Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 22:36     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:If you are grown up enough to get married then you are are grown up enough to get a hotel room.


This
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 20:54     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
Ugh, sorry, op.

I'd say no, don't have the room.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 20:54     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
I can’t believe this is up for debate. Proving once again that DCUM attracts a high percentage of antisocial people. (No brainer for me and I’m an introvert who is not particularly aocial(.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 20:54     Subject: Re:BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:“Sounds like fun for Larlo! Please make sure there’s food and drinks for them, and make sure everything is put away before we leave for the ceremony. You’re such a great brother!”


Are you always this condescending to your husband or is it just around him family.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 20:53     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is it with all these adult siblings who can’t be generous and gracious for a few hours on a sibling’s wedding day?


It's called boundaries with siblings who are failure to launch.


So now a sibling getting married is a failure to launch?


A sibling who is too cheap or lazy to book a hotel room to hang out in before the ceremony is. 100%.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 20:05     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
I feel sorry for your henpecked husband. Remember it's his house too.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 20:02     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
I assume the groomsmen will come dressed. They arent doing hair and makeup. They are just going to hang out for a little while.

No big deal.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 20:00     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
It is the right and generous thing to do, OP.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 19:49     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
I think it's fair to say no as long as you're consistent and clear about your inability to host and follow through on that. You don’t do dinner parties, no summer BBQs, no Thanksgiving or kids Birthday parties, etc.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 19:28     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is it with all these adult siblings who can’t be generous and gracious for a few hours on a sibling’s wedding day?


It's called boundaries with siblings who are failure to launch.


So now a sibling getting married is a failure to launch?
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 19:26     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
Do it
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 19:24     Subject: Re:BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:“Sounds like fun for Larlo! Please make sure there’s food and drinks for them, and make sure everything is put away before we leave for the ceremony. You’re such a great brother!”


Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 19:21     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
I’m a total introvert and not huge on having company in my house. For this I would be saying yes. I would have a cleaner come the day before and order sandwiches etc like mentioned above. I would not be worried in the least about leftovers getting wrapped up or put away.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 19:06     Subject: Re:BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
“Sounds like fun for Larlo! Please make sure there’s food and drinks for them, and make sure everything is put away before we leave for the ceremony. You’re such a great brother!”
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 19:05     Subject: BIL wants to use our house to get ready for wedding — WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:of course you say yes. this sounds like a blast.


A blast for the guys, definitely.

Maybe not so much for the lady that has to clean the house before and after, arrange the food, make sure it all gets put away and crumbs are wiped down before she puts her dress on, get ready and wrangle the kids (and make sure she's decent whenever she pops out of her bedroom to take care of any of these things).

It's a pain in the ass at best, and they should be very grateful if she does it.


Well life is short and we do things for those we love. Run a vacuum and take out the trash. NBD. So many uptight people. Geez.