Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow! Your dad is coming and you will not pick him up?

Wait? Let me guess. You are a WASP?

No wonder you guys don't reciprocate even after you stuff your faces at the dinners I host. If you cannot show manners to your parents...I am asking too much of you!

LOL 😂

I’m dying.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 66 and haven’t asked anyone to pick me up at the airport in decades.

You probably have the money, haven’t travelled much, or haven’t been offered.

We always pick up relatives. We find that if someone is willing to take a flight and bear time and expense to be with us, the least we can do is pick them up.

It’s just a nice thing to do.

i would say that, yes, it is the norm to pick people up at the airport. have you eveer noticed that they have an arrivals are built for just that, picking up people from the airport?
some airports are pretty far out from where people live, so an uber would be expensive. my old house was 45 minutes or more from one airport and even longer from the other. now we havee one 20 minutes away and an hour to the other. again, pretty expensive uber for the far airport. also, old people don't tend to uber as much as younger people. i am not what you would consider older, but i have never taken an uber...ever.

in nyc, i took a bus and a subway to get myself to midtown. nobody there to pick me up. it was pretty easy.

I’m 66 and haven’t asked anyone to pick me up at the airport in decades.

What is so bad about being a WASP? It's been used several times as an insult.

Anonymous wrote:I never pick up people at the airport, nor do I expect to be picked up. But I do hire an actual car service (the kind with a personalized sign) rather than make family members rely on Uber, since they aren’t always used to working that app.

I did this once for my mother when I couldn’t leave work to pick her up … and she was horribly offended.

I only pick up or drop off for extreme ends of the day. Really early or really late. For myself I usually get an Uber on arrival though I’m thrilled to have a pickup after an overnight or international flight; or when baby was new. My parents either book so it’s easy to pick them up, or get a cab. Normal people stuff.

Where is dad from? My parents have literally never taken a cab or Uber in their life and if I ever suggest doing it they’d panic and ask “what if they aren’t a safe driver?” They literally wouldn’t travel somewhere unless someone they knew was picking up. There are no cabs or Ubers where they live.

If you decide to get one, you could make it less miserable if you take the afternoon off from work. Schlep the kids out to the air and space museum by Dulles for the afternoon, have a heavy car snack and pick up your dad.

I personally find it obnoxious when guests expect to be chauffeured in major metropolitan areas. If you were flying to a place like, Little Rock, or Lincoln Nebraska, where traffic is not an issue and cabs are not as common or super pricey, then it would be be crazy to expect a ride, but if I’m flying to DC, NY, LA, Boston, etc it’s so bratty to expect a ride.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not an older thing, it’s a being a good host thing. Age has nothing to do with it. I’ve never heard of someone flying to visit and you don’t pick them up. It’s not a business trip.

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Miss Manners made a lot of rules sitting on her tush on the sofa. The reality is many women and men have crazy busy lives and if you are retired and able bodied the polite thing to do is get yourself a cab. The old rules are from a time when men worked maybe 40 hours a week and women either didn't work or worked part time. Life has changed. Get a cab!

My husband and I are older millennials but we always pick up our family and vice versa.

You understand Uber and Lyft are pretty recent, right? Up until a few years ago it was pretty standard to give rides to and from the airport to loved ones who needed them. It's an annoyance, maybe, but not a shock.

My MIL used to pull this nonsense. Wouldn’t even tell us her flight number. Just what time she landed. One time we guessed the flight wrong, and had to do laps around Reagan for an hour. She only lives six hours away. We stopped paying for tickets after that and she now magically is able to drive down.

Anonymous wrote:It’s not an older thing, it’s a being a good host thing. Age has nothing to do with it. I’ve never heard of someone flying to visit and you don’t pick them up. It’s not a business trip.

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