Anonymous
11/15/2025 06:34
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?
For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.
Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?
Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?
I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.
I am allergic to crustaceans and had a severe reaction
smelling airborne proteins from cooking shellfish. Allergies should be taken into consideration when selecting the restaurant.
Taking Benadryl isn’t the same as anaphylactic shock and while it’s always important to be mindful of allergies you are an adult and can take precautions on your own. Your allergies should not dictate what everyone else can and cannot do as a group. Maybe everyone else likes this restaurant and wants to go and are leaving it up to you to choose what works for you, go or don’t your choice. The alternative is not inviting you how would that make you feel?
Anonymous
11/14/2025 21:21
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?
For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.
Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?
Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?
I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.
I am allergic to crustaceans and had a severe reaction
smelling airborne proteins from cooking shellfish. Allergies should be taken into consideration when selecting the restaurant.
Do you eat in the kitchen at restaurants?
Anonymous
11/14/2025 20:51
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?
For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.
Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?
Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?
I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.
I am allergic to crustaceans and had a severe reaction
smelling airborne proteins from cooking shellfish. Allergies should be taken into consideration when selecting the restaurant.
OK but OP could have and should have reminded them during the selection discussion!
But she didn't, too devastated that people didn't remember her allergy.
That's ridiculous.
Anonymous
11/14/2025 19:55
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?
For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.
Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?
Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?
I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.
I am allergic to crustaceans and had a severe reaction
smelling airborne proteins from cooking shellfish. Allergies should be taken into consideration when selecting the restaurant.
Oh, so you never go to restaurants that serve shrimp? Right.
Anonymous
11/14/2025 19:44
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?
For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.
Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?
Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?
I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.
I am allergic to crustaceans and had a severe reaction
smelling airborne proteins from cooking shellfish. Allergies should be taken into consideration when selecting the restaurant.
Anonymous
11/14/2025 19:29
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
This OP is one selfish idiot
Anonymous
11/14/2025 19:27
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Poor baby . Nobody gives a f about you boo
Anonymous
11/14/2025 18:52
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you reply that you don't eat at seafood restaurants due to your allergy?
OP here. I didn't reply at all because I don't want to make this about me. But Sarah knows my allergy and has seen me have an allergic reaction to a crab dip (thought it was artichoke dip) at a wedding a few years ago. I had to take a benadryl and go home.
I just would never suggest a place that I knew wouldn't work for someone. It seems deliberate.
BFD. You should have asked before eating mystery dip if you have allergies.
+100. This is not someone who is going to go into anaphalactic shock if she is in a room with shrimp. She's looking for drama.
There is cross contamination
Which you could have at any of the other restaurants suggested that also likely serve seafood that are apparently not a problem. OP doesn't say she won't eat at restaurants and reached in once to a strange dip and had to pop an OTC benadryl. BFD.
Anonymous
11/14/2025 18:52
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you reply that you don't eat at seafood restaurants due to your allergy?
OP here. I didn't reply at all because I don't want to make this about me. But Sarah knows my allergy and has seen me have an allergic reaction to a crab dip (thought it was artichoke dip) at a wedding a few years ago. I had to take a benadryl and go home.
I just would never suggest a place that I knew wouldn't work for someone. It seems deliberate.
Ok then you are way too high maintenance buh bye
Anonymous
11/14/2025 18:47
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you reply that you don't eat at seafood restaurants due to your allergy?
OP here. I didn't reply at all because I don't want to make this about me. But Sarah knows my allergy and has seen me have an allergic reaction to a crab dip (thought it was artichoke dip) at a wedding a few years ago. I had to take a benadryl and go home.
I just would never suggest a place that I knew wouldn't work for someone. It seems deliberate.
BFD. You should have asked before eating mystery dip if you have allergies.
+100. This is not someone who is going to go into anaphalactic shock if she is in a room with shrimp. She's looking for drama.
There is cross contamination
Anonymous
11/14/2025 18:46
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Anonymous wrote:If it’s not happening all the time, then I would just go because I want to spend time with my friends. The seafood restaurant is going to have something besides salad that you can eat. I am a vegetarian and if my friend group wound up going to a steakhouse, I would just suck it up and eat a mashed potato and some creamed spinach while enjoying being with my friends.
I am a vegetarian and would find something but this is an allergy not preference.
Anonymous
11/14/2025 18:41
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you reply that you don't eat at seafood restaurants due to your allergy?
OP here. I didn't reply at all because I don't want to make this about me. But Sarah knows my allergy and has seen me have an allergic reaction to a crab dip (thought it was artichoke dip) at a wedding a few years ago. I had to take a benadryl and go home.
I just would never suggest a place that I knew wouldn't work for someone. It seems deliberate.
BFD. You should have asked before eating mystery dip if you have allergies.
+100. This is not someone who is going to go into anaphalactic shock if she is in a room with shrimp. She's looking for drama.
Anonymous
11/14/2025 18:10
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
As a Vegetarian I never expect people to accommodate me, except my family.
Anonymous
11/14/2025 17:50
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
OP had a chance several were suggested. She didn't speak up because she is too high maintenance. OP you are not a friend to THEM because a friend would say something not STEW over FISH. Manipulative martyr much?
Anonymous
11/14/2025 17:45
Subject: Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go
OP, your outliner condition/situation doesn't decide it. You aren't entitled to that much power/control of others. They don't need to be *that* considerate of you. Go. Eat nothing if that is what's safest. It's suppose to be about enjoying the friends anyway.
When it's your turn to influence the restaurant choice, the next time, push or insist on something you want.
When it's your turn to influence the restaurant choice, the next time, push or insist on something you want.