Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 16:37     Subject: NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:The COL in nyc is insane. My friends who I estimate earn 800-2m in nyc all live in a 2-3 bedroom apt. My one friend who probably earns around 500 and her DH probably earns close to 1m live in a 2 bedroom/den apt. Their daughter’s room is the “den”. This den is a wall off the living/dining room.

We live in close in dc suburbs (McLean) and live in a 15,000sf house and I’m fairly certain our house is the same price as their apt. Their kids’ rooms are smaller than my closet.


Lol. You live in a suburban McMansion. My friend who earns 800k in NYC lives in an amazing apartment overlooking Central Park with a world-class city at her feet. Square footage does not determine your quality of life no matter how proud you are of your gift wrapping room.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 16:35     Subject: Re:NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. I'm new to how lawyers get paid. They don't create anything. Why are new lawyers getting paid $850,000 a year and complaining about it? I don't feel like they're creating anything of value. These kind of salaries seem like a tax on the people that actually do things and create things. This entire discussion reads like a bunch of parasites discussing their next victim. A completely BS profession. [/
She’s not a new lawyer but a new partner. And may have 300K in educational debt. Plus 850 is not her salary. If you, for instance, are a normal emlpllyee making 100K salary, your full roll up is probably more like 160 with employer side taxes and benefits. Plus she needs to pay into the capital account at her firm. So 850 as a law firm partner is more like 600 or so as an employee at a normal place. But I agree law firm partners are ridiculously overcompensated in many places. And NYC is ridiculously expensive for anyone. Both things are true.


Her monthly draw is 21k— there’s a big gap between that and 850 or even 600.


She probably also takes a quarterly tax draw to pay her quarterly taxes as of course taxes aren’t withheld. So those might total more than 400K. Then the rest goes to her capital acccount. Very few people voluntarily under-draw. There’s no benefit in it.


But she gets an annual lump sum in addition to the monthly draw, correct?


Maybe. It depends how she sets her draw. If shes short on cash for monthly expenses I don’t know why she’d save it up for a lump sum. It might be something like:
21K month draw
35K a month put towards tax expenses, social security etc
5K a month towards health insurances for family
7K a month towards pension contribution and stuff like life insurance policy
3K a month towards capital contribution (I think that would be low for capital contribution actually)

Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 14:28     Subject: NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
The reddi personshould buy in Greenwich. Taxes are lower than Scarsdale, schools are still great and the town has a beach. There are nice homes for less than $2M. Or she could look in the river towns if she doesn’t live the Greenwich vibe.

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/24-Rippowam-Rd-Cos-Cob-CT-06807/57305145_zpid/
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 14:05     Subject: NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:LOL at the people who think the Main Line is nicer than Westchester.


She said Scarsdale, not a true upscale town like Bronxville or Bedford. That doesn’t even account for good families who go to schools like Episcopal and Haverford on the Main Line. It is much more elegant and a better pace of life.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 14:03     Subject: NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
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Anonymous wrote:3 kids is where the crazy property taxes of Westchester start to make a whole lot of sense. She can certainly find a house for around $1.5m with an easy train commute and great schools and local services. If anything many nice NYC burbs are undervalued due to the vast majority of pre-Covid price booms going to city properties instead. It’s crazy that houses in Scarsdale with the best schools in the country 25 minutes to NYC are as affordable as, say, Main Line Philly (albeit with higher taxes).


Scarsdale has nothing on NYC privates. Main Line Philly is nicer than Westchester, bigger lots and more civilized people.


But in Scarsdale you get a nice house, with space for all the kids and great schools and a decent commute


The main line you get a better commute, great public and private schools, and more space for a fraction of the cost. Less traffic too. Scarsdale property tax is a nightmare for what you get.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 13:48     Subject: NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
The COL in nyc is insane. My friends who I estimate earn 800-2m in nyc all live in a 2-3 bedroom apt. My one friend who probably earns around 500 and her DH probably earns close to 1m live in a 2 bedroom/den apt. Their daughter’s room is the “den”. This den is a wall off the living/dining room.

We live in close in dc suburbs (McLean) and live in a 15,000sf house and I’m fairly certain our house is the same price as their apt. Their kids’ rooms are smaller than my closet.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 13:08     Subject: NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
LOL at the people who think the Main Line is nicer than Westchester.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 11:44     Subject: Re:NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. I'm new to how lawyers get paid. They don't create anything. Why are new lawyers getting paid $850,000 a year and complaining about it? I don't feel like they're creating anything of value. These kind of salaries seem like a tax on the people that actually do things and create things. This entire discussion reads like a bunch of parasites discussing their next victim. A completely BS profession.


She’s not a new lawyer but a new partner. And may have 300K in educational debt. Plus 850 is not her salary. If you, for instance, are a normal emlpllyee making 100K salary, your full roll up is probably more like 160 with employer side taxes and benefits. Plus she needs to pay into the capital account at her firm. So 850 as a law firm partner is more like 600 or so as an employee at a normal place. But I agree law firm partners are ridiculously overcompensated in many places. And NYC is ridiculously expensive for anyone. Both things are true.


Her monthly draw is 21k— there’s a big gap between that and 850 or even 600.


She probably also takes a quarterly tax draw to pay her quarterly taxes as of course taxes aren’t withheld. So those might total more than 400K. Then the rest goes to her capital acccount. Very few people voluntarily under-draw. There’s no benefit in it.


But she gets an annual lump sum in addition to the monthly draw, correct?
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 11:40     Subject: Re:NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. I'm new to how lawyers get paid. They don't create anything. Why are new lawyers getting paid $850,000 a year and complaining about it? I don't feel like they're creating anything of value. These kind of salaries seem like a tax on the people that actually do things and create things. This entire discussion reads like a bunch of parasites discussing their next victim. A completely BS profession.


She’s not a new lawyer but a new partner. And may have 300K in educational debt. Plus 850 is not her salary. If you, for instance, are a normal emlpllyee making 100K salary, your full roll up is probably more like 160 with employer side taxes and benefits. Plus she needs to pay into the capital account at her firm. So 850 as a law firm partner is more like 600 or so as an employee at a normal place. But I agree law firm partners are ridiculously overcompensated in many places. And NYC is ridiculously expensive for anyone. Both things are true.


Her monthly draw is 21k— there’s a big gap between that and 850 or even 600.


She probably also takes a quarterly tax draw to pay her quarterly taxes as of course taxes aren’t withheld. So those might total more than 400K. Then the rest goes to her capital acccount. Very few people voluntarily under-draw. There’s no benefit in it.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 11:27     Subject: NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:3 kids is where the crazy property taxes of Westchester start to make a whole lot of sense. She can certainly find a house for around $1.5m with an easy train commute and great schools and local services. If anything many nice NYC burbs are undervalued due to the vast majority of pre-Covid price booms going to city properties instead. It’s crazy that houses in Scarsdale with the best schools in the country 25 minutes to NYC are as affordable as, say, Main Line Philly (albeit with higher taxes).


Scarsdale has nothing on NYC privates. Main Line Philly is nicer than Westchester, bigger lots and more civilized people.


But in Scarsdale you get a nice house, with space for all the kids and great schools and a decent commute
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 11:09     Subject: NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:3 kids is where the crazy property taxes of Westchester start to make a whole lot of sense. She can certainly find a house for around $1.5m with an easy train commute and great schools and local services. If anything many nice NYC burbs are undervalued due to the vast majority of pre-Covid price booms going to city properties instead. It’s crazy that houses in Scarsdale with the best schools in the country 25 minutes to NYC are as affordable as, say, Main Line Philly (albeit with higher taxes).


Scarsdale has nothing on NYC privates. Main Line Philly is nicer than Westchester, bigger lots and more civilized people.


Amen. Agree 100%. Cannot be said loudly enough.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 11:07     Subject: Re:NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. I'm new to how lawyers get paid. They don't create anything. Why are new lawyers getting paid $850,000 a year and complaining about it? I don't feel like they're creating anything of value. These kind of salaries seem like a tax on the people that actually do things and create things. This entire discussion reads like a bunch of parasites discussing their next victim. A completely BS profession.


She’s not a new lawyer but a new partner. And may have 300K in educational debt. Plus 850 is not her salary. If you, for instance, are a normal emlpllyee making 100K salary, your full roll up is probably more like 160 with employer side taxes and benefits. Plus she needs to pay into the capital account at her firm. So 850 as a law firm partner is more like 600 or so as an employee at a normal place. But I agree law firm partners are ridiculously overcompensated in many places. And NYC is ridiculously expensive for anyone. Both things are true.


Her monthly draw is 21k— there’s a big gap between that and 850 or even 600.


Monthly take-home of just $21,000 for a family of 5 living in Manhattan probably qualifies for welfare assistance, free day care, and other benefits. This family has a chance if they take at least one meal a day at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 10:29     Subject: NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:3 kids is where the crazy property taxes of Westchester start to make a whole lot of sense. She can certainly find a house for around $1.5m with an easy train commute and great schools and local services. If anything many nice NYC burbs are undervalued due to the vast majority of pre-Covid price booms going to city properties instead. It’s crazy that houses in Scarsdale with the best schools in the country 25 minutes to NYC are as affordable as, say, Main Line Philly (albeit with higher taxes).


Scarsdale has nothing on NYC privates. Main Line Philly is nicer than Westchester, bigger lots and more civilized people.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 10:27     Subject: Re:NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. I'm new to how lawyers get paid. They don't create anything. Why are new lawyers getting paid $850,000 a year and complaining about it? I don't feel like they're creating anything of value. These kind of salaries seem like a tax on the people that actually do things and create things. This entire discussion reads like a bunch of parasites discussing their next victim. A completely BS profession.


Are you 12 or just dumb? Ever heard of rule of law? You need lawyers for that to happen.


Being a corporate attorney has little to do with the "rule of law." It has to do with papering over transactions and fund formation where the bankers and F500 executives make more and work fewer hours than big law partners. Corporate law is glorified paralegal work. No sympathy for OP here. You chose to live in one of the most expensive cities in the world and you will always be cut out of the lifestyle you think you are entitled to, which goes to the financiers and those with family money.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 09:57     Subject: Re:NYC law partner w/ kids: "$850K gross is not enough to live on"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. I'm new to how lawyers get paid. They don't create anything. Why are new lawyers getting paid $850,000 a year and complaining about it? I don't feel like they're creating anything of value. These kind of salaries seem like a tax on the people that actually do things and create things. This entire discussion reads like a bunch of parasites discussing their next victim. A completely BS profession.


She’s not a new lawyer but a new partner. And may have 300K in educational debt. Plus 850 is not her salary. If you, for instance, are a normal emlpllyee making 100K salary, your full roll up is probably more like 160 with employer side taxes and benefits. Plus she needs to pay into the capital account at her firm. So 850 as a law firm partner is more like 600 or so as an employee at a normal place. But I agree law firm partners are ridiculously overcompensated in many places. And NYC is ridiculously expensive for anyone. Both things are true.


Her monthly draw is 21k— there’s a big gap between that and 850 or even 600.