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Anonymous wrote:Order tandoori chicken in pieces from Indian buffet restaurant.

Chicken at a vegetarian potluck?

Well. We are not veg and want meat at dinner.

WTAF?! Have you never interacted with other people before?

I’ve never been “invited” to feed the hosts.

Don't go to a potluck, then, if this bothers you so much. I hate potlucks, personally, so I avoid them unless it's a really good friend or I otherwise want the specific company.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Order tandoori chicken in pieces from Indian buffet restaurant.

Chicken at a vegetarian potluck?

Well. We are not veg and want meat at dinner.

WTAF?! Have you never interacted with other people before?

I’ve never been “invited” to feed the hosts.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Order tandoori chicken in pieces from Indian buffet restaurant.

Chicken at a vegetarian potluck?

Well. We are not veg and want meat at dinner.

WTAF?! Have you never interacted with other people before?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. This is real, honestly I couldn’t make this up. The host is Indian.

Potluck hasn’t happened yet - don’t want to give more details as I don’t want to be outed as gossiping about these people, but hey, maybe I do so we don’t get invited again.

I was thinking about asking DH to make some yogurt and spice marinated chicken and acting oblivious to the “subji” request.

Are the hosts religious vegetarians?

Not that I’m aware of but I don’t know them well and not sure how to ask

You don't need to ask them about their religious beliefs. If you are insisting on bringing a meat dish after being asked to bring a vegetarian one, just ask. You are going to come across rude either way (at the part or beforehand), so just get it over with. Say, "I'm thinking of bringing chicken, is that okay?" They will say "No, we don't allow any meat in the house", or "Sure, maybe some fo the other guests will eat it", or whatever. Would you bring ham sandwiches to a Jewish person's house? Probably not, at least not without asking first. So FFS ask! Or just don't go if this is such a problem for you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. This is real, honestly I couldn’t make this up. The host is Indian.

Potluck hasn’t happened yet - don’t want to give more details as I don’t want to be outed as gossiping about these people, but hey, maybe I do so we don’t get invited again.

I was thinking about asking DH to make some yogurt and spice marinated chicken and acting oblivious to the “subji” request.

Are the hosts religious vegetarians?

Not that I’m aware of but I don’t know them well and not sure how to ask

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This is real, honestly I couldn’t make this up. The host is Indian.

Potluck hasn’t happened yet - don’t want to give more details as I don’t want to be outed as gossiping about these people, but hey, maybe I do so we don’t get invited again.

I was thinking about asking DH to make some yogurt and spice marinated chicken and acting oblivious to the “subji” request.

Are the hosts religious vegetarians?

OP here. This is real, honestly I couldn’t make this up. The host is Indian.

Potluck hasn’t happened yet - don’t want to give more details as I don’t want to be outed as gossiping about these people, but hey, maybe I do so we don’t get invited again.

I was thinking about asking DH to make some yogurt and spice marinated chicken and acting oblivious to the “subji” request.

Anonymous wrote:I'm also Indian - growing up, ALL the dinners were potlucks, but the host usually provided the main dishes while guests brought the sides (dokla, roti, raita, a dessert, salad, etc.). As a PP said, you need to be able to feed your guests if someone doesn't show or doesn't bring food.

God, I miss those Indian potlucks of my youth, with all the aunties cooking AMAZING food (and the uncles sitting around drinking and not daring to enter the kitchen). I don't have enough Indian friends who can cook to recreate that.

Agree with those who say the host couldn't be Indian, because this isn't how Indian potlucks work, and no Indian person would ever have an "Indian-themed" anything. Host should prepare more food, FFS. Bring some samosas and be done with it.

-another Indian-American

Anonymous wrote:You all should show up with rice and naan. Then pretend that you thought the host will be providing subjis. Take just one bottle of kingfisher and pretend it was also BYOB. Then sit and sip your beer and watch them lose it!

Be sure to eat before you get there!

So, OP, how did it go?! We want the update!

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Anonymous wrote:Indian hosts and they don't feel compelled to provide the bulk, or at least an equal part of the meal? Bizarre, and they are being super rude and inhospitable. -- Indian person.

Such a bizarre behavior from an Indian. I can think of several reasons -

- Host was adopted by an American missionary couple as an infant, has no connection with India..
- Host married a non-Indian. He is eating what his wife tells him to eat
- Host is getting back at all the people who did not reciprocate after stuffing their faces at his parties
- Host has severe IBS and his own diet consists of rice.
- Host thinks that his friends are not very sophisticated about ethnic or foreign food and will not mind eating just rice.
- OP is a troll

Anonymous wrote:Indian hosts and they don't feel compelled to provide the bulk, or at least an equal part of the meal? Bizarre, and they are being super rude and inhospitable. -- Indian person.

Such a bizarre behavior from an Indian. I can think of several reasons -

- Host was adopted by an American missionary couple as an infant, has no connection with India..
- Host married a non-Indian. He is eating what his wife tells him to eat
- Host is getting back at all the people who did not reciprocate after stuffing their faces at his parties
- Host has severe IBS and his own diet consists of rice.
- Host thinks that his friends are not very sophisticated about ethnic or foreign food and will not mind eating just rice.
- OP is a troll

There has been a lot of talk about how weird this invitation is but it’s still not enough.

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Anonymous wrote:Host invited us and after we confirmed dates, told us it was going to be an indian-themed potluck. Host is making rice and naan and asked all the guests to bring a subji. I don’t make Indian food. What the hell am I supposed to do in this situation?

Bring some fry bread?

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Anonymous wrote:Yup.

Troll fail OP aka Gene wannabe.

You really think we would believe an Indian would tell you it’s ‘Indian Theme’ potluck. And ask a non-Indian to bring Indian sabzi!?

We don’t consider our own food to be a theme.

Eh. I wish this was a troll fail but unfortunately real life, which is why I felt the need to post. I get the skepticism though.

I do find it hard to believe an Indian person would say to bring a sabzi … they would have said an Indian vegetarian dish.

Yeah, my guess is that these folks are white vegetarians or vegans. If you are veg then Indian is a common cuisine and maybe in their circles they’ve been to a lot of gatherings where Indian dishes were served, and they also don’t get the whole rice/bread is cheap thing because they don’t come from poor/MC families where hosting well means hosting bountifully. Like they probably thought it would be amazing if they made homemade naan because that plus cheese is dinner for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Yup.

Troll fail OP aka Gene wannabe.

You really think we would believe an Indian would tell you it’s ‘Indian Theme’ potluck. And ask a non-Indian to bring Indian sabzi!?

We don’t consider our own food to be a theme.

Eh. I wish this was a troll fail but unfortunately real life, which is why I felt the need to post. I get the skepticism though.

I do find it hard to believe an Indian person would say to bring a sabzi … they would have said an Indian vegetarian dish.