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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Relative is vegetarian. We always have pizza in the night before Thanksgiving. (About 20 oeople) We always avoid meat to keep this relative happy on pizza night They emailed tonight, will there be vegetarian options or should I bring my own food?

YES we remember your food preferences and as always are accommodating. We note that you are a better person than the rest of us! Why do we need to discuss it every time??! Do you do this to your friends every time you eat somewhere?

She is the more polite one here. She’s checking in on the plan. Maybe you decided to change it up this year. She’s offering to bring something for herself just in case.

What’s the problem? Does it hit some latent guilt you have about meat-eating?? I don’t get it.

You would really ask your sibling if you should bring your own meal every time you are invited over (when they serve a meal that is completely geared around your preference)

If it’s a meal for a large number of people who aren’t vegetarian, nor is the host? Absolutely. It’s the correct thing to do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Relative is vegetarian. We always have pizza in the night before Thanksgiving. (About 20 oeople) We always avoid meat to keep this relative happy on pizza night They emailed tonight, will there be vegetarian options or should I bring my own food?

YES we remember your food preferences and as always are accommodating. We note that you are a better person than the rest of us! Why do we need to discuss it every time??! Do you do this to your friends every time you eat somewhere?

She is the more polite one here. She’s checking in on the plan. Maybe you decided to change it up this year. She’s offering to bring something for herself just in case.

What’s the problem? Does it hit some latent guilt you have about meat-eating?? I don’t get it.

'The usual pre thanksgiving pizza fest 'was the title of the email. As I said earlier I feel better after hearing from real people. You guys can continue if you like!

I get where you're coming from, since you've always been accommodating. I'm a vegetarian, and I can guarantee you that a large number of people who've hosted this relative have not been accommodating, and have not provided much of anything that the relative can eat. It's not personal, and the vegetarian relative is trying to be both low maintenance and make sure there's something they can eat. They probably do this kind of automatically for any gathering after being burned many times in the past.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Relative is vegetarian. We always have pizza in the night before Thanksgiving. (About 20 oeople) We always avoid meat to keep this relative happy on pizza night They emailed tonight, will there be vegetarian options or should I bring my own food?

YES we remember your food preferences and as always are accommodating. We note that you are a better person than the rest of us! Why do we need to discuss it every time??! Do you do this to your friends every time you eat somewhere?

She is the more polite one here. She’s checking in on the plan. Maybe you decided to change it up this year. She’s offering to bring something for herself just in case.

What’s the problem? Does it hit some latent guilt you have about meat-eating?? I don’t get it.

You would really ask your sibling if you should bring your own meal every time you are invited over (when they serve a meal that is completely geared around your preference)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Relative is vegetarian. We always have pizza in the night before Thanksgiving. (About 20 oeople) We always avoid meat to keep this relative happy on pizza night They emailed tonight, will there be vegetarian options or should I bring my own food?

YES we remember your food preferences and as always are accommodating. We note that you are a better person than the rest of us! Why do we need to discuss it every time??! Do you do this to your friends every time you eat somewhere?

She is the more polite one here. She’s checking in on the plan. Maybe you decided to change it up this year. She’s offering to bring something for herself just in case.

What’s the problem? Does it hit some latent guilt you have about meat-eating?? I don’t get it.

'The usual pre thanksgiving pizza fest 'was the title of the email. As I said earlier I feel better after hearing from real people. You guys can continue if you like!

Sorry, "they" are my In-laws.

Anonymous wrote:I know you are right but really do you think I am going to invite you over and not serve food you will eat? It's a close relative not someone I only talk to once a year. There is a second vegetarian too. They are easy going about it. Oh don't worry ..I am fine with salad etc

My DD has had allergies since birth. They finally stopped making food with her allergies in it after 15 years of "forgetting". Friend is just asking and you shouldn't be offended.

Anonymous wrote:Relative is vegetarian. We always have pizza in the night before Thanksgiving. (About 20 oeople) We always avoid meat to keep this relative happy on pizza night They emailed tonight, will there be vegetarian options or should I bring my own food?

YES we remember your food preferences and as always are accommodating. We note that you are a better person than the rest of us! Why do we need to discuss it every time??! Do you do this to your friends every time you eat somewhere?

She is the more polite one here. She’s checking in on the plan. Maybe you decided to change it up this year. She’s offering to bring something for herself just in case.

What’s the problem? Does it hit some latent guilt you have about meat-eating?? I don’t get it.

Well while many DCUM clearly supports sibling's actions, 4 family members commented that we have always have a meal completely focused on the two vegetarians needs. They agreed it was an odd email or at least should have been worded differently. I feel better.

Anonymous wrote:I get worked up about dumb things too, but you are overthinking this and being overly critical. It's her way of reminding you and also not putting a burden on you and I think it's actually nice.

This. She’s fine bringing her own food. I would be ok with being asked.

Anonymous wrote:If you're getting pizza for 20, why not just get half with whatever meats people like, and half with just cheese or veg? No big deal.

No, it wasn't rude. They were not assuming people would remember how they eat (especially if you only eat with them once a year) and were trying to make things easy by offering to bring their own food.

By you saying "you are a better person than all of us" it's clear YOU have a chip on your shoulder and need to work on that.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Quick reply of having pizza like always- plain and cheese! They can then decide what to do and based on other posts here wouldn’t even say or feel free to bring own as read the horror posts of what people expect to be able to cook at other houses- but if silent on it, they can do what want.

What do you mean “plain and cheese?” Those are the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Frankly I’m amazed there hasn’t been a revolt from the other guests over all veggie pizzas.

They probably mean regular cheese pizza.

So? Its boring AF to only have one kind of pizza.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my vegetarian friend is at a social event that has meat options and a limited amount of food (vs a restaurant or a store that restocks) and they are offered say a hamburger, they will accept it with the rationale that an animal gave its life for this and it would be said if it was not at least eaten (and put in the trash).

lol this cannot be real.

That person isn't a vegetarian.

Ethical vegetarian. All terms for someone who wants to be vegetarian but will eat meat sometimes are:

Flexitarian: This is a combination of "flexible" and "vegetarian" and is the most common and accurate term. It describes someone who primarily eats plant-based foods but will eat meat on occasion.

Semi-vegetarian: This is another term that means the same thing as flexitarian, as the person is not a strict vegetarian but still eats a primarily plant-based diet.

Ethical Vegetarian: In some specific cases, a person might be described this way if their primary reason for not eating meat is ethical, and they choose to avoid wasting meat when it's presented.

Quick reply of having pizza like always- plain and cheese! They can then decide what to do and based on other posts here wouldn’t even say or feel free to bring own as read the horror posts of what people expect to be able to cook at other houses- but if silent on it, they can do what want.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my vegetarian friend is at a social event that has meat options and a limited amount of food (vs a restaurant or a store that restocks) and they are offered say a hamburger, they will accept it with the rationale that an animal gave its life for this and it would be said if it was not at least eaten (and put in the trash).

lol this cannot be real.

That person isn't a vegetarian.