Anonymous wrote:DD has played on the top team for several years at an ECNL club. She is now one year away from ECNL. Do most of the girls on the top teams generally just continue on to ECNL or will it be a huge process through tryouts where nobody is an incumbent? On the top team, the core has been together for a long time only a few have truly been dropped, some have moved away or gone to another club and good players from outside have been added here and there but mostly the girls have just continued on the top team from the prior years. Is that the case also with ECNL if we plan to stay at the same club?
Our DD is now in high school. For her ECNL team, the core group of starters from U12 and younger has largely been replaced. Several still start, but the majority are bench players or are no longer on the team. This did not all happen at U13. A number of new girls joined that year, but I also think there is a fair amount of movement in 8th and 9th grade. Some girls are fine staying with their old clubs at U13 and 14 - and avoid all the travel - before moving at U15 and 16 to be on a team that is perceived to provide a better platform for college recruiting.
It is hard not to stress about this, but you just have to enjoy each season. If it doesn’t work out at your particular team, your DD will find another place to play and will be happy. Just try to enjoy her journey and not stress too much about it. It will be over sooner than you realize, and you will care less about who was on which team and their results, and will care more about her experience, the friendships made, the lessons learned, and all of those car rides together where your DD and you can talk about stuff. If that continues through college, then great. If it ends after high school, that too will be great.