Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 19:18     Subject: Re:50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:It happens. I know a psychiatrist in his mid-50s who left his wife last year for a 23-year-old employee. They had to keep it under wraps (Virginia), but they're still going strong one year later, and he's getting ready to introduce her to the kids.

People are trying to stay out of it and let them deal with it. It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent, and you would think a psychiatrist in particular would understand this. But the heart wants what the heart wants.


The worst part is 23 year olds are allowed to drive and vote, and we even put them in nuclear missile silos with the launch codes!
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 18:55     Subject: Re:50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.


I'm only in my 40s, but have all my hair, am tall, lift weights and have other active hobbies. I have a cool sounding career with travel. I am repeatedly told by women I date that that I treat them much better than the guys their own age do. This isn't buying things, it's listening and knowing how to navigate a relationship so that the woman you sleep beside feels comfortable in the relationship.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 18:08     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else noticed that large age gaps are more common in foreign countries? Or that here in America, relationships with large age gaps often involve foreign women (but not necessarily a wealth gap)? I think this is true but I'm not positive. It's just an impression I have.


The most common theme I’ve seen with large age gap relationships is the combination of a very outgoing woman and socially stunted but intellectual man.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 17:52     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?


Probably low income and self esteem and high debt and high life.

more than likely, they have daddy issues.


These are the best kind.


Ew.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 17:43     Subject: Re:50+ men with 20s and 30s women
The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 17:17     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?


Probably low income and self esteem and high debt and high life.

more than likely, they have daddy issues.


These are the best kind.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 16:56     Subject: Re:50+ men with 20s and 30s women
It happens. I know a psychiatrist in his mid-50s who left his wife last year for a 23-year-old employee. They had to keep it under wraps (Virginia), but they're still going strong one year later, and he's getting ready to introduce her to the kids.

People are trying to stay out of it and let them deal with it. It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent, and you would think a psychiatrist in particular would understand this. But the heart wants what the heart wants.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 15:15     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?


Probably low income and self esteem and high debt and high life.


There is a woman in our neighborhood who looks like a model and married a widow with 3 kids. She is like an au pair. I always wonder if she is paid.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 15:12     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?


Probably low income and self esteem and high debt and high life.

more than likely, they have daddy issues.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 15:11     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?


Probably low income and self esteem and high debt and high life.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 15:08     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:I am sure most women in their 20s are not interested in a man in his 40s. But there are enough attractive ones in the DC area who do, that I am able to regularly date and have sex. The relationships never last, but that’s not really the point.


It kinda is.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 15:01     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:And what are these 20 somethings like?

Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average?


My gf is 25, 5'8", very pretty (a "9"), thin (flat stomach), long hair. She is one of the top 5 prettiest women I have ever been with.


I don’t know how old you are, PP, but if you’re indeed 50+ AND have no intentions of settling down with her and giving her babies, then you are a selfish prick. At 25 she is at her absolute prime and should be aggressively filtering out men like you so that she can have a stable family with a good man one day.

Youth is so, so fleeting. This is her time, don’t be her biggest regret once she’s older and the dating pool starts to dry up for her.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 13:31     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Things change after 35, ticking clocks pushes people to become desperate and compromise.


But still don’t want old sperm = birth defects or health problems arise with child when become young adult.


Is that true? I am genuinely asking. I am married with 4 kids and this is my first time hearing about this.

yes it's true.

https://www.nbcnews.com/health/parenting/health-risks-babies-older-fathers-al-pacino-expecting-child-rcna87237

American Urological Association and American Society for Reproductive Medicine jointly recommend that doctors talk to men ages 40 and up about the increased risk of adverse health outcomes in their offspring.

"Men should be aware that they, too, go through the same reproductive aging cycle as women, despite the fact that they don't have menopause,

A 2019 study determined that a father's age has a significant impact on a child's health and development. The study found that babies born to older fathers had an increased risk of cleft lip or palate, heart defects, autism, schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. Additional research suggests that advanced paternal age is moderately associated with the most common form of childhood leukemia and linked to a slightly elevated risk of pediatric non-Hodgkin lymphoma.

In 2018, researchers at Stanford University found that babies born to fathers ages 45 or older were 18% more likely to have seizures and 14% more likely to be born premature compared with babies born to fathers ages 25 to 34.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 13:25     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Things change after 35, ticking clocks pushes people to become desperate and compromise.


But still don’t want old sperm = birth defects or health problems arise with child when become young adult.


Is that true? I am genuinely asking. I am married with 4 kids and this is my first time hearing about this.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2024 07:51     Subject: 50+ men with 20s and 30s women
Anonymous wrote:Things change after 35, ticking clocks pushes people to become desperate and compromise.


Not if they are chosen childfree.😀👍