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Anonymous wrote:I sympathize op, but you need to respect her journey. Do you need to leave? Maybe. I would exhaust many other options including special hvac filtration systems, house renovation, etc. all cheaper than divorce.

40 lbs seems a bit petty. Do you still have a sex life? Could you meet a fit marathon vegetarian to spend the rest of your life with? Maybe. Would she have other qualities that annoyed you? Absolutely. Would she have the shared history and child you have? Nope.

LOL really? Weed is a "journey" now? Would you say the same thing about someone who poured themselves a g&t first thing?
signed, someone who drinks and smokes but knows that daily and especially workday smoking is disordered

Anonymous wrote:I sympathize op, but you need to respect her journey. Do you need to leave? Maybe. I would exhaust many other options including special hvac filtration systems, house renovation, etc. all cheaper than divorce.

40 lbs seems a bit petty. Do you still have a sex life? Could you meet a fit marathon vegetarian to spend the rest of your life with? Maybe. Would she have other qualities that annoyed you? Absolutely. Would she have the shared history and child you have? Nope.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it’s unfortunate that your wife has chosen to go down the path of being a loser (yes, I will call a spade a spade) and that you two have raised your child to similarly have low standards. BUT she’s still your wife, and you must remember your vows.

Keep loving her in spite of herself. That requires to tell her the truth where it’s required (that’s she’s being a loser) but also accepting her as she is and being kind to her. It sucks, but it really will make you a better person. Abraham Lincoln was devoted as ever to his mentally ill opioid addict wife, and no one can doubt that he was a good man with sterling character.

Yikes. You only live once. Once the kid is raised, what you be the point of staying in a relationship as you've described it?

What’s the point of going to the moon? What’s the point of building the Taj Mahal? What’s the point of being a good husband to your crappy wife (probably the hardest and most noble of the 3)? You either have greatness in you or you don’t. Of course, most people are okay with being mediocrities or worse their whole life. But a lofty aim is worth having, and magnificently more than “the point”.

Anonymous wrote:I would not be okay with a partner self-medicating like that. She's not acting like a responsible, mature adult. It would be different if she worked with a therapist for a number of years, tried a number of meds to see if they helped, changed her lifestyle (eat healthy, sleep well, exercise and meditate daily), but then decided that the pot was the best way to manage her (diagnosed and self-acknowledge) issues.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it’s unfortunate that your wife has chosen to go down the path of being a loser (yes, I will call a spade a spade) and that you two have raised your child to similarly have low standards. BUT she’s still your wife, and you must remember your vows.

Keep loving her in spite of herself. That requires to tell her the truth where it’s required (that’s she’s being a loser) but also accepting her as she is and being kind to her. It sucks, but it really will make you a better person. Abraham Lincoln was devoted as ever to his mentally ill opioid addict wife, and no one can doubt that he was a good man with sterling character.

Yikes. You only live once. Once the kid is raised, what you be the point of staying in a relationship as you've described it?

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Anonymous wrote:I sympathize op, but you need to respect her journey. Do you need to leave? Maybe. I would exhaust many other options including special hvac filtration systems, house renovation, etc. all cheaper than divorce.

40 lbs seems a bit petty. Do you still have a sex life? Could you meet a fit marathon vegetarian to spend the rest of your life with? Maybe. Would she have other qualities that annoyed you? Absolutely. Would she have the shared history and child you have? Nope.

OPs BMI is literally one point less than his wife's. He is a total hypocrite.

Muscle weighs more than fat. BMI is a garbage calculation.

Hahaha are you OP? What a hypocrite.

Hahaha, say whatever you like. Men have more muscle mass than woman, especially those who lift weights and work out daily when compared to women who do not.

Even my wife will freely admit that I'm far fitter than her, and readily showers me with compliments regarding my fitness level (for my age, mid-50's.) She used to run marathons and dream of being a personal trainer. I just want a reasonable facsimile of the person I married back, so I can shower her with compliments on her fitness level, age-adjusted.

Anonymous wrote:OP, it’s unfortunate that your wife has chosen to go down the path of being a loser (yes, I will call a spade a spade) and that you two have raised your child to similarly have low standards. BUT she’s still your wife, and you must remember your vows.

Keep loving her in spite of herself. That requires to tell her the truth where it’s required (that’s she’s being a loser) but also accepting her as she is and being kind to her. It sucks, but it really will make you a better person. Abraham Lincoln was devoted as ever to his mentally ill opioid addict wife, and no one can doubt that he was a good man with sterling character.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a troll. Women use only gummies or tincture.

What would I gain my going on a message board and making up a fictitious problem?

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Anonymous wrote:You clearly have contempt for your wife. That is the number one predictor for divorce.

I love her, but hate her weed smoking. Just as she loves me but hates it when I leave the medicine cabinet door open and starts screaming at my about it. Whereas, I'm perfectly ok if she forgets to close the medicine cabinet door.

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Anonymous wrote:I sympathize op, but you need to respect her journey. Do you need to leave? Maybe. I would exhaust many other options including special hvac filtration systems, house renovation, etc. all cheaper than divorce.

40 lbs seems a bit petty. Do you still have a sex life? Could you meet a fit marathon vegetarian to spend the rest of your life with? Maybe. Would she have other qualities that annoyed you? Absolutely. Would she have the shared history and child you have? Nope.

OPs BMI is literally one point less than his wife's. He is a total hypocrite.

Muscle weighs more than fat. BMI is a garbage calculation.

Hahaha are you OP? What a hypocrite.

Hahaha, say whatever you like. Men have more muscle mass than woman, especially those who lift weights and work out daily when compared to women who do not.

Even my wife will freely admit that I'm far fitter than her, and readily showers me with compliments regarding my fitness level (for my age, mid-50's.) She used to run marathons and dream of being a personal trainer. I just want a reasonable facsimile of the person I married back, so I can shower her with compliments on her fitness level, age-adjusted.

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Anonymous wrote:My gross deadbeat neighbors do this. They are harshly judged.

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"Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
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For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
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"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?"

- Matthew 7: 1-3

Oh good lord, who let the Jesus freak in?