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Anonymous wrote:I like to send things to my grandkids occasionally. Often they are small items or good bargains, like a tshirt or book, and the cost to ship would be as much as the item itself! So I order as store pickup rather than directly shipping to their house and let my daughter and DIL know so they can pick it up. I only do this for stores relatively close to them, it's not like they are an hour away.

Well I thought this was fine but I ordered a couple things for the start of school and my son contacts me yesterday saying to please stop because his wife does not "have time" to pickup up the items before school starts. Apparently the store closes too early to go in the evening and even though she teleworks can't find the time to go at lunch? I really don't get how no one wants to shop in a store anymore! I had to take my kids everywhere in person when they were little. Should I just stop sending gifts and wait until the holidays? Or only order from stores that offer curbside pickup so they don't have to physically go in?

Don’t redo this either, good grief.

+1 Do not do this either, it's still putting extra work on them. If you must constantly send them small stuff just get from Amazon for the free shipping. BTW, are you sure they are happy with all these "small items"? Can you give us an example of the type of stuff you're sending?

Order from places that have free shipping..

I would HATE this. Either ship it to me directly or don't send it at all.

Why the f$& doesn’t your SON have time to pick them up?

I would be so annoyed with this. From the imposition on my life, to the fact that I don't like my kids getting little things that clutter up my life and are likely unnecessary to the notifications being sent to the DIL instead of your own child.

Nope, nope, nope

Instead of sending a gift, send a card with a note for your grandkids that can be read to them and a picture of yourself or something you saw that you think they would like.

So you think it's better for your son or his wife to spend time/gas going to pick up your eight dollar shirt than you paying for shipping? That's just putting the cost onto them. That's not a gift. That's a chore. How are you serious about this?

How often do you buy one item and make it so they have to go get it for you?

Stop. You should never have started this it is ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:I like to send things to my grandkids occasionally. Often they are small items or good bargains, like a tshirt or book, and the cost to ship would be as much as the item itself! So I order as store pickup rather than directly shipping to their house and let my daughter and DIL know so they can pick it up. I only do this for stores relatively close to them, it's not like they are an hour away.

Well I thought this was fine but I ordered a couple things for the start of school and my son contacts me yesterday saying to please stop because his wife does not "have time" to pickup up the items before school starts. Apparently the store closes too early to go in the evening and even though she teleworks can't find the time to go at lunch? I really don't get how no one wants to shop in a store anymore! I had to take my kids everywhere in person when they were little. Should I just stop sending gifts and wait until the holidays? Or only order from stores that offer curbside pickup so they don't have to physically go in?

Don’t redo this either, good grief.

They likely don't want what you are sending in the first place and now you are making them take the time to go to a store that they wouldn't otherwise go to to pick it up? My parents and inlaws send clothes the kids will never wear- we take a picture of them wearing it, text it with profuse thanks and then donate to good will. I would not want to actually have to drive to pick up the unwanted items

I know that you mean well and the gifts come from a place of love. But you are actually giving a chore, not a gift. Bundle your purchases to get free shipping or just stop. Working from home means working. It doesn’t mean that people have free rein to run all over town during work hours.

Your son asked you to stop. So stop.

You really don’t recognize how rude this is? If you can’t afford the shipping, don’t buy these “gifts.”

It's not a "gift" if it puts the recipient out. Either order from places with free shipping or pay the shipping charge. Sheesh.

I like to send things to my grandkids occasionally. Often they are small items or good bargains, like a tshirt or book, and the cost to ship would be as much as the item itself! So I order as store pickup rather than directly shipping to their house and let my daughter and DIL know so they can pick it up. I only do this for stores relatively close to them, it's not like they are an hour away.

Well I thought this was fine but I ordered a couple things for the start of school and my son contacts me yesterday saying to please stop because his wife does not "have time" to pickup up the items before school starts. Apparently the store closes too early to go in the evening and even though she teleworks can't find the time to go at lunch? I really don't get how no one wants to shop in a store anymore! I had to take my kids everywhere in person when they were little. Should I just stop sending gifts and wait until the holidays? Or only order from stores that offer curbside pickup so they don't have to physically go in?