Anonymous wrote:recommendations are one of the parts that are least cheat-able.

they're due when they're due.

the idea that a student would make up a deadline for a teacher is really bizarre to me. entitled, arrogant, annoying, gross. clueless .. all those things plus plus

Same. I cannot imagine giving a teacher a deadline made up by a teenager, just to relieve the teenager’s anxiety, or marching into office hours and announcing that you will sit there while the teacher does the recommendation. This is a FAVOR the teacher is doing, and making it as easy for the teacher as possible, while expressing gratitude is the only appropriate response.

We all work to deadlines because we are all very busy.

Thank you, teachers.

I know from personal experience in writing letters of recommendation that writing a good letter of recommendation takes a significant amount of time and thought. I know that you do it on your own time, and I know that you filled multiple letter requests from students. Your hard work on these is really important and is so appreciated!

My DC is a great student but is very shy, so they are working up their nerve to ask for letters of recommendation. They think they are “bothering” teachers, no matter how much I tell them that teachers will greatly appreciate as much heads-up advanced notice as possible.

You people are missing the point. Not blaming the teachers. Blaming this stupid system.

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Anonymous wrote:The teachers have found this thread and they are covering their asses

can you imagine if teachers starting posting due dates and then requiring everything in a week before the due date so zero reason?

well said.

Anonymous wrote:The teachers have found this thread and they are covering their asses

what are you even talking about.

can you imagine if teachers starting posting due dates and then requiring everything in a week before the due date so zero reason?

these are the same kids - and parents - who demand retakes I bet

when your kid doesnt get in and you can't imagine why when they had the stats and the essays - remember this comment thread.

Teachers and the HS do not "help" the student get into college, not in most cases. They don't listen to the student's timeline re: application strategy. When given plenty of notice, why not be helpful? They aren't The teachers are doing the bare minimum, and actually might sabotage the kid's chances.

Land the helicopter. Check in Naviance or whatever tool your school uses. It is still October. Colleges don’t penalize student for late references. If not in by the 8th of November follow-up.

Adjust thank you fee based on timeliness of submission.

The teachers have found this thread and they are covering their asses

My kid submitted his part of 6 EA and 1 ED apps weeks ago. The counselor and 1 of 2 teachers have not submitted anything yet. They will take until the Nov 1 deadline.

Have kid talk to college counselor, who will hopefully check in with the teacher.

A kid is diligent without talking about talent, giftedness etc means they are bland grinders. A teacher not pointing out a kids ability to lead class discussions or stand out will be seen as blah. ... A recommendation doesn’t need to be negative to actually be negative

Geez. pp you're probably right but for most of us our kid doesn't need to be the-perfect-human to get into the college they want.

Anonymous wrote:I trust all these kids will get the letters of recommendation they deserve.

yup

To the teacher: parents appreciate what you do! There’s anxiety if the deadline is very close and something should go sideways. Internet outage, family emergency, sick child, and other things can come up at the last minute. Or, if it happened that a file was thought to be uploaded but it’s discovered a day or two later it didn’t take. That’s why we try to get the applications in early to have a good buffer to account for unexpected circumstances, and have time to correct any problems that might come up.

Thank you for taking the time to help your students with this very important, and tense!, milestone in their lives!

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you teachers are gluttons for punishment. I cap the number of recommendations I do at 20. Even 20 takes a long time. And I say no if a kid asks me and I can think of nothing positive to say about them.

I get a lot of pressure from the college counselors. But yea, I next year I'm going to say no to most for sure. My issue this year is the amount of entitled and demanding emails I keep getting from parents, and from parents pretending to be students using their student's email.

Next year it stops.

Trust me, no child or parent wants to rely on someone like you to get into college. We all hate this system as much as you do, maybe even more because it leaves our kids at the mercy of an overworked disguntled teacher who would rather spend Saturday and Sunday complaining on a message board than just knocking it out.

Anonymous wrote:Some of you teachers are gluttons for punishment. I cap the number of recommendations I do at 20. Even 20 takes a long time. And I say no if a kid asks me and I can think of nothing positive to say about them.

I get a lot of pressure from the college counselors. But yea, I next year I'm going to say no to most for sure. My issue this year is the amount of entitled and demanding emails I keep getting from parents, and from parents pretending to be students using their student's email.

Next year it stops.