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Anonymous wrote:My babysitter is a lesbian -- does that change your calculus, OP? Lol

I'm at a loss as to why you think this would matter, when the concern is assault or allegations of assault.

I forgot how many people hire teen sitters. I was thinking "banging the nanny" concerns vs. #MeToo. My sitters are all over 20.

I’ve found in this labor shortage that finding adult sitters has become much more difficult.

Interesting. Around here, babysitting pays more per hour than restaurant/retail work. I haven't had trouble but reached out to my regulars before the labor shortage really started. I also have one easy kid who goes to bed at 7:00 and is a great sleeper, so the vast majority of the job consists of sitting on my couch watching Netflix.

It was always the dad when I babysat in the early aughts.

Now we pay for their Ubers.

Anonymous wrote:Times have changed. Never let a grown man take a teenage babysitter home alone. One false accusation or misunderstanding will destroy your husband’s life. One creepy dad’s advances will destroy your teenage daughter’s life.

Yeah, we all did it in the 90’s and it wasn’t smart then but it was a far less fraught time.

When I babysat, it was a mix of the mom, dad or my parents. When I was old enough I drove. One family had me walk home alone at 1 AM and that was the last time I sat for them. I as a bit scared and ran home but at least was only a few blocks. My parents were furious. Nothing bad happened.

Times have changed. Never let a grown man take a teenage babysitter home alone. One false accusation or misunderstanding will destroy your husband’s life. One creepy dad’s advances will destroy your teenage daughter’s life.

Yeah, we all did it in the 90’s and it wasn’t smart then but it was a far less fraught time.

As a teen babysitter in the late 90s, it was always the dads. Nothing inappropriate ever happened (and I remember I had a huge crush on one of these dads).

We only use sitters who can drive because we don't get out much sans kids and when we do, we are Ubering and having a few drinks.

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Anonymous wrote:Moms, although that certainly wasn’t the norm when I was a babysitter!

Same! I had to think about who drove me home 40 years ago. Typically it was the dad. Never had any issues.

+1, and I recall feeling awkward but I had no issues. Today, I (mom) would do it.

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All our sitters are adults, and if they don't have a car, i pay for an uber home.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why this would be an issue unless dad is a creep.

That’s the point. Hard to know if dad is a creep in advance. And the sexual orientation of the babysitter doesn’t matter if the dad is predatory.

So instead you put them in a Lyft/Uber with a completely unknown man. Makes sense I guess.

Why are you assuming the Uber driver is male?

Lol. Are you new to Uber? The drivers are easily >80% male.