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Anonymous wrote:This is just great. If all the parents coached their daughters like this, women would still not have the right to vote. Go wonder why women are paid less for the same jobs. You don't even have to blame men, just look for mothers who teach their daughters that life is unfair and suggest to move on and ignore the injustice.

I can't wait for DD to have her next round of treatment and medication when less attractive girls get asked out and she doesn't.

I know this is an anonymous message board and that anonymity sometimes leads us to say things that we would never say to a person, but IMHO the last two comments crossed the line. Suggesting that this discussion is the reason women are paid less and that mothers are to blame for the way they raise their daughters is a comment better left to 4chan or some other alt social media site. This forum is about volleyball.

Then attacking the DD and suggesting that she will be using medication and/or treatment for other situations crosses an even bigger line. Behavioral health issues are real and belittling any person who is getting or considering help is wrong on both moral and medical grounds. I pray you and those close to you never have to deal with them.

It’s not “crossing the line” to point out that many experts agree that children in the US are both over-medicated and over-therapized. Maybe OPs kid is one of them, maybe she is not. People are allowed to have different opinions.

Go back and read exactly what the PP said in back-to-back posts:
They said the OPs parenting is the reason women are paid less and
They expect the DD to go to therapy and turn to medication when a “less attractive girl” gets a date.

The comments weren’t about children. They were statements targeted directly at females.

We are on a volleyball forum talking about a sport primarily played by girls and discussing a situation about a girl. And we have posters belittling mental health treatment and stating that this parent is the reason women don’t get paid equivalent wages.

I get it, this is how Internet forums work now. Posters make radical/aggressive statements and hide behind the anonymity because they know they would never say such thing in public where they could be seen for who they really are.

If that’s what you want this board to be, fine. If it’s not, then calling out PP who make clearly out of bounds, off-topics comments is a reasonably way to maintain the community we’d like to participate in. I think most participants would rather have a civil discourse that is focused on helping people.

Those are different PPs. I was the dating one. Yeah that was poorly chosen.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just great. If all the parents coached their daughters like this, women would still not have the right to vote. Go wonder why women are paid less for the same jobs. You don't even have to blame men, just look for mothers who teach their daughters that life is unfair and suggest to move on and ignore the injustice.

I can't wait for DD to have her next round of treatment and medication when less attractive girls get asked out and she doesn't.

I know this is an anonymous message board and that anonymity sometimes leads us to say things that we would never say to a person, but IMHO the last two comments crossed the line. Suggesting that this discussion is the reason women are paid less and that mothers are to blame for the way they raise their daughters is a comment better left to 4chan or some other alt social media site. This forum is about volleyball.

Then attacking the DD and suggesting that she will be using medication and/or treatment for other situations crosses an even bigger line. Behavioral health issues are real and belittling any person who is getting or considering help is wrong on both moral and medical grounds. I pray you and those close to you never have to deal with them.

It’s not “crossing the line” to point out that many experts agree that children in the US are both over-medicated and over-therapized. Maybe OPs kid is one of them, maybe she is not. People are allowed to have different opinions.

Go back and read exactly what the PP said in back-to-back posts:
They said the OPs parenting is the reason women are paid less and
They expect the DD to go to therapy and turn to medication when a “less attractive girl” gets a date.

The comments weren’t about children. They were statements targeted directly at females.

We are on a volleyball forum talking about a sport primarily played by girls and discussing a situation about a girl. And we have posters belittling mental health treatment and stating that this parent is the reason women don’t get paid equivalent wages.

I get it, this is how Internet forums work now. Posters make radical/aggressive statements and hide behind the anonymity because they know they would never say such thing in public where they could be seen for who they really are.

If that’s what you want this board to be, fine. If it’s not, then calling out PP who make clearly out of bounds, off-topics comments is a reasonably way to maintain the community we’d like to participate in. I think most participants would rather have a civil discourse that is focused on helping people.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just great. If all the parents coached their daughters like this, women would still not have the right to vote. Go wonder why women are paid less for the same jobs. You don't even have to blame men, just look for mothers who teach their daughters that life is unfair and suggest to move on and ignore the injustice.

I can't wait for DD to have her next round of treatment and medication when less attractive girls get asked out and she doesn't.

I know this is an anonymous message board and that anonymity sometimes leads us to say things that we would never say to a person, but IMHO the last two comments crossed the line. Suggesting that this discussion is the reason women are paid less and that mothers are to blame for the way they raise their daughters is a comment better left to 4chan or some other alt social media site. This forum is about volleyball.

Then attacking the DD and suggesting that she will be using medication and/or treatment for other situations crosses an even bigger line. Behavioral health issues are real and belittling any person who is getting or considering help is wrong on both moral and medical grounds. I pray you and those close to you never have to deal with them.

It’s not “crossing the line” to point out that many experts agree that children in the US are both over-medicated and over-therapized. Maybe OPs kid is one of them, maybe she is not. People are allowed to have different opinions.

Anonymous wrote:The parent needs to talk to people to learn to deal with her feelings and thus not feel like she's failing. Nobody I saw called the mother a failure but posters keep talking about how vile it is to do that. Yeah but whose voice is saying that?

Anonymous wrote:That is because of OP's failure as a parent.

Bottom line is OP made her kid obsessive about volleyball, no good parent does that.

OP's complaints about the other kid are ridiculous. OP is not a coach. OP has no idea how the coach sets up their team and fills in the talent.

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Anonymous wrote:This is just great. If all the parents coached their daughters like this, women would still not have the right to vote. Go wonder why women are paid less for the same jobs. You don't even have to blame men, just look for mothers who teach their daughters that life is unfair and suggest to move on and ignore the injustice.

I can't wait for DD to have her next round of treatment and medication when less attractive girls get asked out and she doesn't.

I know this is an anonymous message board and that anonymity sometimes leads us to say things that we would never say to a person, but IMHO the last two comments crossed the line. Suggesting that this discussion is the reason women are paid less and that mothers are to blame for the way they raise their daughters is a comment better left to 4chan or some other alt social media site. This forum is about volleyball.

Then attacking the DD and suggesting that she will be using medication and/or treatment for other situations crosses an even bigger line. Behavioral health issues are real and belittling any person who is getting or considering help is wrong on both moral and medical grounds. I pray you and those close to you never have to deal with them.