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Anonymous wrote:60

+1.

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My BFF went fully grey at 45 and honestly, she looked awful. Now she’s back to an ashy blond at 51 and looks much younger. I have very dark brown hair and know I’m going to have to lighten up some day because my skin tone isn’t going to work well with the color any longer. My mom is in her young 80s and still doing a salt and pepper kind of thing. MIL just now letting it go grey at 84. A very personal decision is what I’m getting at! Age discrimination in the workplace is very real, so if you’re in a career where it matters, I’d keep coloring it.

I know several women who went fully gray (for natural reasons) in college. So I say whatever.

They are going to have to pry the L’Oreal excellence cream for my cold dead hands.

Signed, 47 year old brunette who realizes I will have to keep doing this every 3 to 4 weeks for the next million years of my life.

Anonymous wrote:60

+1.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been mostly grey since 40. I have dyed it from time to time, but hate it and what it does to my hair. Weirdly, my eyebrows are still dark and I am now 57.

I will add, my Dad was bald before he was 30. So grey isn’t the end.

I’ve been mostly grey since 40. I have dyed it from time to time, but hate it and what it does to my hair. Weirdly, my eyebrows are still dark and I am now 57.

My mother started getting white and grey hairs at 16, apparently. I've no memory of her without pepper and salt hair. My father's first white hairs were after 40, and even now in his 70s he's still doesn't have a lot.

They've always looked funny together

My 8th grade boyfriend was fully gray at 16 and it was stunning.

I wish I’d go grey, as I have a baby face and it would add some gravitas. -42

My dad’s side, most everyone was grey between 18-20, so that seems normal to me.

I stopped dying at 36 and had nice silver hair. I felt like people gave me more respect but found me less likable. Back to dyeing in my 40s.

Honestly don’t think there is a set age.
It’s all about how you feel.

I continued to dye my hair for years just because I was worried about ageism in my career. I was hanging on until retirement this year to stop dying it and once the pandemic came I realized I could stop dying it immediately - people would get why my gray hair was growing in.

I would never have dyed it to begin with if I weren't worried about a job. I know that's not of much help to you, OP, because you want to hear from people who wanted to dye their hair for part of their adult life and decided when they were ready to stop. But, you asked, and there it is! Good luck with your decision!

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Yes yes, I know there are no rules and I can do what I want.

That said, I’m 41 and would already be fully gray if I didn’t color and highlight my hair. I want to stop as soon as it would be socially acceptable to both my husband and my daughters, who are 13 and 10. I don’t want to embarrass them or look way older than my husband who of course is a handsome salt and pepper.

Do you think it’s an age or a life stage? After kids finish college? After we retire? I’m a teacher so I don’t feel it affects my professional prospects.

WDYT? (Please be kind)