Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. How did she "lie to you"? Did you ever ask her if she slept with him?

OP never said she lied to him. Those were posters making stuff up. He said he didn’t care that they slept together. He was more hurt that his gf and best friend didn’t tell him they knew each other or slept together. Can you imagine that you didn’t know for a year that they knew each other and had slept together two weeks before meeting you? His best friend told him that his gf begged him not to tell him. OP is right to be upset.

OP here. In all fairness, I told her I needed some time to think things over. Would you want to sleep in the bed with someone who lied to you for a whole year about banging your best friend?

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. How did she "lie to you"? Did you ever ask her if she slept with him?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:he said he left. he said he didn't talk to her. he said he "didn't even know she left after a couple days".

so after 2 days of stonewalling and neglect and passive aggressiveness on OP's part, she went to stay with family.

nothing about her being mad. it's not "being mad" to want to talk to an understanding or at least have a talk.

she has nothing to be guilty about.

i guess she should have broke it off immediately when OP happed generally about "never wanting to date people my friends went on a couple dates with."

OP here. I wasn’t going to come back on here but then I saw this. I have no idea where you’re getting your “ facts” because I said none of this.

I never once said I left. If you read my replies from 20:26 and 21:36, you will see that I explained what happened and it was none of what you just lied about.

I never once left. I said I slept on the couch. We were cordial but I told her I needed time to process everything before talking. She was mad I wouldn’t talked and was gone when I woke up one morning. She texted me that she was going to stay with her sister until we figure things out.

Did I leave? No? Did I refuse to talk to her? No. We talked but just not about the situation. Did I know she was gone? Now until about an hour later when I woke up. She left at 7am.

I did say in my replies she was mad that I needed time and wouldn’t talk to her right away about it. I said I needed time before I said something I would regret.

I never said I didn’t want to date someone my friend went on dates with. Again, another lie to fit your narrative and act like you’re right. I jokingly said I wouldn’t want to date someone I found out that my friend banged. It was a joke while watching some tv show.

So, instead of making up your own facts to a situation that doesn’t involve you to feel like you somehow know better than other posters, at least get your facts straight. PP was right, you weren’t.

Anonymous wrote:My gf and I of a year are in a really bad place and I need some advice. We met online and we very happy for the past year until I found out she slept with my best friend right before we got together. I wasn’t so much hurt it happened, but more so that she didn’t tell me about it. I had to hear about it from him. I needed a couple days to cool off and things have been strained. We haven’t been sleeping together this weekend and last night she decided to leave and go stay with her sister. I reached out to her after realizing she was gone and she said she is starting to question the whole relationship because of the way I handled things. I felt it was best to cool off and think about things before saying something I would regret. Now it’s turned into an even worse situation and I’m starting to worry it’s beyond repair.

Anonymous wrote:So did she tell you the dates, names, ages of everyone else she slept with? And vice versa.

You know, people like Op might want to cross check if any neighbors, coworkers, cousins or friends are lying to him as well. You know, saw the pics posted and stayed like lying cheating a holes Op thinks they must be.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:he said he left. he said he didn't talk to her. he said he "didn't even know she left after a couple days".

so after 2 days of stonewalling and neglect and passive aggressiveness on OP's part, she went to stay with family.

nothing about her being mad. it's not "being mad" to want to talk to an understanding or at least have a talk.

she has nothing to be guilty about.

i guess she should have broke it off immediately when OP happed generally about "never wanting to date people my friends went on a couple dates with."

OP here. I wasn’t going to come back on here but then I saw this. I have no idea where you’re getting your “ facts” because I said none of this.

I never once said I left. If you read my replies from 20:26 and 21:36, you will see that I explained what happened and it was none of what you just lied about.

I never once left. I said I slept on the couch. We were cordial but I told her I needed time to process everything before talking. She was mad I wouldn’t talked and was gone when I woke up one morning. She texted me that she was going to stay with her sister until we figure things out.

Did I leave? No? Did I refuse to talk to her? No. We talked but just not about the situation. Did I know she was gone? Now until about an hour later when I woke up. She left at 7am.

I did say in my replies she was mad that I needed time and wouldn’t talk to her right away about it. I said I needed time before I said something I would regret.

I never said I didn’t want to date someone my friend went on dates with. Again, another lie to fit your narrative and act like you’re right. I jokingly said I wouldn’t want to date someone I found out that my friend banged. It was a joke while watching some tv show.

So, instead of making up your own facts to a situation that doesn’t involve you to feel like you somehow know better than other posters, at least get your facts straight. PP was right, you weren’t.