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Anonymous wrote:We really have to be careful who we call our friends. OP is a prime example. OP, from the very first post, and every single person you have responded to after that, has consisted of shit-talking about your "friend." I don't care if my friend made 3x as much as me; if she asked me to purchase something, I would do it, no questions asked. Sounds like you have been helping this "friend" for many years, but there's a lot of bitterness behind it. I know that my friend would only ask for something if she was in a position of really needing my help. I would never feel anger or regret about it. We have a reciprocal relationship and have both helped each other in times of need. And if you really think she's asking as a way to take advantage of you, well, have you considered she doesn't think of you as a friend? You are definitely no friend of hers. You sound jealous, bitter, and obsessed. When my friend has successes, I am genuinely happy for her, and when she has failures, I hurt for her.

Definition of "snake in the grass" = OP.

I helped her get the job in the first place. I wrote her cover letter and let her borrow my purse (not returned) for the interview. I am not envious. You don’t know the half of it. I am curious and shocked by the turn of events and other things that happened where she even considered a GoFundMe page and family, her ex , and I intervened and talked her down from it only to find out she wasn’t broke at all. As I said, there’s other stuff that went on that I don’t want to describe in detail as that’s not my general concern. I suspect she’s a master manipulator who is using her boss the same way she’s used all of us. She also told my bf I may have a thing with her ex all because her ex messaged me with concern about her erratic behavior. Again, she has a history of doing these things and shutting people out when cornered and doesn’t want to get tested for bipolar disorder which is what her parents want.

This is about entry level admin gigs where the starting pay is 100k+ but since you wanted more info, there you go

Well you helped her get the job, you know exactly how to get one. Go get your own.

I guess I’ll have to write cover letters sucking up to each corporation and during calls, tell them my future plans are to stay with them and help them grow. I didn’t know going to grad school was a net minus for hiring managers.

It is if the job will end because of grad school. For an admin job, they are going to see you using them as a stepping stone before grad school. So they will move on to someone who will likely be there for years. It's not a negative for a job where getting promotions and moving up is common.

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Anonymous wrote:Why on earth do you want to stay friends with her? I don't think you realize how badly you come across too.

Our families are neighbors so unfortunately I can’t avoid her even if I wanted to. She’s slandered my name to my parents as well and told them I am a user of drugs. I am not.

That pissed me off more than the cheating accusation. It closed the door to any reconciliation in my eyes.

I know you're young OP , but you can separate from this person. STOP spending your money on her. STOP being close to her. Ok, I get you can't completely get rid of her from your life, but you don't have to be this involved with her either. She will now become a peripheral character in your life.

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Anonymous wrote:Why on earth do you want to stay friends with her? I don't think you realize how badly you come across too.

Our families are neighbors so unfortunately I can’t avoid her even if I wanted to. She’s slandered my name to my parents as well and told them I am a user of drugs. I am not.

That pissed me off more than the cheating accusation. It closed the door to any reconciliation in my eyes.

You dislike her. You are not her friend.

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Anonymous wrote:100k ain't shit. The janitor and trash man make that get out of the 70s

I have an advanced degree and make 80k

In what? Recent cs grads are making 120k+

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Anonymous wrote:We really have to be careful who we call our friends. OP is a prime example. OP, from the very first post, and every single person you have responded to after that, has consisted of shit-talking about your "friend." I don't care if my friend made 3x as much as me; if she asked me to purchase something, I would do it, no questions asked. Sounds like you have been helping this "friend" for many years, but there's a lot of bitterness behind it. I know that my friend would only ask for something if she was in a position of really needing my help. I would never feel anger or regret about it. We have a reciprocal relationship and have both helped each other in times of need. And if you really think she's asking as a way to take advantage of you, well, have you considered she doesn't think of you as a friend? You are definitely no friend of hers. You sound jealous, bitter, and obsessed. When my friend has successes, I am genuinely happy for her, and when she has failures, I hurt for her.

Definition of "snake in the grass" = OP.

I helped her get the job in the first place. I wrote her cover letter and let her borrow my purse (not returned) for the interview. I am not envious. You don’t know the half of it. I am curious and shocked by the turn of events and other things that happened where she even considered a GoFundMe page and family, her ex , and I intervened and talked her down from it only to find out she wasn’t broke at all. As I said, there’s other stuff that went on that I don’t want to describe in detail as that’s not my general concern. I suspect she’s a master manipulator who is using her boss the same way she’s used all of us. She also told my bf I may have a thing with her ex all because her ex messaged me with concern about her erratic behavior. Again, she has a history of doing these things and shutting people out when cornered and doesn’t want to get tested for bipolar disorder which is what her parents want.

This is about entry level admin gigs where the starting pay is 100k+ but since you wanted more info, there you go

Well you helped her get the job, you know exactly how to get one. Go get your own.

I guess I’ll have to write cover letters sucking up to each corporation and during calls, tell them my future plans are to stay with them and help them grow. I didn’t know going to grad school was a net minus for hiring managers.

Great, good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:We really have to be careful who we call our friends. OP is a prime example. OP, from the very first post, and every single person you have responded to after that, has consisted of shit-talking about your "friend." I don't care if my friend made 3x as much as me; if she asked me to purchase something, I would do it, no questions asked. Sounds like you have been helping this "friend" for many years, but there's a lot of bitterness behind it. I know that my friend would only ask for something if she was in a position of really needing my help. I would never feel anger or regret about it. We have a reciprocal relationship and have both helped each other in times of need. And if you really think she's asking as a way to take advantage of you, well, have you considered she doesn't think of you as a friend? You are definitely no friend of hers. You sound jealous, bitter, and obsessed. When my friend has successes, I am genuinely happy for her, and when she has failures, I hurt for her.

Definition of "snake in the grass" = OP.

I helped her get the job in the first place. I wrote her cover letter and let her borrow my purse (not returned) for the interview. I am not envious. You don’t know the half of it. I am curious and shocked by the turn of events and other things that happened where she even considered a GoFundMe page and family, her ex , and I intervened and talked her down from it only to find out she wasn’t broke at all. As I said, there’s other stuff that went on that I don’t want to describe in detail as that’s not my general concern. I suspect she’s a master manipulator who is using her boss the same way she’s used all of us. She also told my bf I may have a thing with her ex all because her ex messaged me with concern about her erratic behavior. Again, she has a history of doing these things and shutting people out when cornered and doesn’t want to get tested for bipolar disorder which is what her parents want.

This is about entry level admin gigs where the starting pay is 100k+ but since you wanted more info, there you go

Well you helped her get the job, you know exactly how to get one. Go get your own.

I guess I’ll have to write cover letters sucking up to each corporation and during calls, tell them my future plans are to stay with them and help them grow. I didn’t know going to grad school was a net minus for hiring managers.

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth do you want to stay friends with her? I don't think you realize how badly you come across too.

Our families are neighbors so unfortunately I can’t avoid her even if I wanted to. She’s slandered my name to my parents as well and told them I am a user of drugs. I am not.

That pissed me off more than the cheating accusation. It closed the door to any reconciliation in my eyes.

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Anonymous wrote:We really have to be careful who we call our friends. OP is a prime example. OP, from the very first post, and every single person you have responded to after that, has consisted of shit-talking about your "friend." I don't care if my friend made 3x as much as me; if she asked me to purchase something, I would do it, no questions asked. Sounds like you have been helping this "friend" for many years, but there's a lot of bitterness behind it. I know that my friend would only ask for something if she was in a position of really needing my help. I would never feel anger or regret about it. We have a reciprocal relationship and have both helped each other in times of need. And if you really think she's asking as a way to take advantage of you, well, have you considered she doesn't think of you as a friend? You are definitely no friend of hers. You sound jealous, bitter, and obsessed. When my friend has successes, I am genuinely happy for her, and when she has failures, I hurt for her.

Definition of "snake in the grass" = OP.

I helped her get the job in the first place. I wrote her cover letter and let her borrow my purse (not returned) for the interview. I am not envious. You don’t know the half of it. I am curious and shocked by the turn of events and other things that happened where she even considered a GoFundMe page and family, her ex , and I intervened and talked her down from it only to find out she wasn’t broke at all. As I said, there’s other stuff that went on that I don’t want to describe in detail as that’s not my general concern. I suspect she’s a master manipulator who is using her boss the same way she’s used all of us. She also told my bf I may have a thing with her ex all because her ex messaged me with concern about her erratic behavior. Again, she has a history of doing these things and shutting people out when cornered and doesn’t want to get tested for bipolar disorder which is what her parents want.

This is about entry level admin gigs where the starting pay is 100k+ but since you wanted more info, there you go

Well you helped her get the job, you know exactly how to get one. Go get your own.

Why on earth do you want to stay friends with her? I don't think you realize how badly you come across too.

Anonymous wrote:We really have to be careful who we call our friends. OP is a prime example. OP, from the very first post, and every single person you have responded to after that, has consisted of shit-talking about your "friend." I don't care if my friend made 3x as much as me; if she asked me to purchase something, I would do it, no questions asked. Sounds like you have been helping this "friend" for many years, but there's a lot of bitterness behind it. I know that my friend would only ask for something if she was in a position of really needing my help. I would never feel anger or regret about it. We have a reciprocal relationship and have both helped each other in times of need. And if you really think she's asking as a way to take advantage of you, well, have you considered she doesn't think of you as a friend? You are definitely no friend of hers. You sound jealous, bitter, and obsessed. When my friend has successes, I am genuinely happy for her, and when she has failures, I hurt for her.

Definition of "snake in the grass" = OP.

I helped her get the job in the first place. I wrote her cover letter and let her borrow my purse (not returned) for the interview. I am not envious. You don’t know the half of it. I am curious and shocked by the turn of events and other things that happened where she even considered a GoFundMe page and family, her ex , and I intervened and talked her down from it only to find out she wasn’t broke at all. As I said, there’s other stuff that went on that I don’t want to describe in detail as that’s not my general concern. I suspect she’s a master manipulator who is using her boss the same way she’s used all of us. She also told my bf I may have a thing with her ex all because her ex messaged me with concern about her erratic behavior. Again, she has a history of doing these things and shutting people out when cornered and doesn’t want to get tested for bipolar disorder which is what her parents want.

This is about entry level admin gigs where the starting pay is 100k+ but since you wanted more info, there you go

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Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t have a college degree FYI. She watches Netflix and barely does her work. Is this the new trend? How do you people get these high paying administrative gigs?

I'm an EA making six figures without a bachelor's who watches a lot of Netflix. I do all my work that comes in, in a timely fashion. I pause Netflix or whatever I'm watching, and switch to music when doing work. But a lot of time I'm just monitoring my Inbox.

How do you get into a cushy role like this? I can pay my entire grad program tuition with a FT job salary like this.

Another one is “digital marketing strategist”. It’s one of those other cushy roles that pays slackers well.

I am not the PP, but I was an EA who topped out at 110k. What is described above is basically how I did it for 10 years, with the last 3 years being "grad school" instead of "Netflix." I got the job through a friend from college who worked in the billing department of a BigLaw firm. I started out as a general admin assistant and worked really hard to find a permanent assignment with someone I liked working with. The work isn't difficult, but it can be both stressful and time-consuming. A lot of that depends on where you work and who you work with. I worked for people initially who had terrible boundaries and required a lot of after hours work or personal assistant work vs. administrative assistant work during the day. Ultimately, I was the EA of 2 partners in slower practice areas. I was responsible for more, but because it really was "monitoring inbox" a lot of the time, I went to grad school. I was up front with my boss the whole time because he and I had a good relationship. I finished school and helped him essentially transition my job out. The firm wasn't using the 1 assistant:2-3 attorneys anymore at that point.

As to how I got the role, when I did the job, it required a college degree, a good typing test score, and solid references. It was pre-2008 collapse so everyone was still going great guns hiring a ton of people. I doubt anyone would be able to replicate the trajectory since "legal secretary" is becoming less common and "executive assistants" can mean a lot of different stuff depending on company culture.

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Anonymous wrote:How does one luck up into a job like this if they plan to go to grad school? Is the key to not say you have any plans?

That seems to be the people getting ahead with the pay.

OP, when you’re good at the job, they pay for your grad school. Though I’m guessing this might be hard for you to grasp….

The people getting this pay from my generation aren’t necessarily great at the jobs. They are on Snapchat and making TikToks all day, and they aren’t working their way up the corporate ladder to six figures+ either . They are getting this as starting pay.

There is a secret hack-perhaps it’s a cover letter and the indication of permanency that eases hiring managers. Telling your future career goals or having future goals works against a person apparently.

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Anonymous wrote:This doesn’t surprise me. Good EAs are hard to come by.

She took a month off 4 months after starting due to an ADHD diagnosis and COVID but then I saw her at a bar in Georgetown.

OK well you were at a bar in Georgetown too.

Well, I was shocked to see her there as I was concerned about her not answering her calls with what she called “super bad case of COVID” and Instacarted some groceries and ordered food for her that she requested from me due to her organization “freezing her pay’ due to the time off right after starting her job .

I will be honest here. I am upset I am in an administrative capacity and don’t make nearly as much as her and that she knows I make less and always waits for me to pay for things.

So start looking for a better job for yourself rather than being bitter that she has a good job.

We really have to be careful who we call our friends. OP is a prime example. OP, from the very first post, and every single person you have responded to after that, has consisted of shit-talking about your "friend." I don't care if my friend made 3x as much as me; if she asked me to purchase something, I would do it, no questions asked. Sounds like you have been helping this "friend" for many years, but there's a lot of bitterness behind it. I know that my friend would only ask for something if she was in a position of really needing my help. I would never feel anger or regret about it. We have a reciprocal relationship and have both helped each other in times of need. And if you really think she's asking as a way to take advantage of you, well, have you considered she doesn't think of you as a friend? You are definitely no friend of hers. You sound jealous, bitter, and obsessed. When my friend has successes, I am genuinely happy for her, and when she has failures, I hurt for her.

Definition of "snake in the grass" = OP.

Anonymous wrote:i am an admin that hustles very hard and makes $200k

but its a tough job these days with the internet, email, cell phones, signal.... ugh...

Do you believe you deserve about the same pay as a family medicine physician or the President?