Anonymous wrote:This thread is so depressing.

Really? I found it reassuring actually. It’s great to see so many women who don’t feel they have to be married gain.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$4.1mm in real estate (net of cap gain, still have mortgage $850k).
Income from real estate: $250,000/year
Employment income $60,000/year (mommy-tracked and recently went back to corporate)

43 y.o., one child almost college age; high net worth dad finances college.

I feel poor after a marriage with $1mm annual income where I could afford anything. Would marry again but only someone with assets and higher income than mine. I dont believe in marriage for love. Mine was for love and it fell apart in adultery. Partnership, good sex, common goals - this I believe into

Looking past the “I feel poor” comment for a minute, can you explain what happened re: the adultery, how it affected the marriage, the aftermath, and why it ended in divorce?

18 years together (married while both young professionals, not much money at all). He's very energetic, me too. Initially we were excellent business partners, not just husband&wife. We've built a small real estate empire during 17-year long marriage. I retained most of it. He built one more company in a finance field and was sleeping with his business partner for 5 years, before I found you. I confronted him, he initially asked for divorce and announced me a separation. But 1.5 years after, he didn't file for a divorce, and settlement negotiations tanked when he figured how much it would cost

I filed, got rentals, he kept his other business. Our son completely dishonored him, living with me. My exH is very insecure, angry man since divorce (my son tells he snaps almost each time they meet). He's still with his mistress but it doesn't look like any one got happier after the divorce.

I am probably happier, not living with adulterer anymore and having my own money. But I feel lonely.

Anonymous wrote:Women who make over $200,000 are in the top 3 percent of earners.

Male, 56, salary $160k, $900k (in 401k, Roth, brokerage). Expect $1 million inheritance. Fed retirement income (FERS + SS) will be about $110k. I lost a great deal in my divorce but ex-w was not able to steal any of my Fed retirement. Will not put my hard work and retirement at risk again.

They certainly are not, but they might be in the top 3% of female earners.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorced at 42, now 51. Would never say that I would never remarry, but . . . I don't NEED to, financially or emotionally. So I've passed over at least 3 men who would have gone down the path to marriage because I will only make that commitment for a really healthy relationship, and we didn't have that. I would have had to be what these men needed me to be to have a successful marriage, rather than who I am, because it was all about their needs. I feel like most middle aged divorced guys can only think about themselves, and that doesn't interest me. Because I have my own money and don't feel social pressure to be married. So . . . why do it?

[Perhaps the same is true for middle aged divorced women - I only know who I meet dating]

I feel like most middle aged divorced woman can only think about themselves.

I find the opposite. They are the ones that help everybody.. the friend with cancer, the local food bank, the widow in the neighborhood, their parents, their nieces/nephews.

Now that their life blood isn’t being sucked out of the day in and day out they are there for everybody. They are free to be the loving supportive friend, the good daughter, the sister and aunt they want to be.

No baby at home “take care of” day in a d day out or pouting because they don’t get enough attention.

You're able to climb down off your cross and do all those things?

Anonymous wrote:I’m equally unimpressed by women and this forum isn’t doing anything to change my mind. Every time I peruse this site it reinforces my decision to never marry again. Thank you ladies. Please keep it up.

I joined here to find out about real estate and school districts, the wound up reading here. Yes, it's a daily reminder that women are horrible and I should be gay.

Women who make over $200,000 are in the top 3 percent of earners.

Male, 56, salary $160k, $900k (in 401k, Roth, brokerage). Expect $1 million inheritance. Fed retirement income (FERS + SS) will be about $110k. I lost a great deal in my divorce but ex-w was not able to steal any of my Fed retirement. Will not put my hard work and retirement at risk again.

Anonymous wrote:You folks who “have your own retirement” and will never remarry, just curious what is your income and net worth?

Male, 46, income $700k year and net worth about 2.5M.

59 widower.will never remarry after reading this board. Love my dating life but this is a real eye opener. Such a large gethering of miserable married people. If I ever get the urge to marry again, I'll just read the board for 10 MI s and snap right out of it.

Anonymous wrote:$4.1mm in real estate (net of cap gain, still have mortgage $850k).
Income from real estate: $250,000/year
Employment income $60,000/year (mommy-tracked and recently went back to corporate)

43 y.o., one child almost college age; high net worth dad finances college.

I feel poor after a marriage with $1mm annual income where I could afford anything. Would marry again but only someone with assets and higher income than mine. I dont believe in marriage for love. Mine was for love and it fell apart in adultery. Partnership, good sex, common goals - this I believe into

Looking past the “I feel poor” comment for a minute, can you explain what happened re: the adultery, how it affected the marriage, the aftermath, and why it ended in divorce?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$4.1mm in real estate (net of cap gain, still have mortgage $850k).
Income from real estate: $250,000/year
Employment income $60,000/year (mommy-tracked and recently went back to corporate)

43 y.o., one child almost college age; high net worth dad finances college.

I feel poor after a marriage with $1mm annual income where I could afford anything. Would marry again but only someone with assets and higher income than mine. I dont believe in marriage for love. Mine was for love and it fell apart in adultery. Partnership, good sex, common goals - this I believe into

Sounds like you married for love and ended up with money. Why NOT go for love when you have so much?

Talk about money not buying happiness…

Anonymous wrote:$4.1mm in real estate (net of cap gain, still have mortgage $850k).
Income from real estate: $250,000/year
Employment income $60,000/year (mommy-tracked and recently went back to corporate)

43 y.o., one child almost college age; high net worth dad finances college.

I feel poor after a marriage with $1mm annual income where I could afford anything. Would marry again but only someone with assets and higher income than mine. I dont believe in marriage for love. Mine was for love and it fell apart in adultery. Partnership, good sex, common goals - this I believe into

Sounds like you married for love and ended up with money. Why NOT go for love when you have so much?

$4.1mm in real estate (net of cap gain, still have mortgage $850k).
Income from real estate: $250,000/year
Employment income $60,000/year (mommy-tracked and recently went back to corporate)

43 y.o., one child almost college age; high net worth dad finances college.

I feel poor after a marriage with $1mm annual income where I could afford anything. Would marry again but only someone with assets and higher income than mine. I dont believe in marriage for love. Mine was for love and it fell apart in adultery. Partnership, good sex, common goals - this I believe into

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You folks who “have your own retirement” and will never remarry, just curious what is your income and net worth?

$190/yr

IRA $1.5M
Retirement $60K/yr
House will be paid off at 62

Income $220/yr earned
IRA + Roth $250K
Brokerage $3.5M
Do not own a home
Maybe $1M in non-liquid real estate investment that could go up or down
50 yo

If you have an investment real estate, you do own a home

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You folks who “have your own retirement” and will never remarry, just curious what is your income and net worth?

$190/yr

IRA $1.5M
Retirement $60K/yr
House will be paid off at 62

Income $220/yr earned
IRA + Roth $250K
Brokerage $3.5M
Do not own a home
Maybe $1M in non-liquid real estate investment that could go up or down
50 yo

I am the original poster who mentioned women often have their own retirements. I make much less than these two but still feel fine.

Income: 118k
Retirement: 650k
Cash: 215k (soon to go into property)
Early 40s

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You folks who “have your own retirement” and will never remarry, just curious what is your income and net worth?

$190/yr

IRA $1.5M
Retirement $60K/yr
House will be paid off at 62

Income $220/yr earned
IRA + Roth $250K
Brokerage $3.5M
Do not own a home
Maybe $1M in non-liquid real estate investment that could go up or down
50 yo