charges they have a strong case. They need to consult with experts as to what would be in the best interests of the victim.

Anonymous wrote:So she snuck around, slept with her boyfriend and hid it from her parents, and told her aunt when he broke up with her to go to college.

The aunt's role is to offer her a shoulder to cry on. Her role is to learn from the experience.

Do the parents even know about any of this?

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Anonymous wrote:Not all asshole behavior is a crime.

This boyfriend sounds like a tool but come on, saying “I’ll break up with you if you don’t have sex with me” is not rape. If she had been a little older and wiser she probably would have seen this for the red flag that it is. He was selfish. He sounds like a crappy boyfriend and not a great person. That doesn’t make him a rapist though.

I hope your niece gets help and I hope she stays away from the jerk guys in the future.

saying he'll break up with her can be considered a threat

That doesn’t make it a crime if a reasonable person would not give in to the threat. Threatening to break up with her is not the same as threatening to kill or maim her. You know that, right?

This is an unfortunate situation but the girl has a role here. She ultimately agreed to have sex whether she really wanted to or not. That agreement = consent. She needs help figuring out why she kept putting herself in this situation of repeatedly going to his house for lunch when she knew what was happening and to agreeing to have sex when she really didn’t want to. Not saying the boy’s behavior is okay here either, but it’s not criminal.

It actually is criminal and she is suffering. She was 14 and below the age of legal consent in every single US state. He was 4 grades higher at school and close to legal adulthood.

He was in college? That’s 4 grades higher. It won’t be prosecuted.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all asshole behavior is a crime.

This boyfriend sounds like a tool but come on, saying “I’ll break up with you if you don’t have sex with me” is not rape. If she had been a little older and wiser she probably would have seen this for the red flag that it is. He was selfish. He sounds like a crappy boyfriend and not a great person. That doesn’t make him a rapist though.

I hope your niece gets help and I hope she stays away from the jerk guys in the future.

saying he'll break up with her can be considered a threat

That doesn’t make it a crime if a reasonable person would not give in to the threat. Threatening to break up with her is not the same as threatening to kill or maim her. You know that, right?

This is an unfortunate situation but the girl has a role here. She ultimately agreed to have sex whether she really wanted to or not. That agreement = consent. She needs help figuring out why she kept putting herself in this situation of repeatedly going to his house for lunch when she knew what was happening and to agreeing to have sex when she really didn’t want to. Not saying the boy’s behavior is okay here either, but it’s not criminal.

It actually is criminal and she is suffering. She was 14 and below the age of legal consent in every single US state. He was 4 grades higher at school and close to legal adulthood.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all asshole behavior is a crime.

This boyfriend sounds like a tool but come on, saying “I’ll break up with you if you don’t have sex with me” is not rape. If she had been a little older and wiser she probably would have seen this for the red flag that it is. He was selfish. He sounds like a crappy boyfriend and not a great person. That doesn’t make him a rapist though.

I hope your niece gets help and I hope she stays away from the jerk guys in the future.

saying he'll break up with her can be considered a threat

That doesn’t make it a crime if a reasonable person would not give in to the threat. Threatening to break up with her is not the same as threatening to kill or maim her. You know that, right?

This is an unfortunate situation but the girl has a role here. She ultimately agreed to have sex whether she really wanted to or not. That agreement = consent. She needs help figuring out why she kept putting herself in this situation of repeatedly going to his house for lunch when she knew what was happening and to agreeing to have sex when she really didn’t want to. Not saying the boy’s behavior is okay here either, but it’s not criminal.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all asshole behavior is a crime.

This boyfriend sounds like a tool but come on, saying “I’ll break up with you if you don’t have sex with me” is not rape. If she had been a little older and wiser she probably would have seen this for the red flag that it is. He was selfish. He sounds like a crappy boyfriend and not a great person. That doesn’t make him a rapist though.

I hope your niece gets help and I hope she stays away from the jerk guys in the future.

saying he'll break up with her can be considered a threat

That doesn’t make it a crime if a reasonable person would not give in to the threat. Threatening to break up with her is not the same as threatening to kill or maim her. You know that, right?

This is an unfortunate situation but the girl has a role here. She ultimately agreed to have sex whether she really wanted to or not. That agreement = consent. She needs help figuring out why she kept putting herself in this situation of repeatedly going to his house for lunch when she knew what was happening and to agreeing to have sex when she really didn’t want to. Not saying the boy’s behavior is okay here either, but it’s not criminal.

Anonymous wrote:It is criminal in some states, including Virginia, for a 17 year old to have sex with a 14 year old, whether some of you PPD like it or not.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all asshole behavior is a crime.

This boyfriend sounds like a tool but come on, saying “I’ll break up with you if you don’t have sex with me” is not rape. If she had been a little older and wiser she probably would have seen this for the red flag that it is. He was selfish. He sounds like a crappy boyfriend and not a great person. That doesn’t make him a rapist though.

I hope your niece gets help and I hope she stays away from the jerk guys in the future.

saying he'll break up with her can be considered a threat

That doesn’t make it a crime if a reasonable person would not give in to the threat. Threatening to break up with her is not the same as threatening to kill or maim her. You know that, right?

This is an unfortunate situation but the girl has a role here. She ultimately agreed to have sex whether she really wanted to or not. That agreement = consent. She needs help figuring out why she kept putting herself in this situation of repeatedly going to his house for lunch when she knew what was happening and to agreeing to have sex when she really didn’t want to. Not saying the boy’s behavior is okay here either, but it’s not criminal.

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Anonymous wrote:Not all asshole behavior is a crime.

This boyfriend sounds like a tool but come on, saying “I’ll break up with you if you don’t have sex with me” is not rape. If she had been a little older and wiser she probably would have seen this for the red flag that it is. He was selfish. He sounds like a crappy boyfriend and not a great person. That doesn’t make him a rapist though.

I hope your niece gets help and I hope she stays away from the jerk guys in the future.

saying he'll break up with her can be considered a threat