You’re infantilizing your child. Stop with the 34 month nonesense

You guys are really perpetuating this problem to an extreme degree! Please read your own post and see that!!

No food after dinner. Only water. Cry it out. Your child is 3. My child slept through the night at 13 weeks - not because she is amazing, but because we sleep trained. Your child is capable of this and so are you.

Anonymous wrote:I actually read it as 34 years. I thought this was a couple situation. (:

Exactly.

Your kid is 3. The fact that you are titling your thread in months tells me everything I need to know about why you are having this problem…

Omfg tell him good night and lock the door. Seriously I shudder to think how out of control other aspects of your family are.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please say your kid is 3 years old. Citing your kid’s age in months stops around 18 mos

+1

Seriously. Wtf did I just read. Milk and pouches in the middle of the night?! For a "34 month"...sorry, three year old? Your child is more than old enough to be sleeping through the night without waking up for food.

Your son is almost 3

It sounds like both mom and dad are reinforcing wake ups.

He doesn’t need food or milk in the middle of the night. You guys should not do that at all!!! Waking up at night should result in a simple “It’s time for sleep” and walk him back to bed. You do not engage. You are a broken record and “It’s time for sleep” is your response to anything your son says. Save all your cuddles, play and conversation for the daytime. Your son will be okay! Actually more than okay—he will thrive with good sleep!

I actually read it as 34 years. I thought this was a couple situation. (:

No more milk or food at night. You’re just rewarding this and it’s not healthy (both in terms of rest, food habits, teeth, and fostering maturity). Be kind, give water, and keep any nighttime tending as short as possible. He’s way too old for this.

Pulls out calculator…

If you want a nice fat bill at the dentist, by all means keep feeding him pouches and milk all night.

Dad needs to keep doing wake ups. Do NOT switch it up. Kids this age crave boundaries and they crave consistency. They are trying to learn and understand about their world.

Mom needs to learn how to set limits. Several food pouches in the middle of the night? I've been trolling DCUM for a long time, and this is the first time I've ever heard this.

Anonymous wrote:Please say your kid is 3 years old. Citing your kid’s age in months stops around 18 mos

+1

Please say your kid is 3 years old. Citing your kid’s age in months stops around 18 mos

My son has never really been a good sleeper. We have yet to get to a point where we are confident that he is going to sleep through the night. I do however see a pattern that gives me some hope. From my perspective when mom is waking up in the middle of the night to help the boy when he wakes up crying, the wakeups are longer and more frequent. But when dad wakes up to help him the wakeups are shorter and less frequent. Dad has been waking up with him over about the last month and He's been sleeping through the night more often, waking up later in the morning (generally). Over the past year or so, We have switched Who does the night shift, With similar results.

[ I have a few theories as to why this is:
A. Mom had a tendency to give him what he wanted. Toward the end of her last night shift, It would be several of those baby food pouches throughout the night. Dad does rely on 1 small cup of milk most nights.
B. He just likes Mom better and wants cuddles at night. While the wakeups were more frequent and longer he would typically be calmer than with dad.
]

This leads me to my dilemma. While dad Seems to making progress "on paper", Each wake up begins with at least a few minutes of crying and screaming for mom. In general I find the whole situation very tolerable,But I worry about what we are doing ( if anything ) to the boy.
Any thoughts on that?

Should we periodically rotate between mom and dad To give him his mom "fix"? Or do we Continue to believe that we are making progress and just stick with dad?


Thanks!