Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 14:30     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:It’s wildly in appropriate to open someone’s mail and eat their birthday gift. I can’t believe there are posters unaware of this.


+1

And just imagine what else that woman gets into when you aren’t at home to supervise. She obviously has no boundaries. I honestly wouldn’t invite her into my home again.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 14:22     Subject: Re:MIL ate my birthday chocolates
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Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine my MIL opening my packages. What if it was a kinky sex toy?!


You got this big vibrator today in the mail. I tested it out for you and it seems to work well. XO-MIL


Lol. This was definitely hilarious

For the record OP you are a saint for putting up with your MILs petty garbage while being so thoughtful. I hope your DH does the explaining as to the fact that HE doesn’t feel comfortable having them stay in the future.


Thing is, as long as I made arrangements for a sitter—my parents, my aunt/uncle, my cousin, one of our friends, my brother—it would never occur to him that his family needed “a turn.” I have gone out of my way to be “fair” about this sort of thing, and to make sure that our kids spend fairly equal time with both of our families. That stops now. From now on, if we go away for a night or a few nights, it’s going to be someone I can fully trust watching my kids. DH’s parents can visit when we are home, and we will still occasionally go on vacation with him. But I don’t even need to declare to DH or to MIL/FIL no more unsupervised visits. They will simply never be in our home alone again.


Sigh. You sound like a 2-year-old having a tantrum. You've done everything except stomp your feet. Have you ever considered that you have to control your emotions and your behaviors? I haven't read all of your posts but I did read the OP and a couple others. You need to get ahold of yourself. You cannot be setting up a good model for your children to follow if you're constantly having these strong outbursts. Remember that what you do is what they will do. Try to reign in your strong emotions and act more maturely.

Looks like OP’s MIL is in the house.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 12:48     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
My ILs came to visit and one day while we were at work collected our mail for the day from the mailbox and opened everything. Including a pay stub and a credit card card bill. They were not here to do us any favors, just visiting for a too long time. That was the last time we’ve ever left them alone in our house. Perhaps they got what they wished though since they seem to think we should use all of our vacation days to sit in our house with them when they stay for 2+ weeks.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 12:45     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Obviously OP is not upset over the actual gift. If it had been lost in the mail she wouldn’t have the same reaction. It’s her MIL crazy behavior that she is understandably upset about.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 12:30     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
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Anonymous wrote:That's rude of her but you are overreacting. Surely she left some for you, right? And wouldn't you have offered to share since they were at your house anyway?


+1


There’s no such thing as “leaving some” of someone’s birthday present for them unless it was specifically offered to you. Clearly you two were raided in a barn. You really think it’s OK to open someone’s mail and help yourself to their gifts?!


Both posters say it was rude. Both posters say that the OP is overreacting. I agree.

IMO the OP isn't working on an even keel. Maybe she is undiagnosed manic or bi-polar or something but the screaming about a box of chocolates is a little over the top and indicates a deeper problem than what she is presenting.

DP. You are literally making up facts to attack the OP and justify your own deranged refusal to respect other people’s boundaries.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 12:03     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:It’s wildly in appropriate to open someone’s mail and eat their birthday gift. I can’t believe there are posters unaware of this.


It truly is bizarre. I’m guessing they are power-play/boundary-stomping MILs themselves. Control yourself, Linda!
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 12:01     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Mountain Man Nut & Fruit Chocolates?
Absolutely delicious!
https://mtnman.com/collections/chocolates
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 12:00     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
It’s wildly in appropriate to open someone’s mail and eat their birthday gift. I can’t believe there are posters unaware of this.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 11:59     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Was she high? Unless she was baked out of her mind and got the munchies I don’t understand how she could possibly rationalize opening someone’s mail, finding that it was a birthday gift, and eating the contents.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 11:56     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Was the box marked perishable? I could maybe understand then opening it in case it needed to be refrigerated. But she definitely should have waited to let you see it and be the first to sample.

Does she lack impulse control around food in general?
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 11:55     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I mean… she stayed overnight with your kids? Worth a few chocolates I think.


If the box was sitting around the house, sure. But the issue for me would have been that she opened a package that arrived.


+1
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 11:54     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:I mean… she stayed overnight with your kids? Worth a few chocolates I think.


If the box was sitting around the house, sure. But the issue for me would have been that she opened a package that arrived.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 11:51     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That's rude of her but you are overreacting. Surely she left some for you, right? And wouldn't you have offered to share since they were at your house anyway?


+1


There’s no such thing as “leaving some” of someone’s birthday present for them unless it was specifically offered to you. Clearly you two were raided in a barn. You really think it’s OK to open someone’s mail and help yourself to their gifts?!


No point in arguing with these two. They’ve got no home training.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 11:50     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Some of you really don’t get that more than one poster are commenting on—wait for it—a discussion forum, and they happen to disagree with you.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 11:46     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That's rude of her but you are overreacting. Surely she left some for you, right? And wouldn't you have offered to share since they were at your house anyway?


+1


There’s no such thing as “leaving some” of someone’s birthday present for them unless it was specifically offered to you. Clearly you two were raided in a barn. You really think it’s OK to open someone’s mail and help yourself to their gifts?!


Both posters say it was rude. Both posters say that the OP is overreacting. I agree.

IMO the OP isn't working on an even keel. Maybe she is undiagnosed manic or bi-polar or something but the screaming about a box of chocolates is a little over the top and indicates a deeper problem than what she is presenting.


“Screaming?” Show me the screaming. OP isn’t so much as bringing this up to MIL. Show me where she screamed. Are you mentally stable? Because you are acting like your fantasy of her screaming is reality. It is not. Seek help if you frequently suffer delusions.



Here ya go, sweet cheeks:

I am so flipping mad. I can’t believe she would open a package for me, let alone open AND EAT a birthday present FOR ME from my parents!


DP. I read it the same way. "flipping mad" "AND EAT" "FOR ME" all indicate screaming to me.